you are the weapon i choose

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Jonah Hauer-King is Halle Bailey’s hype man!

And this girl's mom comes in, hears what we're playing and gets all MAD and UPSET. She says that if we play act something, it's because we want it to happen. So her daughter must WANT HER TO DIE.

First off lady, we were 6 year year olds, so take it down several notches. We barely had a concept of mortality for fucks sake. She made us feel so guilty and ashamed, because she was taking our game personally.

Now I have a 5 year old. And sometimes she looks at me and says "pretend you're dead, and I have to -" Whatever it is. Some adult task she's assigned herself.

And it's just so transparently obvious that she's practicing the idea of having to do things on her own. Which is exactly what 5 year olds are supposed to do. I actually find it very flattering that the only way she can envision me not being available to help her is to be literally deceased. Otherwise, obviously, she wouldn't have to do scary hard things alone.

It's a natural coping mechanism. She's self-soothing about what would happen if I wasn't there by play-acting independence in a perfectly safe environment. She's also practicing skills she needs, and making up excuses for practicing them on her own, without taking on the responsibility of being able to do them by herself all the time yet.

Humans mentally rehearse bad this in their brains all the time. We can do that by ruminating- going over worries over and over again, which tends to lead to anxiety and helplessness and depression. Or we can do it with a sense of play- by recognizing that the fiction is fiction and we can dip our toe into these experiences and expose ourselves to bad things without actually being injured.

Day 12 - Favourite Animated Movie

“Once you’ve met someone you never really forget them. It just takes a while for your memories to return.”

the response to amber heard has set survivors back decades. one look at the rhetoric and it’s clear the backlash against amber is for the benefit of MRAs who hate women.

on every single platform -

“why did she record evidence, she’s such a psychopath”

“she’s crying and emoting while recounting her abuse, she’s such an actress”

“she’s not crying enough, she must be lying about being abused”

“if he was so bad why didn’t she leave”

“why doesn’t she have video evidence of the physical abuse”

“she smiled while talking to her team, she’s a liar”

“she looks sad in court, she’s trying so hard to win sympathy”

she can’t win. she can’t smile or laugh or cry or frown without it being picked apart, while he gets to clown in the courtroom and gets lauded for it. our society is collectively harassing and making light of an abused woman. it’s a deranged form of mob mentality and I can’t imagine how unhinged you have to be to make treat a domestic violence court case like fandom wars.

the response to amber heard has set survivors back decades. one look at the rhetoric and it’s clear the backlash against amber is for the benefit of MRAs who hate women.

on every single platform -

“why did she record evidence, she’s such a psychopath”

“she’s crying and emoting while recounting her abuse, she’s such an actress”

“she’s not crying enough, she must be lying about being abused”

“if he was so bad why didn’t she leave”

“why doesn’t she have video evidence of the physical abuse”

“she smiled while talking to her team, she’s a liar”

“she looks sad in court, she’s trying so hard to win sympathy”

she can’t win. she can’t smile or laugh or cry or frown without it being picked apart, while he gets to clown in the courtroom and gets lauded for it. our society is collectively harassing and making light of an abused woman. it’s a deranged form of mob mentality and I can’t imagine how unhinged you have to be to make treat a domestic violence court case like fandom wars.