prioritizing women everday

anything you learned from porn, forget it, actresses in porn get traumatized and injured and you do not want to do that to your partner

if you want any kind of real intimacy you’ll have to quit porn for a long time before trying

sex is not about showing off so don’t try to do things at your partner’s expense that you’re not sure they’ll enjoy

if your partner looks uncomfortable, stop.

if your partner gets tense, quiet, frozen, or their body goes limp when it shouldn’t, stop immediately! this is a trauma reaction and you’re hurting them if you continue.

if your partner sounds weird, withdraws physically, or you get any subtle hint that they do not want to do this with you, stop and let them go.

nobody owes you wanting to be intimate with you, not even long-term partners

don’t ever say any shit that would make your partner feel guilty for not wanting to do something. this is coercion and goes under rape category. if they don’t want to do it, they’re not supposed to do it.

no insults or slurs during intimacy. you do not want to say anything harmful to a person who is vulnerable in front of you.

no forceful actions. no restraining your partner so they can’t defend themselves properly. no putting your partner into any situation where they can’t safely fight back if they don’t like what’s going on. let your partner have every possible out and not depend solely on ther trust that you wont hurt them, not even you know if you’ll hurt them.

put your ego aside and put feelings of your partner first. your ego will recover if it gets hurt, your partner might not.

no violence, injuries, or inflicting pain on your partner. not even if they ask you to. you don’t want to aid someone in their self-harm via you as proxy. You do not want to learn to get off on someone’s pain. You will turn into a sociopath and your empathy towards your partner will lessen until it disappears, and they will learn to accept violence as a form of love. this is abuse of both of you.

do not get intimate with people you actually want to injure. this is unsafe both for you and them.

if you want to role-play, please do not even think about appropriating slavery, rape, pedophilia, power abuse and torture as a part of your game. It’s disrespectful to all of the victims of these atrocities, and it does not indicate a person emotionally healthy enough to engage in intimacy.

do not make your partner self conscious about their appearance, you do not want them worrying about their body when they should be enjoying themselves

if you don’t put any focus or effort on making your partner orgasm you basically just used their body to masturbate and it doesn’t even count

don’t attempt anything without considering what long term consequences it might have for your partner (contracting diseases, pregnancy, trauma, emotional pain)

the mood is not as important as your partner’s feelings

remember that everyone desires to feel wanted, so if you want your partner make sure they feel that way, show them.

do not harm your partner’s dignity

First pick a fake name, I use Jessica, then download the Google Voice app, hook it up to your email, pick a number, and set up a fake greeting with your fake name. You can set it to ring your actual phone like a normal call or text but they don’t have real info on you.

NAGAKIN CAPSULE TOWER

Architect : Kisho Kurokawa

Location: Tokyo, Japan

Start Project : 1970

(Spoiler alert: this dude is indeed a massive festering asshole.)

“Throwaway because I’m sure some people will find this controversial and I don’t want it tied to my main.

When my wife and I got married we agreed that we would have 2 kids unless both were girls, then we’d have a 3rd to try for a boy. I’m a guy’s guy and I grew up with only brothers so I feel strongly that I want a son to bond with.

That’s not to say that I don’t love my daughter equally. I just want to raise someone to follow in my footsteps with sports and girls and stuff. After some convincing, my wife agreed to this but said that if the 3rd kid was a girl, we’d stop trying. Anyway, we ended up having one boy (8 years old) and one girl (5 years old). This background is important because you need to know that having a 3rd kid was something that was on the table.

My wife doesn’t think that this is a good reason to have a 3rd kid. She said that she would be open to having a 3rd kid but that she finds my reasoning disgusting and she doesn’t think she can go through with it knowing the reason for me wanting one. I don’t think she understands how special it is for a father to have a son who can follow in his footsteps.

Am I the asshole or is she overreacting?”

Edit: Also, I don’t get what his problem is.

When my wife and I got married we agreed that we would have 2 kids unless both were girls, then we’d have a 3rd to try for a boy.

They’ve taken our language from us, they’ve verbally backed us into a corner until we are reduced to the most simple definition. Then, the manufactured distinction between homosexual and homoromantic (a la dual model) created a divide between “bodily desires” and romance. Then the physical aspect of sexuality was derided. To admit to being a homosexual, I feel, is communicating to them that you are not interested in love, or connection, or human contact, personality, intimacy, shared experiences. It feels like a return to “the homosexual is perverted” thought of the 1950s that proliferated psychology and institutionalised academia.

The follow up questions are:

• Do you think this is an isolated incident?

• If it is, how would you know for sure?

(Use the word for what they really are - children - no one wants to admit to being a pedophile and when they realise they are you either stop them or show them for the pedophiles they really are.

The pedophiles will always try to explain away how teenagers and ‘almost-legal’ girls are basically the same as legally aged women. Follow this up with: So if 17 is okay because it’s almost 18 does it follow that 16 is okay because it’s nearly 17 which is basically the same as 18? Then 15 is basically 16… 14 is basically 15… 13… 12… 11… where does the line get drawn if crossing the line is okay? And if crossing the line is okay when it is close enough - then wherever a new line is drawn will it also be okay to cross? Where does it stop? Where is your actual bottom line of what’s okay?

Do you think sex trafficking in porn is an isolated incident? If it is, how would you know for sure? If it’s not, what is the acceptable number of forced and raped women and children you would accept in your porn?