ozangie (patron saint of SICKOS)

this is complicated because, with atla being a kids show, of course they would never make this A Thing in canon. however i dont think its farfetched to say it couldve happened, considering the fact that azula and ozai canonically have an emotionally incestuous relationship.

the way ozai treats her and the things he expects of her are completely inappropriate not only between a father and daughter but for a 14 year old girl. azula, a kid whod be in middle school, is treated like an adult by her father and the people around her. she doesnt see herself as a child or someone whos allowed/expected to be vulnerable and ask for help. ozai has made her believe that her worth is tied to how strong she is and what she can do with that strength for the fire nation, essentially "how good of a weapon can you be"

azula and her father are disturbingly close, hes the only person she looks up to; she worships him and does everything for him. ozai also places the idea in azulas head that she is Special, that she is his favorite, shes treated so "nicely" in a way that zuko isnt/doesnt deserve. you can argue that after her mother's disappearance, azula took her place as the fire lady. azula sees herself as someone whos worthy of being her fathers equal in terms of power over others, but who still needs to submit to him. this is what wouldve been expected of ozai's wife in that time period. and this is especially evident in the scene where ozai reveals to azula that she wouldnt be coming with him to ba sing se. "you cant treat me like this! you cant treat me like zuko!" -> you cant treat me like some weak child, like i dont deserve to rule by your side

all the emphasis on azula being by his side, and ozai crowning azula as the fire lord saying "i need you here to watch over the homeland. its a very important job i can only entrust to you" sounds less like father-daughter bonding and more like a marriage proposal, where the groom (Lol) is a megalomaniac who has stripped his daughter of her sense of self outside of what she can do for him, and the bride is a child who has been convinced that this is all a normal and good thing and the Ultimate Reward. of course all of this means JACK SHIT cuz immediately after he crowns himself as the phoenix king, leaving azula feeling abandoned, not only because its a "pity prize" and the title means nothing but also because her father doesnt want or need her to be his fire lady. and that the years she spent devoting herself to him and training and fighting and fucking up all her friendships were for nothing. which obviously is Noooot a normal way for a child to feel about their father at all

If anyone else did that i don't think it would earn them that punishment.