Body like an Armored Core, Soul of a Black Stud

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

This ALSO ties into white trans men and nonbinary emulating east asian men because they perceive east asian maleness as a "more feminine" version of masculinity and therefore "more achievable/idealized."

i have my own gripes with this in regards to how other white trans men fetishize east asian men and how they might write erotic RPF or fanart, which in a vacuum might be whatever, but there's this undercurrent of "being east asian (or appearing east asian) is an automatic pass for me to fetishize you and make objectifying comments about you" which i personally have experienced firsthand and. aaauuuughghhhh i wish ppl would be more Aware of how their tastes in RPF or whatever (fantasies about celebrities who might never see it) affects how they interact with REAL PEOPLE they might actually talk to FACE-TO-FACE??? especially when it's rooted in racism like this

Happy Pride Month!!!

I drew Bridget on stream @ [Twitch.TV]

so invite her. seek her out. include her.

This is manipulation and abuse. The polyamory thing is so incredibly beside the point -- if they will threaten to punish you for asking one question they don't like, then chances are they will threaten/punish you for asking any question they don't like.

It might not always be physically violent: Someone breaking down into hysterics every time you try to communicate your needs/wants/idle hypothetical curiosities, to the point where you feel afraid to start a good-faith conversation about your relationship because they will blame you for causing their feelings -- that is still manipulation and abuse.

If you feel like there's no "right way" to advocate for your own needs without causing a catastrophic meltdown in your partner, or if you are afraid of your partner's patterns of emotional response in any way, that is a symptom of manipulation and abuse. If you feel like you have to be constantly hyper-vigilant about every word you say for fear of hurting them, that is a symptom of manipulation and abuse.

Get out or get help. You are not the bad guy. You are not the bad guy. You are not the bad guy. You are not obligated to stay with someone who has threatened you, threatened themselves as a way of controlling your behavior, or otherwise made you afraid like this. YOU ARE NOT THE BAD GUY. YOU'RE NOT.

If you are in this situation, please consider telling a friend, a trusted mentor, a parent, a therapist, etc about what's happening. There may be resources in your country for domestic violence services to help you get out if you need to leave and feel like you can't. (Also please note that although I have used the word "partner" here, you can replace that word with any other word ("friend", "boss", "parent", whatever) and the point still stands.)