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I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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He’s in the middle of a hunt, stabbing vampires and cutting their heads off but he has to stop to pick up the phone like “no yah- It’s fine. Just some vampires. What’s going on??”. They’re sneaking around and dean phone rings and blows their cover but he still ends up picking it up.

It extends to every day life. Sam and dean go out for some bro time? He’s picking up his phone. if his phones Dead he’ll make Sam call cas just to tell him they’re on their way home. Ask if he needs anything from the store. (As if the Angel who doesn’t eat will ever want anything from the store).

It also extends to women thinking Dean is some cheating bastard who also for some reason is still wrapped around his wifes(?) finger.

Picking up girls at a bar? about to have sex? Phone rings and his date asks “who’s Cas?” And he’s rushing to his phone to pick up.

“Sorry- I gotta get this. gimmie a sec. Hey Angel face! What goin on?.. Uhuh. Uhuh… Yah… Okay... don’t worry about it Angel, got it… yes- I’m sure! Don’t worry your pretty little head about it. I’ll pick it up on my way home. Okay… Yah… okay. See you, bye.” He doesn’t even look back when pulling back on his jean. “Sorry, gotta go! My friend wants me to pick up some food for the kid.”

“Kid?! You have a wife and kid?”

Whereas Cas who’s entire existence is defined by strict loyalty just gives all of that to Dean and doesn’t question why because that’s what he *does*. And I think he has sexual fantasies about Dean but doesn’t see them as fantasies, he’s just trying to imagine all the sex stuff Dean gets up to because Dean is the person who’s subject to his loyalty. Like he’s sooooo repressed about it. Until he becomes human and experiences human desire which is so much more potent and then he’s like “oh fuck” and from there on out sort of unpacks his relationship w Dean with the lens that it’s not just friendship or loyalty which drives their relationship. Which is why he’s the one who confesses. Because as soon as he realizes that he sees Dean that way he’s not able to stow away his attraction in a little box marked “DO NOT OPEN” like Dean is.

Dean Winchester canonically thinking Cas is adorable when he’s asleep in the back of the impala.

Dean Winchester canonically getting angry in the car until Cas innocently looks startled and asks if he’s angry, making him lower his voice and calm down to keep Cas feeling alright.

Dean Winchester canonically needing a “big win” and that win turning out to be Cas.

Dean Winchester canonically referring to people in the endverse as “friends. Cas too”

Dean Winchester canonically panicking when learning Cas had sex with a woman.

Dean Winchester canonically not minding Cas’ hand on him and proximity to him right up until he realises lucifer is possessing him.

Dean Winchester canonically having a VERY different reaction to Sam when they see Cas dressed as a doctor.

but irregardless it, to me, makes him just that bit more Flavorful, adds more context to his visible need to help the downtrodden get their dues, especially against people using the rigged system to their benefit. and in WUDM it gives his dislike of the church more substance than "reddity atheist" (i have No love for the church myself but a more nuanced viewpoint on why someone might feel that way is always more innteresting).

like wdym your years-long homoerotic situationship spits in your face “we’re friends. we’re friends” and WITHOUT MISSING A BEAT you just hit him with “well we used to be best friends”

wdym he asked “what did you think? that we would never get girlfriends and spend the rest of our lives in my basement playing dnd together” and you look that man dead in the eye and say YES. YES I DID

wdym your #1 opp pulls up for the first time in 18 months just to aura farm in your face about how you’re a lonely self-hating gay loser whose friends he’s about to casually murder in front of you and you say hold my beer. and unlock psychic powers through queer self acceptance

Let's look at the sequence below:

First she sees the dynamic between Mike and Will and then Robin notices how they interact with each other immediately.

I mean, they're literally flirting here, and Will is relaxed and smiling and happy with Mike.

But the moment Mike leaves, Will literally panics. And, through Robin's POV, we see how terrified, nervous, anxious, and probably wondering if he is doing the right thing or ruining everything with the boy he LOVES ABOVE ALL ELSE. It's Robin who sees the FEAR in Will, fear of being himself, fear of loving, fear of opening up to someone like that.

And here we see her RECOGNIZING HERSELF in the face of this fear. She sees her past self reflected in Will. She literally swallows hard, probably remembering how difficult it was for her to deal with her issues and acceptance alone. Then she decides to try to help him overcome this fear, to accept that it's beautiful who Will is.

Robin gave the speech to Will not because she saw Mike's rejection, but because she saw Will's FEAR about himself. She saw herself in Will and said exactly what she would have liked to hear when she realized she was in love with Thammy. The scene was never about Robin acknowledging the non-existence of any possible relationship between Will and Mike, but rather about her perceiving the FEAR that Will feels/felt for being who he was.

do you guys remember when a lot of us theorized this was will giving up and sacrificing himself? whole time it’s actually will finding his inner strength by thinking about how loved he is. by accepting who he is and gaining power from it.

he thinks of meeting mike, of hanging with him in mike’s basement. he thinks of drawing for jonathan and joyce. of building castle byers. he thinks of the things that make him special - his creativity, playfulness and wonder and whimsy.

he is an artist. he is a sorcerer in a hat and robe. he is a good friend. he’s sweet and sensitive and thoughtful. he is a son and a brother. he is queer. he is STRONGER because of all of these things.

october 13, 2025