Invalidation
In psychology and social circles, validation means the feeling that other people approve of and accept you (Cambridge Dictionary, 2022). Validation is the ability to communicate understanding the other person’s current state and accepting it, free from morality.
Feel, think, and act is often beyond our understanding, and the narratives we believe in giving some sense of comprehension will be biased and flawed. How someone should think, feel, or behave are important moral questions. However, they have no place in the sanctuary of validation.
Therefore, tension arises as we need to recognise social norms, laws, and behavioural guidelines to ensure a functioning, safe society; however, we also need to create a place where people feel listened to, accepted, and not judged.
A delicate balance is required, and people must take time to think about what they say and reflect on conversations past to ensure we are becoming adept at understanding the cues in social situations to validate or to moralise.
Invalidation is proving that an opinion or argument is wrong (Invalidation, 2022). According to Marsha Linehan, invalidating environments occurs when “the expression of private experiences is not validated” (Linehan, 1993). Invalidating environments can happen in our family home, school, workplace, and own head.
Three main types of invalidation (Rathus, 2015) include.
· Type 1 Invalidation: Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviours
· Type 2 Invalidation: Lower-Level Expressions of Emotion Are Ignored or Punished, and Emotional
Escalation Is Sometimes Given Greater Attention
· Type 3 Invalidation: The Ease of Problem Solving and Meeting Goals Is Overstated Oversimplified
No more explicit pictures arise than the childhood movie Matilda as the difference between a validating and invalidating environment.
It is easy for all of us to fall into moralising mode, “I don’t like it therefore you can’t do it”, and sometimes it is, of course, necessary, but not all the time. Sometimes a “that makes sense to me” or a “wow, that sounds tough” can be what is most needed……. especially when talking to ourselves.
For further information, see the link below
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-emotional-validation-425336
References
Cambridge Dictionary. (2022, February 3rd ). Retrieved from https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/validation
Invalidation. (2022, February 3rd). Retrieved from Cambridge Dictionary: https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/invalidation
Linehan, M. M. (1993). Cognitive-Behavioural treatment of borderline personality disorder. In M. Linehan, Cognitive-Behavioural treatment of borderline personality disorder (p. 49). New York: Guilford.
Rathus, J. H. (2015). Orientation to the group. In J. H. Rathus, DBT Skills Manual for Adolescents (pp. 85-87). New York: Guilford Press.
















