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Mainly because makeup itself, the generic concept, is an integral part of human identity. People have always done it (even Neanderthals used makeup) and we’re always going to keep doing it. The concept of decorating our faces/bodies with colored pigments is practically hardwired and on a deep level just plain FUN (look at how much kids love to get their faces painted at fairs and carnivals and so on). The concept is also totally gender neutral. In some societies, men traditionally do it more than women, for example. Using your own body as a canvas for art taps into a mystical, childlike sense of wonder. First you look one way, then… another! Like magic. 

But mainstream commercial makeup culture as it exists today is incredibly exploitative, misogynist, colonialist, colorist, and hurts women, especially poorer women and women who don’t fit the racial ideal as expressed by the mainstream corporate beauty industry. And a big part of that is pushing “natural” looks. All women are supposed to look “naturally” poreless, for example (which isn’t realistic or healthy) and are punished socially and often financially if we aren’t. Another example: contouring is supposed to accentuate the “natural” lines of your face but for me and a lot of other Asian women with moonfaces, it’s the furthest thing from natural! The further you are from the rich thin young lightskinned bigeyed straightsmallnosed highcheekboned look, the more weirdly artificial the word “natural” becomes. We’re supposed to sink all this time and money and resources into achieving this bullshit “natural” look until it all feels a bit like Sisyphus rolling the stone up the hill. 

Let’s start with McGonagall and Hagrid Both of their disappointing actions happened in HP1 McGonagall didn’t believe Harry, Ron, and Hermione’s claims that someone was trying to steal the Stone and dismissed them. If she had just listened and perhaps written to Dumbledore explaining their concerns then the trio would’ve never felt the need to go down the trapdoor Hagrid unwittingly gave up the secret of how to get passed Fluffy because he wanted an illegal dragon egg Which eventually hatched and he refused to deal with it until it was left to Harry and Hermione to bring it to Charlie’s friends, costing Gryffindor 150 points and a detention that put Harry in front of Voldemort

Also despite knowing just how awful the Dursleys were, neither of them really argued with Dumbledore about placing Harry with them and then just not checking on him for the next 10 years Harry’s letters were addressed to “the cupboard under the stairs” ffs

Although neither of them could’ve known that their actions would end so terribly, they still did and that’s rather disappointing coming from adults that Harry (and us as readers) trusted more than most other adults in the series

Moving on to Molly and Arthur Weasley Arthur, like every other adult Harry trusted with his suspicions that Malfoy was a Death Eater and was trying to kill someone, dismissed his claims as a “school rivalry” and didn’t take him seriously

Molly, despite having good intentions, would minimize the Twins’ accomplishments and would chastise her children (Charlie for working with dragons and not marrying; Bill for dressing differently and marrying Fleur) because they weren’t doing what she considered to be “acceptable” She also was rather rude to Fleur who was a guest and her son’s fiance, although, Fleur was pretty awful to the Weasleys in return (especially to Ginny who she babied and criticized) even though she was an uninvited guest in their house but back to Molly and Arthur Molly had a tendency to overstep boundaries especially when it came to Harry, invalidating Sirius’ role as Harry’s legal guardian

Also after finding out that Ginny had been possessed by Lord Fucking Voldemort for /a year/ they first yelled at her for being stupid and “trusting something when you couldn’t see where it kept its brain” instead of insisting that she be given medical attention and yelling at Dumbledore for not seeing that one of his students was being possessed by a Dark Lord sooner

They’re rather small things but they’re still disappointments

In the case of Remus Lupin there are a few disappointing moments The first being the most obvious one: He tried to leave Tonks and Teddy the minute he found out she was pregnant Now I really don’t care what you think about Remadora and how Wolfstar is your life because Remus tried to leave his pregnant wife because he didn’t want to face the potential consequences of his actions Not only that but he tried to guilt Harry into letting him come along hunting Horcruxes by using Harry’s dead father against him (”James would’ve let me come”) Also, and I know it wasn’t entirely his fault, He never tried to contact Harry And I’m not just talking about before Harry came to Hogwarts (although that must have been a slap in the face to Harry to learn that there was someone out there who was best friends with his parents and yet never tried to look for him) I’m more referring to after Harry’s third year. Harry finally has 2 direct links to his parents and only one of them will talk to him and even that is vague and sporadic at best. Imagine how much that must’ve hurt Harry to think that maybe Lupin didn’t actually like him and maybe he was just being a bother wondering about his parents Imagine how differently the aftermath of Snape’s Worst Memory would’ve gone if Remus had been the adult here and reached out to Harry to tell him more about Lily and James

That’s literally the whole point.

The expelled half-giant. The young werewolf. The repentant Death Eater.

He protects them and gives them a second chance. All he asks in return is their loyalty.

And, if on occasion he requests that they undertake a certain task, invoking their debt of gratitude - well, that is no more than he is owed.

He once thought to add a certain disowned Black to his collection, but quickly realised his mistake.

Sirius is not an outcast, but a rebel. He knowingly chose his path, and chooses what price he is willing to pay for it. He refuses to be used.

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE