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[UAoT] Fashion Contest Prize for Caporai (on Discord)!

Styanax Prime Concept Art by Liger Inuzuka

final thought - breaking the pride tradition and more than likely won't make a new piece. the top one from TDOV is all i'm making this year. i have my focus on other projects currently and i don't want to force a poster design. these came from a specific head space and my current head space is Very Tired lmao so i wanna work on other things. 👍

How many scales ? Yes.

Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.

She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.

I think the difficulties are when sex is more foundational to one person than the other, but not at the two extremes. Because at the extremes theres not really anything to reconcile I think. But when its differingly important and theres a libido gap, thats when its like, this isnt insurmountable probably, but how do we surmount it? And I dont have a good answer. I think it would help to identify what the foundational pillars of your relationship are, and focus on those. Is it share faith, do you love jogging together every evening, do you play videogames together, are you both passionate about local wildlife, what was it that brought you together to begin with, what do you admire about each other, focus on that. I dont think it will solve the sex mismatch, I dont know what will, but I think it might help you feel connected and valued and in sync in other ways, so it doesnt become all about the sex. Like thats one thing that is a tension and a frustration but its not everything. If you focus on the things that are foundational to you, that might be enough, or at least helpful, in keeping you together. Obviously it might not work I dont know of any more that might be helpful. Just this foundational parts of a relationship v "extras" is not a common framework that Ive seen. Ofc every relationship is different. This also isnt unique to ace folks, any couple can have a libido mismatch, just because, or due to menopause, or antidepressants, or stress levels etc. I dont know whats recommended for those situations.

Don't do this. Tone doesn't translate well in text, and if you don't have a rapport with that author, they are not going to interpret, 'You're a fucking bitch' as, 'Author I hate you for being so talented and making me feel so keenly.' They're going to interpret it as you being an asshole. You can shit talk with your friends because you have an established relationship with them and can distinguish between playful banter and genuine anger. You do not have this with a stranger, no matter how much you like their fics. You will have a much more pleasant time in fandom and not get cockblocked from interacting with your favorite writers if you remember this.

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btw Arthur and Eleanor are grey wolves, Quincy is a martial eagle, Amir is a mongoose, Aoi is an ermine and Lettie is a puma

the lowland kodan never really warmed up to raj.