Spencer;)

I love kinky sex, but incest and rape fantasies aren’t kinky to me. They’re just the same kind of violently misogynistic mainstream “kinks” that men enjoy. I don’t want to think about how many women and girls are suffering when I’m intimate with my lover.

Why would someone spend actual money on fake c*m to shoot in their lesbian lover. That makes no sense to me.

But anyways. Love to see that there are butches who just want to treat their femmes the way we actually want to be treated. Like, I seek out butches because I want to have lesbian sex, not sex where my girl pretends to rape and get me pregnant.

Yeah, anything even resembling heterosexuality turns me all the way off... it's basically what you said: if I'm having a good time with a woman, I don't want to be thinking about all the hatred and violence that's been pushed onto lesbians by men. For me, lesbian love (and especially butchfemme love) is the freedom to enjoy what we are. I've nothing against strap and I've even used one on occasion, but the way that people talk about it sometimes makes me feel like they're basically just imagining dick. That facetiousness takes me out of it.

As for the other stuff, I wish more sex blogs would grow a (moral) backbone and say that it's unacceptable to get off to simulating abuse. I like rough sex, but there is a line between kink and just straight up misogyny. The prevalence and relative acceptability of "CNC" among lesbians/bi women pisses me off to no end. Keep it to yourself and/or get help, but don't be out here reinforcing rape culture and training yourself and others to be aroused by (misogynistic) abuse.