AdvancedGalaxy_23

I remember back in late 2021-early 2022 I was a huge self shipper in the DCA fandom. I had always found comfort in the way the community would perceive sun as a joyful caring partner and moon as someone to help work out issues with or maybe just chill out after a rough day. Sometimes I would see myself in their shoes when they were shipped together, sometimes I would see myself as Y/N instead. It was amazing to feel loved by them and to love them for who they were. Back when the selfshipping with sun and moon was more popular nobody complained when others drew themselves with the two because we had all seen ourselves in those people and found it nice that people made art sharing a character we all loved. I feel as though the yumeshipping community in tiktok had flipped this idea due to the people I come across. As I scroll on tiktok I will find people who are nonsharing in many ways and even softsharing but will still say "doubles DNI". This community is full of people who either "fake yumeshipping" to cause drama and anger others within or people who don't understand the true joy of seeing your favorite character/FO being drawn with a Y/N. I do understand yumeshipping is supposed to be different from selfshipping but with both having a similar basis, I believe the only difference is the toxicity that people will spread and share just to "keep a F/O to themselves". From what I understand people consider yumeshipping as a coping mechanism but I personally hardly see a difference as selfshipping is both fun and/or could be a coping mechanism for some. I hope that someday people who yume with characters can have fun and enjoy the character without sounding like a sans fangirl from 2016. From a sun and moon selfshipper to any non-toxic yume, your F/O loves you. Treat others (Including your doubles) with respect. Remember to take care of yourself. If my understanding of anything like this is uncorrect or you'd like to educate me on more please do so!

(after years of battling doctors and autistic friends saying im autistic its now final)

Xander is a Trans masc (He/It), Pansexual. He is about 23 years old. He has Autism and ADHD. He was created to reflect my personal views on life and how we should keep on going; no matter how hard things may get there will always be a way out and something good in the end. Xander believes in you, stay strong friend.