Ah, see, the problem you're running into here is that you don't understand that Blake Whitaker, Gender Studies PhD, is simply working on a more advanced understanding of this stuff that you or I. She understands that there are actually five genders, not two.
These are: [Man], [Woman], [Gun], [Victim] and [Hero].
Men are the best gender to be; they're strong and society respects them and they provide for their families and all that stuff. Being a man is a very good thing to be, as long as you do manhood right and don't forfeit it by acting gay or effeminate like you're trying to be a woman instead. Proper manhood is very easy to lose, which makes sense, because it's valuable and gets the most benefits of any sex, so of course you need to put a lot of work into maintaining it. Men are somewhat innately dangerous, because they're strong and one of their roles is to discipline their family if any of them break the rules, but a proper man is meant to use that strength primarily to protect and provide.
Womanhood is, similarly to manhood, both a privilege that can be lost and also a positive ideal to aspire to that is rewarding if you can live up to it. Being recognised as a woman and performing femininity correctly - that is to say, not trying to be a mannish dyke who wears trousers and plays baseball and hangs out with the boys - is fulfilling, even if women are weaker than men and need to be protected. Women are nurturers and carers who support their families and look pretty and beautiful. Blake has a lot of complicated feelings about the fact that she herself isn't a very good woman - she's performing the role as best she can, but she's not very pretty or good at caring for people. Still, she's trying, which makes her better than women who could be doing womanhood right but are choosing not to.
Guns hurt people. That's their entire and only function. A gun is a weapon that shoots projectiles out of a barrel that have no purpose except to cause pain, injury or death, and anything that fits that definition is a gun - memorise that, because it's very foundational to Blake's thinking. This is a fairly expansive definition - a mouth can be a barrel and words can be projectiles, if someone is determined enough to be a gun. Anyone can become a gun if they get their hands on one and are willing to hurt people, which is why America is the strongest country in the world, because they let anyone have guns as part of the Constitution. Guns are the strongest gender, even more so than men, but the only purpose they can put that strength towards is harm. Sometimes that can be a good thing, depending on the target of that harm, but guns are always dangerous and someone always suffers. All penises are guns, which means all men are at minimum gun-adjacent and sex is always an act of painful assault in which someone gets violently penetrated. Women put up with it because they have to in order to have babies. People who claim to enjoy it are lying or freaks. Nobody likes getting shot. If a gun/penis isn't involved, it's not sex, because sex is always a violent, distressing act of assault. Whatever lesbians do isn't sex, unless they go out and get a gun involved somehow, in which case one of them is assaulting the other.
Victims are the worst gender to be. Victims are targets. Victims are prey. Anyone's allowed to hurt a victim and it's their job and societal role to just take it and suffer for their bad choices, unless and until they turn themselves into a gun and hurt other people instead. Victimhood is always either inflicted or deserved; either a gun has inflicted victimhood on you through violence or you have broken the rules in some way and made yourself a victim, in which case it's your fault. It's dangerously easy to do this - performing manhood or womanhood wrong, for instance, means you're failing to live up to your assigned role on purpose and thereby making yourself a victim of society, so any negative reactions to you are deserved and you can't complain about them. Gay men who bottom are victims by definition because they deliberately go out trying to get shot, and women are always victim-adjacent just like men are gun-adjacent, because it's their job as decreed by God (as deserved punishment for Eve's original sin) to perpetuate the human species by letting men have sex with them and then having babies. Some liberal enclaves claim that they're accepting and open-minded and nobody is a victim there, but they're a) deluded, because the whole community will be victimised by the first gun that shows up because they won't be able to defend themselves, and b) probably lying to lure people in when there are actually guns abusing victims behind closed doors like normal.
(As an aside, Blake also considers education to be inherently abusive, which makes teaching into an act of gun violence. "We won't hurt you," say the liars who think that school and therapy and socialization are good things to force people to do and anyone who says no is labeled insane and locked up and tortured until they surrender. She will not be acknowledging that perhaps stabbing someone with a pen and then fleeing into traffic because she didn't want to put on a sweater might have been the sort of thing you need to get a professional to help with. Stop asking.)
Heroes are the hardest gender to be. It's a better experience to be a man, because they get more privileges and benefits, but heroism is the morally best one, standing at the third point of a triangle defined by Gun and Victim. Heroes are sexless beings who protect others and do good in the name of God, earning their place in Heaven. It's a gender that involves almost as much suffering as a victim, you're just doing it to save others; an act of martyrdom rather than a punishment. Jesus was the archetypal hero, who defined the gender by saving everyone. Heroes always run the risk of falling to gunhood, because heroism has to include violence and hurting people or they're completely ineffectual (and thus save nobody, and thus aren't heroic). You can't entirely give up your birth gender to just be a hero, even if you really want to, but it's okay to give up parts of being a man or woman, like the requirement to have babies, in order to better devote yourself to God like a priest or a nun does.
This is all pretty obvious stuff, honestly; it's self-evident to anyone who looks around and pays attention. You shouldn't even really need to ask, but Blake is a hero now, so she's generously explained it all for you and now you understand your role and the basic stuff about how the world works that kids should have learned by, like, ten. Unfortunately, Blake doesn't understand that she understands this, so her explanation only used the words "man" and "woman" even when she was talking about guns, victims, heroes or some combination thereof, thereby making her sound extremely confusing, self-contradictory and borderline insane. She will expect you to work it out and understand her anyway and will not be clarifying further.
If you have any further questions, she'll kind of glare at you from under her fringe while eating chicken nuggets and snap something about "how stupid do you have to be not to understand something as basic as that", but then she'll explain, because you're obviously just struggling with the basic facts of life, so feel free to ask and I'll relay her answers.
