Livin My Best Mermaid Life

Spoiled Wife🤎 Moodboard | “Your husband spoils you all the time! 💳✨”

💰I will be an investment.

💍 I will be in a happy & financially stable marriage. 

Moodboard ✨

Spoiled Adventurous Girlfriend/Wife 🤎

✨I will be treated to expensive vacations with my well-established husband. 

✨He will gift me luxury vacation houses.

“This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously.”

1. Always look like you’re about to run into your ex or worst enemy. Hot as fuck. Ready to slay. And remember, greasy hair, chipped nails, bad fitting clothes have no place in your level up journey. Aim to look immaculate. Find what clothes suit your body shape and stick to those styles. Use Pinterest, and Instagram for style inspo. 

2. Arouse everyone’s senses around you with expensive perfume. Everything about you should scream luxury and regal energy. Oil based perfumes have more depth and smell rich as apposed to overpowering au de toilette. So stay away from anything cheap and sweet. Luxury fragrance brands such as Penhaligons, Le Labo, and Tom Ford are good options. Spray a little of each for a unique scent. Smelling divine on a date levels you up from a 5 to a 10 instantly. 

3. No dates where it’s easy for him and harder for you. Dating has to work for you from the get go. Never go out of your way for a man you’ve just met. He needs to learn from the very beginning that he has to put in work and that means dating is convenient for you, so regardless of how the date goes, you benefit. If you’re meeting him in the evening, make sure it’s a dinner so you don’t need to cook that night. Have a list of favourite restaurants and tick them all off with different dates. He wants to spend the day with you? He can take you for a spa day, that way you get massage, champagne and relaxation out of the date. Men are going to want this to be easy, they’re going to want to invite you over for a movie and take-out, or ‘cook for you’ after the first date and ladies this is a simple test to see how easy you are. He either takes you to that Michelin star restaurant or bye Felica. Next. 

4. Under no conditions do you spend any money to meet this man or spend time with him. There is only gains when it comes to dating, which means no losses, and no spending your own money because ‘you thought it would be polite to split the bill’ is a basic move. Get comfortable with smiling and continuing the conversation when the bills comes. If the man suggests splitting the bill, smile and tell him ‘you’ll get the next one’ and be sure to block and delete that dusties number while he’s paying. We never waste any time on basic men. 

5. We don’t deliver pussy. Ever. This means, no house dates. Don’t put yourself in a position for a man to lure you into the bedroom. It’s not worth it, all the post date anxiety about if he will call, and what are we now. No honey, just no. Keep your legs closed and meet him only in public. There will be plenty of time for house dates once you’re with your chosen man. This also filters out the men who are after a quick bang vs the men who want to get to know you.

6. No chasing. Chasing a man implies he’s running from you. You don’t chase anyone, the only thing you should be chasing is your dreams and goals. You need to have the confidence to know that what is meant for you will not pass you by. And chasing a man and feeling stressed and anxious is not a healthy start to any relationship. If you find this is your default feeling when you get close to a guy, or constantly feel triggered when dating, I recommend CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to work through these issues (otherwise if you don’t seek help you may continue to play out the same situations). 

7. Always have at least 3 men on your dating roster. In the world of dating apps (even during pandemic), the turn over can be crazy fast, one week he is your number one guy, the next week you find out he’s heartbroken over his ex and he can’t see you no more. Or maybe he realises you’re not an easy fuck so disappears suddenly. Whatever the reason, you need to remember ALL these men are disposable and replaceable, keep your options open. Always. Never over invest, men are the best actors and often can take weeks if not months to start seeing their true colours. This is the reason why you need options, as soon as one guy drops off, be prepared to replace him with another. 

8. Get clear on your dealbreakers. Actually, get crystal clear on what you’re looking for. Understand what type of man is going to give you the life you dream of. If you love luxury and finer things in life, then why date the guy who only takes public transport and only enjoys basic restaurants? Make sure you date men who are going to elevate you to where you want to be in life. Not men who are going to have you stuck in a life you don’t want or desire.

9. Learn the art of charm, flirting, and feminine energy. Watch films, read books, study women like Marilyn Monroe, and Cleopatra. These women had men hooked, learn from the master seductresses. 

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- that i got from various YouTube videos ages ago and to be honest i just wanted to get all of this out of my phone notes…

• start working at a desk: you’re less likely to work if you’re on your bed or sofa because your brain associates these places with relaxing.

• keep updating your reasons for achieving your goals to keep you motivated, one reason might not be enough.

• get rid of your phone or put it elsewhere: it is a huge distraction and when you look back you’ll regret all the time you spent on it when you could have been doing something productive.

• go to environments that will encourage you to achieve your goals.

• stop being comfortable - do things + go places that make you feel uncomfortable. ‘comfort. the enemy of progress’.

• if you feed your mind knowledge, it makes it smart. watch at least one lecture, TedTalk or documentary everyday.

• if you feed your mind brutal honesty, it makes it strong. be honest with yourself and be real about what you’re doing wrong and how you will improve.

• if you feed your mind useless content, it makes it lazy. try to reduce the time you spend endlessly scrolling on instagram.

• watch interviews with successful people - people who have already achieved the thing you aspire to.

• ask yourself questions about why you do things to learn who you are, e.g. why do i do x? what does it achieve?

• to change yourself, its essential to know what you have to change.

• stop thinking about other people’s lives + problems.

• after you have learned something, teach it to somebody.

• have a normal, constant bedtime: life first, then fun, no compromise on the time of sleep.

• reduce excuses + maximize actions.

• try to be extensively cultivated, it shows discipline + self development.

• read books when you can: classics, fiction, non-fiction, romance, sci-fi…anything.

• surround yourself with people that challenge + stretch your ideas and tell you when you’re wrong.

• take time for self care.

ღ 𝔓𝔯𝔦𝔪𝔯𝔬𝔰𝔢-𝔅𝔩𝔲𝔰𝔥 ღ

When we talk about putting ourselves first, we are not saying we should be a narcissistic, self-centered woman. NO!

It intends that you recognize your worth and what you deserve as a high-value lady. Each time someone does a certain act or suggestion that makes you feel insignificant, you will discard them.

You can’t give what you don’t own!

Loving yourself doesn’t make you selfish at all, you can’t set your mental/ physical/ emotional health aside for the well-being of someone just because you suppose they are worthy of it.

Here is how you can put yourself first:

1- Work on yourself:

Learn and improve yourself, set goals, have visions, Exercise, Diet...

This way you can notice your hard work, and you’ll admire yourself for it! Think about why do we become attracted to successful people? It’s their hard work, how they are growing to a better person each day which makes us love them!

Take your time doing this, don’t rush!

2- Set your standards:

Think about your future partner, how do you want him to be?

Think about your friends, what are the qualities you need them to have?

Don’t settle for less! Because you’ll have to give up on your standards in a certain time and you’ll find out you’re giving more than what you receive!

3- Learn how to say No/ when to let go:

Sorrowfully, we (most of us) were raised to think that placing other people’s demands before ours is the proper thing to do. Hence, most of our life was wasted into attempting to please others (which is impossible). Half the work is already completed, If you followed the advice previously mentioned. Yes, it will be laborious at first, but the more you use the word the easier it will get!

Book suggestion:

The Power Of Putting YourSELF First -  Shawanna Kennedy

When It's Never About You: The People-Pleaser's Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom  -  Ilene S. Cohen

Fringe Hours: Making Time For You -  Jessica N. Turner

1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye

2. Smile

3. Stop apologizing

4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (and with - but not at - others!)

5. Dress in a way that conveys self-worth

6. Use good manners (like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’) as this is actually a mark of self respect

When you are an SB, it is important for you to play the part in your SD’s life, meaning be well educated about things and have proper etiquette and KNOW your wine… or have at least an idea about wine and food paring.

 So here, my hoes a little basic overview (if want to learn more about wine, just google that shit out!)

Just like adding milk into coffee will change its texture and taste; food when interacting with wine will affect its flavor. Different ingredients and preparation methods will bring out different taste sensations with the same bottle of wine.

There are a lot of pairing guidelines, but only one universal pairing principle –

A good pairing is when the food and wine do not overshadow each other. Wine and food can complement or contrast each other, as long as they do not mask each other’s unique flavor and characteristics.

Factors to Consider when Pairing

When pairing food, you are really complementing or contrasting four elements. The way the dish is prepared and cooked will affect these elements:

Body/ weight: heavy, medium, or light-body? Flavor intensity: weak, moderate, strong? Aroma: earthy, fruity, grassy, or herbal? Taste: sweet, spicy, acidic, sour, bitter?

Example 1: Most people prefer pairing Cabernet Sauvignon with steaks because they are both full-bodied, strong flavor, and the protein in the meat will soften the tannin in the wine. A venturing wine lover may pair a red steak with a full-bodied white Roussanne.

Example 2: With spicy, strong flavor Thai dishes, the classic gourmets would go for a Riesling. Its neutrality will complement Thai cuisine’s spices. Its acidity and med bodied will match the weight of the food. A venturing wine lover may pair with Gewurztraminer or Marsanne.

Our Favorite Wine and Food Pairings:

It is not always white wine with white meat… Pinot Noir, Beaujolais, Chianti are few handful reds that pair well with chicken. Below we have listed our favorite pairings as a good starting point:

Western Dishes:

Chicken – Full-bodied whites (Chardonnay, Chenin Blanc) or light reds (Beaujolais, Pinot Noir, Rioja, Chianti) Foie Gras / Pate - Sweet whites (Sauternes, Riesling Spatlese, Tokaji) Green Salad – Herby whites (Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Blanc, Sancerre, Pouilly-Fume, Vinho Verde) Grilled Fish – Light to medium bodied whites (Sauvignon Blanc, Vinho Verde, Chablis) Pasta (red sauce) – acidic reds (Barbera, Chianti, Zinfandel / Primitivo, Valpolicella) Pasta (white sauce) – fuller bodied whites (Chardonnay, Viognier, Gavi, Pinot Gris) Pizza - Sparkling or a fruity red (Prosecco, Barbera, Dolcetto, Valpolicella) Raw or steamed shellfish – Crisp, acidic wines (Champagne, Sauvignon Blanc, Chablis) Steak – Full-bodied red (Cabernet, Merlot, Syrah, Malbec, Barolo)

Asian Cuisines:

Chinese – Riesling, Gewurztraminer, Sauvignon Blanc, and Pinot Noir Japanese Sushi – Beaujolais, Sauvignon Blanc, Riesling Spicy Thai / Indian Curry – Viognier, Riesling, Gewurztraminer, Rousanne

Cheese:

Creamy soft brie or camembert – Champagne, Pinot Noir, Chardonnay, dry Riesling Strong goat cheese – Sancerre, Sauvignon Blanc, Pouilly-Fume Hard / Aged cheese – Bordeaux, Cabernet Sauvignon, Brunello, Dolcetto, Merlot, white Burgundy Semi-hard cheese – Semillon, Rioja Smoked cheese – Gewurztraminer, Sauternes, Shiraz Blue cheese – Sauternes, Banyuls, Port, Late harvest wines, Madeira, Amarone;

Last but not least, some PAIRING TIPS:

Acidic wines go well with many dishes. Sauvignon Blanc, dry Riesling, Chianti are great examples. In addition, acidic wines make salty dishes appear less salty. For fatty food such as foie gras, try Sauternes (an equally rich and intense wine). For spicy food, try fruity, low-alcohol wines such as Riesling and Gewurztraminer. Sweet food goes well with a bottle that is slightly sweeter.