The Eternal Alchemy wants you to Stop

[ID: a photo of a post from tumblr user @eboymyers that reads “newsflash asexuals but “aspec” is a term for autistic people and not wanting to fuck isn’t a sexuality”

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Now usually I would reblog but it seems I was blocked or something but uh...

I THE SUPREME AUTUSTIC AUTHORITY confirm that aspec has always and will always belong to the ace/arospec community.

every other orientation is allowed to joke like that but tbh it seems like as soon as aces make their own jokes and funny comments about themselves and their community, you guys suddenly drop what you do to be like “lmao look at this guy”. it’s really upsetting, especially when the jokes are harmless (and most of the time the harmful ones are obviously trolls or kids who don’t know better) and silly you all literally shit over yourselves to make fun of people who are just… celebrating their orientation.

(I unfortunately had the displeasure to talk to them personally so take it from me, I blocked them because I grew tired of their bs)

Yesterday my landlord verbally came and told me that he is going to evict me because of noise complaints. It all started a few nights ago. I was afraid for my safety when my abusive ex-boyfriend showed up at my place and we got into a fight. The neighbours ended up calling the police and complaining to my landlord about the noise. I am disabled so it’s extremely difficult to survive at a shelter. They don’t provide personal support workers to help with activities of daily living.

If you could help me out that would be amazing, I desperately need to find a new place. Even if I can convince him not to evict me, I want to move as my abusive ex now knows where I live. I feel my safety is in jeopardy. Thanks.

I’m aiming to collect $550 for first and last months rent in a rooming house in the area. I have money left over from my last donation post so I’m using that towards a new place.

“this ace person said they were raped by a partner for their asexuality but tbh it wasn’t bc of that, I know more about it than they do.”

“ace people who have had sex are all rape victims without exception bc aces can’t ever really consent.”

“ace people who have sex think they’re more pure than non-ace people who have dirty non-ace sex.”

The term you’re confusing a-spec for is probably ASD

Autism Spectrum Disorder

Because, yes, autism is a spectrum

But it’s always been called the autism spectrum and literally no-one says “a-spec” to refer to the autism spectrum

Much like autism, asexuality and aromanticism are ALSO spectrums

So together they are “a-spec” and individually they are “ace-spec” and “aro-spec”

Practically every exclusionist I’ve ever seen has suffered from a very nasty case of “omniscience”

Ya’ll literally think you know everything in the world.

Like how their favorite thing to claim is that “modern society is okay with a-specs, aphobia doesn’t exist” like

How do you… know??

Aren’t most of ya’ll LGBT?? You guys arent exactly a part of “Straight Society”

I find it hard to believe that you spend your free time going around and asking homophobic straight people their opinions on aros and aces.

Your viewpoint on this pretty much comes from “I personally haven’t witnessed or observed any anti-aspec actions in the small personal bubble I call my world”, which is the same ridiculous “if I don’t see it it’s not real” viewpoint that climate change deniers use.

And instead of being like “Wait a minute, I don’t know everything, it’s entirely possible that Aphobia is far far more common than I believe it is, the fact that aces and aros aren’t being hunted down like animals right in front of me doesn’t actually mean anything”, Ya’ll went and found a bunch of people with the same viewpoint and went “Oh well, herd mentality, if we all think the same, we must be right!”

And then it’s like, what do you base this “no oppression” thing on?? Did ya’ll just google “what laws oppress aceys” and when you got nothing, started screaming that Aphobia isn’t real??

Or is it that you aren’t seeing articles about violence against a-spec’s? Because every time a minority member gets attacked, they report it, straight away, and it always gets published in a big news story!! #Sarcasm

And then because of these preconceived notions, your bias allows you to reject every personal story about aphobia that crosses your dash.

I’ve literally told an Exclusionist that my partner, who is gay and trans, was physically assaulted for being Ace, and they went “Are you SURE it wasn’t because they were gay and trans?”

Like ?????? Yes I’m fucking sure???

Or leftbians the sex offender.

Ace Pride is for everyone. Don’t forget that.

I also think it’s a disturbing trend that most exclusionists are younger than inclusionists. That kind of shows you that exclusionism of aspecs is a relatively new thing, and that the older generations of LGBT+ people recognize what exclusionism really is.

You’ll have a 26 year old bi inclusionist saying “I don’t support aspec exclusionism because it’s far too much like bi exclusionism, which I experienced when I was first coming out. Our community wasn’t built on shared experiences dealing with homophobia and transphobia–even lesbians, bisexuals, and trans people have all had their struggles with trying to be included and get a letter in the acronym. Aspecs are no different.”

And then you’ll have a 15 year old exclusionist tell them that they’re wrong because of a post they read on tumblr.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m 16. I’m by no means an LGBT+ veteran. But that’s a trend I’ve noticed, and one of the reasons I feel so strongly about allying myself with the inclusionist side. Like… I obviously don’t know everything about queer history. I want to learn from those who do, from those who have experienced it. I feel like it’s important.

I just really hope my fellow LGBT+ minors on the exclusionist side can realize this soon, too. For the sake of our future, like you said.

Erikson’s Stage Theory of Development- Adolescence as “identity vs. role confusion”: basically, adolescence is characterized by trying on different roles and identities to see what fits. my professor described this as “trying out possible selves in different contexts”. developmentally, the major questions a teenager is grappling with include who they are and where they belong, and figuring out how that is defined. hence aphobes’ fixation on rigidly defining categories of identity (who is or is not LGBTQIA+, and deciding who gets o use those terms)

adolescent egocentrism is the tendency of adolescents to take an egocentric view of the world. this leads to two related phenomenon: the adolescent’s fixation on an imaginary audience, which is exaggerated here on tumblr dot com thanks to the relative ease with which one can gain a large number of followers, and the personal fable or the tendency of the adolescent to feel that they are uniquely special (or uniquely troubled) and that everything is all about them. this is reflected in the belief that “ace discoursers” are “defending the community from the ~~~cishets~~~!!!” and truly believe they are doing Noble and Good Work by self-righteously excluding those they deem Insufficiently LGBTQ+. this tendency is also exhibited in “exclusionists” who make posts mocking aces so they can get validation from their buds, all on the basis of excluding members of an out-group. which…. hey, guess what? turns out that’s a form of relational aggression, which involves gossiping, backstabbing, and exclusion, and can be subtle and hard to detect. Relational aggression is behavior that, when performed en masse, absolutely constitutes bullying: 

As we can see here (link to the source via The Ophelia Project), the aggressive behavior exhibited by “exclusionists” absolutely qualifies as bullying. They often attack people en masse, exerting an imbalance of power over their targets by  flooding their inboxes with anon hate repeatedly. What’s most disturbing though is the realization that the kind of behavior lobbied against aces on this site qualifies as abuse, according to criteria #3 on this chart. When aphobes suicide bait aces, especially others minors, they are engaging in what is not only bullying, but outright abuse.