useful as heck: a masterpost tumblr

7cupsoftea - free online therapy + you can help people too.

thriftbooks - cheap books, need i say more?

readanybook - also some free books

imalive - online chat for suicidal people / people in crisis.

freerice - donate to the hungry while keepin’ yo mind fresh.

zennioptical - glasses. i got my current frames + lenses for $60 total 

mathway - get answers to math problems.

Annie on my mind- Nancy Garden

Keeping you a secret- Julie Anne Peters

Leaving L.A.- Kate Christie

Me and you and daisies- Lily R. Mason

The world unseen- Shamim Sarif 

Wildthorn- Jane England

Tipping the velvet- Sarah Waters

Dare truth or promise- Paula Boock

And Playing the role of herself- K.E. Lane

Hunter’s Way- Gerri Hill

Ash- Malinda Lo

The price of salt- Patricia Highsmith

Patience & Sarah- Isabel Miller

The Gravity between us- Kristen Zimmer

Her name in the sky- Kelly Quindlen 

Taking the long way- Lily R. Mason

Bach - no. just no. one time bach got into a fight with a bassonist over his bassoon part, and, i quote John Elliot Gardiner, “was forced to draw his sword and defend himself.” bassoon rage is terrifying, and bach was able to hold him off even though it was a surprise attack. don’t fight bach. you’ll lose. (plus if by some miracle you won, you’d have 18 children after you to avenge their father. do you really want small bachs chasing you the rest of your days?)

Handel - you could take handel probably. no killer instinct. do not let him get too close - he threatened to throw a singer out of a window once and could probably have carried through. take him down through attrition.

Haydn - you could absolutely take haydn. take him down quickly before he has a chance to trick you.

Mozart - depends. instrumentalists probably possess enough resentment to take him on easy. vocalists…could you really bring yourself to fight mozart? his arias are so nice. so flashy. so singable. go fight haydn instead. unless you’re a contralto. then absolutely fight mozart. fight everyone on this list.

Beethoven - DO NOT FIGHT BEETHOVEN. DO NOT FIGHT BEETHOVEN. DO NOT FIGHT BEETHOVEN. you will lose.

Rossini - absolutely fight rossini. you’ll win. easy. 

Schubert - why would you want to fight schubert. he is a precious tiny forest spirit who just wants to compose lovely songs. the only person who is authorized to fight schubert is the accompanist who has just been asked to play erlkonig for the sixth time. and even they will feel bad afterwards. go fight rossini instead.

Berlioz - yes. fight berlioz. absolutely fight berlioz. sure, afterwards you won’t be able to brag that you defeated berlioz since no one outside of music knows who he is, but at least you’ll have a good victory on your hands.

Liszt - tough fight. liszt is 6 feet tall and has massive yaoi hands judging from his music. take him down from afar. 

Chopin - please dont fight chopin. you’re better than that. it would be too easy. give yourself more of a challenge.

Brahms - this is a fight that you can win. just tell him you’re from the future and he never lived up to Beethoven’s name. don’t feel bad when he starts to cry. just take him down then and there.

Schumann - don’t do it. the problem is not robert himself, it’s the fact that clara will come after you. and she will beat you. this has nothing to do with you or your fighting abilities - if you fight robert schumann clara will find you and clara will end you.

Wagner - ABSOLUTELY FIGHT WAGNER. PLEASE fight wagner. I will pay literal, actual money to watch someone beat up wagner. you will get lots of help from everyone else in the music world including other composers. even if you have just fought them. everyone wants to see richard “dick” wagner taken down. the only person in the music world more utterly fightable than wagner is andrew lloyd webber.

Verdi - go fight wagner instead.

Stravinsky - do not fight stravinsky. he will fuck you up.

Mahler - the same fight as brahms, except even easier.

“we catch the same bus home and i always fall asleep, but you always wake me up at my stop” 

“you come into my 24hr diner at the oddest times bc of your weird job but you keep forgetting that we talk because youre always sleep deprived”

“my neighbour keeps ordering weird shit but they dont want to face the mailperson’s judgement so they keep using my address instead”

“i run the night slot on campus radio and some jackass keeps calling in to insult my music taste and request high school musical songs instead”

“escaped to the laundry room to avoid hearing my room-mates having extremely loud sex only to find you’re here doing the same thing”

“sorry i knocked you out in that bar fight last night, but i brought you to the hospital and stuck around ‘til you woke up to apologize”

“you were trash talking my favourite character in the cinemas and obviously i need to show you the light, even if i have to buy you a burger to get you to listen”

“our mutual friend dropped out of this trip at the last minute, so hi i guess we’re spending the next two weeks together”

“you forgot to remove your snarky sticky note comments in this textbook and since i got kicked out of the library for laughing too loudly, im going to reply to each and every one”

“i lost my asshole friends in this club and im kinda drunk and youre kinda gorgeous, please help me”

I can’t tell whether this is a date because you asked to see a movie but I’m still not sure you’re queer, and I’m toeing the line because maybe you’re just trying to make friends

One of us thinks this is a date but the other thinks it’s an informal job interview

I decided to flip a coin about every decision in my life for a week and that’s how we ended up on a date

We’re both meant to be going on blind dates with other people but we sat down at the wrong table and got our hopes up

We took each other’s underwear from the laundromat by mistake

I got drunk and sent a sexy naked pic to my ex but I sent it to you instead by mistake

We had one really bad date and never spoke again and now our friends have set us up on a blind date

I’m calling to cancel our date because I’m actually in the ER right now, sorry. …I mean, sure, I guess you can come down here, but… okay…

We had sex at the office party but we’re both workaholics so we don’t normally date

We’re going on a blind date - but wait a moment, aren’t you that went down on me in a back alley behind a club year ago? … what do you mean “which one”?

You bought me at a charity auction and you’re probably a serial killer

You’re my waiter and I’m on a really crappy date with an asshole

Your appointment with a sexual therapist was right after mine and we got talking in the waiting room

We’re on a blind date, but wait a moment… aren’t you that guy who gave me a hand job at a Renaissance Faire a year ago?… what do you MEAN “WHICH ONE”?

We both picked the same power ballad at karaoke so we sang a duet

‘we keep getting arrested at the same protests and at this point i think i’m only starting fights with policemen so i can sit next to you in holding’ au

‘you’re the on-call doctor on saturday nights and i’m purposely injuring myself so i can attempt to chat you up while you give me stitches but i s2g the first four times were accidents i just got too attached’ au

‘you climbed into the taxi next to me and passed out and the taxi driver made me haul you out of his taxi so he can get more customers and now i’m on the side of the road holding you up by your armpits and hoping you don’t vomit on me’ au

‘we started going home together but i was convinced i knew a faster way to your apartment so we took a wrong turn and now we’re lost and drunk and a little cold’ au

‘we’re two thirds of the threesome we had last night and we’re walking awkwardly out of the last persons’s apartment together’ au

Just wanted to quickly share this great website with fellow writers and roleplayers, because it’s where I find names 100% of the time, hashtag blessed. 

Essentially, the homepage has a box you can type a name you like into, then you’ll be presented with lists of male, female and unisex names related it by user votes and a google-like “also searched for…” feature. There are three ways to use this website. 

01: RANDOMLY. You don’t have to type a name to begin, you can just click one and keep going until you’re satisfied.  02: BY VIBE. Writing a stereotypical high school cheerleader who feels like a Claire, but isn’t? Search Claire and you’ll get tons of names with a similar feel. This also works with time period names.  03. BY ETHNICITY / NATIONALITY. In my screenshot, you can see I was searching for a name for Avan Jogia. I don’t know about you, but I think their very first suggestion of Ketan is perfect. This can help you make sure you aren’t entirely white washing names for a lack of options on most name lists. 

I tried to dig up as many resources and tutorials as possible from old master posts and normals posts as a lot of people have been complaining about the lack of resource posts for trans women. If you have anything to add please go ahead

CLOTHES ETC

Fashion71 (F/M)

ClothingUnder10 

$5 Fashions 

TenFifteen 

TenDollarMall (F/M) (No international shipping)

Eastclothes 

Gojane 

Dresslink 

Moddeals 

dress lily 

sammy dress

brave store 

viejos amores

chiara fashion 

love culture 

ami club wear 

fashion 71

east clothes

Miss A  (Accessory/makeups $1 shop)

glitter  Accessory/makeups

kmms  Accessory/makeups

mba cosmetics  Accessory/makeups

Cheap makeup (ELF)

MAKEUP TUTORIALS ETC

How to hide stubble (Tumblr post)

How to Contour and Highlight Using Makeup (video)

How to Apply Eyeliner with a Spoon (video)

How to Apply Foundation (video)

How to Apply Blush (video)

How to Apply Eyeshadow (video)

tutorials for beginners

quality makeup for less money

choosing foundation

ask mod li about makeu

How to apply makeup for the absolute beginner

 [trans-specific, p. useful]

Foundation for Dark Skin (2) (3) What products are and how they are used

A brand that makes products specifically designed to go over stubble

What brushes do what

, 

(2)

How to Choose Foundation

How To Apply Eyeliner (Using Tape)

WIGS

amphigory

lock shop

funny wig

quality low budget wigs

cute hairstyles on pinterest

more cute short femme hair

hairstyle guide & beauty

GL Wigs

Wowwigs

Arda Wigs

Wig Salon

Hairbird

Others (in list format from a myriad of sources)

TUCKING

tucking and creating gaffe [video] 

tucking forum and thread 

Tucking How-to Guide

BREASTFORMS

sewing pattern for silicone bead forms

low budget diy breast forms [video] 

creating cleavage with bras [video] 

"illusion" cleavage with makeup [video] 

Realistic Breast Form Tutorial (Video)

The Breast Form Store

Cheap (Sale) Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to create cleavage using a silicone bra (video)

Measuring Bra Size for Trans Women

Mastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to make home made breast forms

amoena

OTHER

Women’s Clothing Terminology Chrysalis (Lingerie for Trans Women, autoplay music) Cheap Control/Shaping Briefs TheLeelahProject (Provides free essentials to those who cannot afford them)

surgery booklet 

hrt booklet

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

Bust enlarging pads

Bum enlarging shapers

Transgender advice and resources list

Stage Musicals. The ones filmed on stage are not always the best quality. I tried to include every version I could find. Most of these are the movie versions, if a version was available. Enjoy! I highly suggest everyone installs an ad blocker before watching these videos: Firefox & Chrome Safari Android

[title of show] 1 2

9 to 5 - 1980 

13 on Broadway 1  2  3  4  5  6 

25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee Original Broadway Cast

42nd Street - 1933 

A Gentlemen’s Guide to Love and Murder

A Little Night Music - 1990 Act 1  Act 2 

A Very Potter Musical

A Very Potter Sequel

A Very Potter Senior Year

Aida with Idina Menzel, Maya Days, and Matt Bogart

Annie - 1982 

Annie - 1999 

Annie on stage with Jane Lynch 1 2

Annie Get Your Gun - 1950 

Anything Goes - Sutton Foster, Joel Grey, Laura Osnes

American Idiot (password: greenday)

Assassins

bare Part 1 Part 2

Billy Elliot

Bonnie & Clyde with Laura Osnes and Jeremy Jordan Act 1 Act 2

Brigadoon - 1954 

Bring It On Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5

Broadway: The American Musical 1  2 

Broadway’s Lost Treasures 1 

Broadway’s Lost Treasures 2 

Broadway’s Lost Treasures 3 

Bye Bye Birdie - 1963 

Cabaret - 1972 

Cabaret on stage with Alan Cummings

Camelot - 1981 

Caroline, or Change

Carousel - 1956 

Carrie - 2012 Off-Broadway Revival 1  2  3  4  5  6 

Catch Me If You Can

Cats - 1988

Chaplin

Chess

Chicago - 2002 

Children of Eden

Chitty Chitty Bang Bang - 1968 

Cinderella - 1997 

Cinderella - 2013

Company - 2006

Company - 2011 with Neil Patrick Harris

Cry-Baby - 1990 

Dogfight

Dracula - German

Dreamgirls Original Broadway Cast - very poor quality

Dreamgirls - 2006 

Evita - 1996

Evita - 2012 Revival Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4

Fame - 1980 

Fame - 2009 

Fiddler on the Roof - 1971 

Finian’s Rainbow - 1968 

First Date

Flashdance - 1983 

Flower Drum Song - 1961 

Follies

Footloose - 1984 

Footloose - 2011 

Funny Girl - 1968 

Gentlemen Prefer Blondes - 1953 

Grease - 1978 

Grease on Broadway

Grey Gardens

Grey Gardens, different version

Guys and Dolls - 1955 Part 1 Part 2

Gypsy - 1962 

Gypsy - 2008 Revival

Hair - 1979 

Hair 1 2 3 4

Hairspray - 2006 with Aaron Tveit

Hairspray - 2007 

Hallelujah Broadway

Hedwig and the Angry Inch Original Cast

Hedwig and the Angry Inch - 2001 

Hello, Dolly! - 1969 

High Fidelity

High Society - 1956 

Holy Musical B@man!

How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying - 1967 

How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying - Darren Criss

If/Then

In the Heights Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4

Into the Woods - 1991 

Jekyll & Hyde Act 1  Act 2 

Jesus Christ Superstar - 1973 

Jesus Christ Superstar - 2012 Revival

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat - 2000 

Kismet - 1955 

Kiss Me Kate - 1953 

Legally Blonde Sing-a-long

Les Miserables 10th Anniversary Dream Cast

Les Miserables 25th Anniversary Part 1 Part 2

Les Miserables - 2000 with Sutton Foster

Les Miserables - 2012 

Lestat

Little Shop of Horrors - 1986 

Little Women

Mamma Mia! - 2008 

Man of La Mancha - 1972 

Mary Poppins: The Broadway Musical

Matilda the Musical

Matilda - another recording

Miss Saigon Broadway

Miss Saigon - National Tour

Miss Saigon - 2008

Monty Python’s Spamalot Part 1 Part 2

My Fair Lady - 1964 

My Favorite Broadway: The Leading Ladies - 1999 

Never Forget

Newsies - 1992 

Newsies - Live 2012

Next to Normal

Next to Normal - Alice Ripley & JenniferDamiano’s last performance

Next to Normal with Jessica Phillips and Kyle Dean Massey

Nine - 2009 

No, No Nanette - 1940 

Oklahoma! - 1955 

Oliver! - 1968 

On A Clear Day You Can See Forever - 1970 

On the Town - 1949 

Once - 2006 

Once - Broadway

Once Upon a Mattress - 2005 

Paint Your Wagon - 1969 

Pal Joey - 1957 

Passing Strange - 2009

Passion - Original Broadway Cast

Peter and the Star Catcher

Peter Pan - 1960 

Peter Pan Tour 2012 Act 1 2

Pipe Dream (password: suzy)

Pippin, Live in Toronto - 1972 

Porgy and Bess

Ragtime - poor quality

Rent - 2005 Part 1  Part 2 

Rent: Filmed Live on Broadway - 2008 

Rent - Hollywood Bowl (password: tango maureen)

Riverdance: The Show - 1995 

Riverdance at Radio City Music Hall

Rock of Ages - 2012

Saturday Night Fever - 1977 

Saved!

Show Boat - 1936

Shrek: The Musical - 2013

South Pacific 1  2  3  4  5 

Sondheim: A Celebration at Carnegie Hall

Song & Dance - 1984

Spring Awakening with Lea Michele

Starship

Sunday in the Park with George

Sunset Boulevard Act 1  Act 2 

Sweeney Todd Broadway - 1982 

Sweeney Todd: Live in Concert

Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street - 2007 

The Addams Family

The Addams Family obc

The Apple Tree Part 1 Part 2

The Book of Mormon

The Bridges of Madison County - 2014

The Drowsy Chaperone

The Full Monty - 1997 

The King and I - 1956 

The Light in the Piazza

The Little Mermaid - Sierra Boggess

The Music Man - 1962 

The Mystery of Edwin Drood

The Phantom of the Opera - 1989 

The Phantom of the Opera - 1990 

The Phantom of the Opera - 2004 

The Phantom of the Opera at the Albert Hall - 2011 

The Pirate Queen Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4

The Producers - 1968 

The Producers - 2005 

The Rocky Horror Picture Show - 1975 

The Sound of Music - 1965 

The Unauthorized Autobiography of Samantha Brown

The Wedding Singer

The Wiz - 1978 

Thoroughly Modern Millie Original Broadway Cast Act 1  Act 2 

Thoroughly Modern Millie

Three Musketeers with Aaron Tveit

Titanic: The Musical - Peace Players Production 1  2  3  4  5 

Tommy - 1975 

Twisted

Urinetown Original Broadway Cast

Victor/Victoria - 1982 

West Side Story - 1961 

White Christmas - 1954 

Wicked 

Wicked Kristin Chenoweth’s Last Performance

Wicked with Aaron Tveit (password: swankified)

Wicked with Annaleigh Asford and Stephanie J. Block Part 1 Part 2

Wonderland Act 1 Act 2

Xanadu Original Broadway Cast

Xanadu - 1980 

You’re a Good Man, Charlie Brown

it was really interesting because he said before the aids epidemic, being gay was almost cool. like, it was really becoming accepted. but aids forced everyone back in the closet. it destroyed friendships, relationships, so many cultural centers closed down over it. it basically obliterated all of the progress that queer people had made in the past 50 years.

and like, it’s weird to me, and what i brought to the conversation (i really couldn’t say much though, i was speechless mostly) was like, it’s so weird to me that there’s no continuity in our history? like, aids literally destroyed an entire generation of queer people and our culture. and when you think about it, we are really the first generation of queer people after the aids epidemic. but like, when does anyone our age (16-28 i guess?) ever really talk about aids in terms of the history of queer people? like it’s almost totally forgotten. but it was so huge. imagine that. like, dozens of your friends just dropping dead around you, and you had no idea why, no idea how, and no idea if you would be the next person to die. and it wasn’t a quick death. you would waste away for months and become emaciated and then, eventually, die. and i know it’s kinda sophomoric to suggest this, but like, imagine that happening today with blogs and the internet? like people would just disappear off your tumblr, facebook, instagram, etc. and eventually you’d find out from someone “oh yeah, they and four of their friends died from aids.”

I’m 36. I came out in 1995, 20 years ago. My girlfriend and I started volunteering at the local AIDS support agency, basically just to meet gay adults and meet people who maybe had it together a little better than our classmates. The antiretrovirals were out by then, but all they were doing yet was slowing things down. AIDS was still a death sentence.

The agency had a bunch of different services, and we did a lot of things helping out there, from bagging up canned goods from a food drive to sorting condoms by expiration date to peer safer sex education. But we both sewed, so… we both ended up helping people with Quilt panels for their beloved dead.

Do the young queers coming up know about the Quilt? If you want history, my darlings, there it is. They started it in 1985. When someone died, his loved ones would get together and make a quilt panel, 3’x6’, the size of a grave. They were works of art, many of them. Even the simplest, just pieces of fabric with messages of loved scrawled in permanent ink, were so beautiful and so sad.

They sewed them together in groups of 8 to form a panel. By the 90s, huge chunks of it were traveling the country all the time. They’d get an exhibition hall or a gym or park or whatever in your area, and lay out the blocks, all over the ground with paths between them, so you could walk around and see them. And at all times, there was someone reading. Reading off the names of the dead. There was this huge long list, of people whose names were in the Quilt, and people would volunteer to just read them aloud in shifts.

HIV- people would come in to work on panels, too, of course, but most of the people we were helping were dying themselves. The first time someone I’d worked closely with died, it was my first semester away at college. I caught the Greyhound home for his funeral in the beautiful, tiny, old church in the old downtown, with the bells. I’d helped him with his partner’s panel. Before I went back to school, I left supplies to be used for his, since I couldn’t be there to sew a stitch. I lost track of a lot of the people I knew there, busy with college and then plunged into my first really serious depressive cycle. I have no idea who, of all the people I knew, lived for how long.

The Quilt, by the way, weighs more than 54 tons, and has over 96,000 names. At that, it represents maybe 20% of the people who died of AIDS in the US alone.

There were many trans women dying, too, btw. Don’t forget them. (Cis queer women did die of AIDS, too, but in far smaller numbers.) Life was and is incredibly hard for trans women, especially TWOC. Pushed out to live on the streets young, or unable to get legal work, they were (and are) often forced into sex work of the most dangerous kinds, a really good way to get HIV at the time. Those for whom life was not quite so bad often found homes in the gay community, if they were attracted to men, and identified as drag queens, often for years before transitioning. In that situation, they were at the same risk for the virus as cis gay men.

Cis queer women, while at a much lower risk on a sexual vector, were there, too. Helping. Most of the case workers at that agency and every agency I later encountered were queer women. Queer woman cooked and cleaned and cared for the dying, and for the survivors. We held hands with those waiting for their test results. Went out on the protests, helped friends who could barely move to lie down on the steps of the hospitals that would not take them in — those were the original Die-Ins, btw, people who were literally lying down to die rather than move, who meant to die right there out in public — marched, carted the Quilt panels from place to place. Whatever our friends and brothers needed. We did what we could.

OK, that’s it, that’s all I can write. I keep crying. Go read some history. Or watch it, there are several good documentaries out there. Don’t watch fictional movies, don’t read or watch anything done by straight people, fuck them anyway, they always made it about the tragedy and noble suffering. Fuck that. Learn about the terror and the anger and the radicalism and the raw, naked grief.

A visual aid: this is the Quilt from the Names Project laid out on the Washington Mall

I was born (in Australia) at the time that the first AIDS cases began to surface in the US. While I was a witness after it finally became mainstream news (mid-85), I was also a child for much of it. For me there was never really a world Before. I’m 35 now and I wanted to know and understand what happened. I have some recommendations for sources from what I’ve been reading lately:

And the Band Played On: Politics, People and the AIDS Epidemic by Randy Shilts is a seminal work on the history of HIV/AIDS. It’s chronological and gives an essential understanding of all the factors that contributed to the specific history of the virus’ spread through the US and the rest of the world, the political landscape into which it landed (almost the worst possible)*. Investigative journalism and eyewitness account. Shilts was himself an AIDS casualty in 1994.

AIDS at 30: A History by Victoria Harden

The Origin of AIDS by Jaques Pepin for the science of it all.

Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP’s Fight against AIDS.

The Secret Epidemic: The Story of AIDS and Black America.

Larry Kramer is a pretty polarising figure and he had issues with the sexual politics of gay New York to begin with (see: Faggots) but he’s polarising for a reason: he’s the epidemic’s Cassandra. Reports from the Holocaust collects his writings on AIDS.

I don’t think I can actually bring myself to read memoirs for the same reason I can’t read about the Holocaust or Stalinist Russia any more. But I have a list: 

The AIDS Generation: Stories of Survival and Resilience

The Quilt: Stories from the Names Project

Body Counts: A Memoir of Politics, Sex, AIDS, and Survival by Sean Strub

Borrowed Time: And AIDS Memoir by Paul Monette

Read or watch The Normal Heart. Read or watch Angels in America. Read The Mayor of Castro Street or watch Milk. Dallas Buyers Club has its issues but it’s also heartbreaking because the characters are exactly the politically unsavory people used to justify the lack of spending on research and treatment. It’s also an important look at the exercise of agency by those afflicted and abandoned by their government/s, how they found their own ways to survive. There’s a film of And the Band Played On but JFC it’s a mess. You need to have read the book.

Some documentaries:

Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt (1989) [hard to find]

How to Survive a Plague (2012)

We Were Here (2011)

Everyone should read about the history of the AIDS epidemic. Especially if you are American, especially if you are a gay American man. HIV/AIDS is not now the death sentence it once was but before antiretrovirals it was just that. It was long-incubating and a-symptomatic until, suddenly, it was not.

Read histories. Read them because reality is complex and histories attempt to elucidate that complexity. Read them because past is prologue and the past is always, in some form, present. We can’t understand here and now if we don’t know about then.

at the time, i was editor of a queer newspaper, here in san diego. we went from throwing boisterous fundraising parties at the clubs and bars, every time someone was diagnosed positive, to eventually hosting quiet wakes.

in the interim, the baths had all been closed by the health department. queer life was certainly changing; visibility was modified; dating took new forms; our relationships to one another become more somber.

men of color often didn’t have the funding or larger community support to be tested early. it was to our everlasting grief how many of our brothers we lost, during those decades.

at the same historical moment, queer women of color were being diagnosed with various forms of cancer.

we lost so many queer people of color, during those years.

what is left of that period, for many of us, is mainly absence and silence.

and those of us who witnessed.

view and read the works of marlon riggs, essex hemphill, joseph beam, audre lorde. they were my friends, my loved ones now gone. their works, however, remain with us.

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DYE DOES NOT KILL YOUR HAIR. I DON’T KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I CAN TELL PEOPLE THIS. BLEACH. BLEACH KILLS YOUR HAIR.

with that being said, it’s relatively easy to repair your hair. DO YOU KNOW HOW EASY?! WELL IMMA TELL YOU.

BUY ALMOST ANY GODDAMN CONDITIONER. 3 MINUTE DEEP CONDITIONERS WORK BEST BUT STILL. 3 DOLLAR WALMART STUFF WILL DO YOU A WHOLE FRACKING WORLD OF GOOD. YOU SLATHER YOUR HEAD IN THAT SHIT AND LEAVE IT ON FOR A HALF HOUR. TADA MOTHERFUCKER. TA-FUCKING-DA. YOUR HAIR IS GONNA FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.

YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE WORKS? NOT WASHING YOUR GODDAMN HAIR EVERY DAY LIKE A LUNATIC. THAT’S BAD FOR YOUR HAIR. AFTER BLEACHING YOU SHOULD WAIT TO WASH IT FOR AS LONG AS YOU CAN STAND. DO YOU KNOW WHY? BECAUSE THE NATURAL OILS REPAIR HAIR BETTER THAN ANYTHING YOU CAN BUY AND YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE? IT’S FUCKING FREEEEEEEEEEEE.

NOW, THE THIRD WAY TO MAKE YOUR GOD DAMN GLORIOUS HAIR LOOK NICE AFTER BLEACHING IS TO TRIM OFF THE MOTHERFUDGIN’ DEAD ENDS. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS CLIP DEAD ENDS ANYWAYS.

THE DYE DOESN’T DAMAGE YOUR HAIR. IN FACT, IT CONDITIONS A LITTLE BIT. ESPECIALLY VEGETABLE BASED DYES LIKE MANIC PANIC AND STUFF. BASICALLY ALL THE FUN COLORS. PLEASE STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH DYED HAIR THAT IT’S GONNA TURN TO SHIT. WE KNOW. WE ALSO KNOW HOW TO AVOID IT BECAUSE WE’RE NOT AS IGNORANT AS YOU WERE AT THE BEGINNING OF THIS POST. 

NOW YOU MIGHT ALSO BE THINKING “FINE BUT THIS BITCH DON’T KNOW SHIT”

WRONG MOTHERFUCKER. I FINISHED ALL MY APPRENTICE HOURS TO BECOME A HAIRDRESSER BEFORE QUITTING. MY HAIR HAS BEEN EVER COLOR OF THE FUCKING RAINBOW AND THEN SOME. PERSONAL EXPERIENCE MY FRIEND. MY HAIR IS STILL SOFTER THAN A FUCKING KITTEN.

I HAD MY HAIR BRIGHT-FUCKING-RED FOR A WHILE, AND I GOT CONSTANT REMARKS ABOUT HOW THE COLOR WILL MAKE MY HAIR SHITTY. 

STRANGERS NEED TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN AND EDUCATE THEIR ASSES!

I DON’T EVEN FUCKING USE SHAMPOO - JUST A DOCTORED UP CONDITIONER! LIKE THE BADASS UP THERE SAID, LEAVING CONDITIONER IN YOUR HAIR MAKES IT SO DAMN SOFT ITS RIDICULOUS. 

SHAMPOO ALSO THROWS THE PH OF YOUR HAIR OFF! YOUR SCALP IS SUPPOSED TO BE MILDLY ACIDIC, AND THOSE DETERGENTS STRIP OFF THE REPAIRING OILS *AND* MAKES IT BASIC! 

YOU DON’T WANT BASIC-ASS HAIR! 

SO I TOSS A FEW TABLESPOONS OF LEMON JUICE INTO MY CONDITIONER BOTTLE, SHAKE IT UP, SLATHER SOME ON MY HEAD, WASH THE REST OF MY GORGEOUS BODY WHILE THAT SHIT SOAKS IN, THEN RINSE LIKE A BOSS. 

WORRIED ABOUT NOT BEING ‘CLEAN?’ FORGET IT! CONDITIONER + LEMON JUICE WORKS JUST AS WELL, LIFTING DIRT AND SWEATY SKIN CELLS OUT OF YOUR GLORIOUS MANE. 

NO NEED FOR EXPENSIVE SHAMPOOS OR SALON CONDITIONER - THE 3-DOLLAR ‘SUAVE’ OR WHATEVER GENERIC-ASS CONDITIONER YOU WANT WILL WORK JUST AS WELL! (actually, the cheaper the better - cheap conditioners tend not to have silicones added, which weighs your hair down, and needs strong detergents to strip out, continuing the cycle of expensive products.)

SO YEAH! CANDY COLORED DYE + CHEAP CONDITIONER + LEMON JUICE - SHAMPOO = GLORIOUS, PUPPY-SOFT HAIR AND LESS DANDRUFF FROM AN UNHAPPY SCALP! 

*I also add two drops of mint and rosemary essential oils to my shampoo, along with the lemon juice. Those oils repel ticks/fleas/lice AND smell magical together*