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Unless they actually walk in on domestic violence happening or catch a home invader red-handed in your antique jewelry, they’re kinda useless.

Like I’ve been in some of those scenarios and watched that happen first hand. They show up, half-assedly offer their condolences, ask you a bunch of times if you’re SURE what you say happened even happened anyway, maybe take a statement and leave and never do anything with that statement

“Statistically, U.S. law enforcement agencies are the worst crime solvers in the Western world. According to official data, there are arrests for about one-eighth of burglaries, about one-third of rapes, and about two-thirds of murders. But official methods of reporting can distort and exaggerate murder clearance rates, and the official clearance rate has held steady for three decades, despite strong declines in the rate murders are being committed.

According to FBI statistics, Flint, Michigan has the worst murder clearance rate at 17.5%. It is followed by Honolulu, Hawaii (18.8%), Midland, Michigan (23.1%), Saginaw, Michigan (23.3%), and Lima, Ohio (24.5%).”

and now we have artists like ariana grande, nicki minaj, fifth harmony, daya, etc (this isn’t a callout post for them i don’t care about them as individuals i’m just commenting on a trend in pop culture perpetrated by the music industry) who put out music with feminist sentiments but absolutely no evidence of actively rebelling against societal expectations for women. “i don’t need boys i don’t need to be pretty i don’t need to be sexy” performed in scantily clad clothing with makeup sponsored by perfume and makeup companies is proof that capitalistic pressure has kind of destroyed the rebellious nature of the feminist movement.

so now we have a generation of girls raised on the internet convinced that performing femininity and caking their natural face in makeup in order to conform to unrealistic standards of beauty, placing their worth in their physical appearance inherently by paying money in order to appease some made up standard of what is acceptable for women, and they’ve convinced themselves that this, this conformity of expectation of feminist for women, is inherently feminist?

like it sucks like you guys know feminism is a counteractive movement right? like you know to be feminist is to rebel right? it’s not enough to consume pretty, neat, but wholly hypocritical ideals of feminism. it’s lazy. we have a generation of girls who want to adhere to expectations for women, who want to become that ideal that men have constructed, but now because they “reclaimed” it, that’s feminist?

like no sorry you Can do those things you Can put on makeup and shave and look pretty and girl you Can but don’t pretend that’s feminist it’s literally not. you’re not helping feminism the commodification of feminism is not helpful. men are not upset by you saying “the future is female” when you still look pretty and pink and non-threatening. we aren’t liberated by expectation just because you are now accepting of it. feminism is not complacency.

also like women today who love makeup And feminism mocking gnc women sound exactly like men in the 70s who protested feminism on the basis that it makes women “man hating lesbians” so congrats?

Quoting someone’s radical ideas to a new audience without consent can expose them to dangerous attention. Reposts are harder to censor and remove than reblog chains. Being a decent writer shouldn’t mean we get popular and acquire social power. Valuing popularity encourages empty ‘hot take’ culture.

The modern western marriage custom of a father’s “giving away the bride” is a remnant from the time when the father sold his daughter for money. This commodity exchange, the bride price paid by a husband to a father, continued in Europe until shortly after the Crusades, when a lot of men had died and the bottom dropped out of the bride market. According to the economics of supply and demand, the bride price was abandoned and fathers began to give their daughters away for free. To this day, the marriage ceremony is a ritual reminder that title to a woman’s body has been transferred from one male owner to another.”

Nos vemos en las calles. 

Wow I actually never get asks on this blog 😅

Personally, first and foremost, what I believe shouldn’t dictate your life. If you don’t like what I have to say, there’s thousands of blogs which support you and what you believe, likewise for me.

This is what I believe. You said it yourself. You can acknowledge anatomical sex. Anything past anatomical sex is not something that is hard wired into the body by science. There isn’t some meter in people’s brain which has chemicals making them more feminine or like certain things. It’s called a personality. “Gender expression” is really either just someone having a personality or it’s based off stereotypes. To me, I really can’t see it any other way.

Men can wear makeup, wear dresses, do feminine things, this doesn’t make them a woman or anything comparing to a woman, because that argument would include the sexist thinking that woman = feminine.

Thank you for being so civil and respectful. I had found a similar blog to yours (I don’t even remember how I stumbled upon it) and I tried to have a civil conversation with them and they were rude. I felt rather offended by their blog as well.

You are absolutely right, what you or anyone, for that matter, believes shouldn’t dictate anyone’s life. I stand by the sentiment.

I have actually wondered that perhaps there is some science involved and that may influence one’s brain and their thoughts regarding masculinity and femininity. Like perhaps someone can have some more male or female chromosomes than others or something of that nature. But I could be completely wrong, and I haven’t seen anything about it.

You say stereotypes, I say cultural influences.

As I was growing up, I immediately noticed that I liked girls as well as boys. And when I was figuring out who I was, I thought that perhaps I was just a tomboy or that because I like women, I would feel masculine sometimes, that it’s probably some “gay thing.” But, it wasn’t like that.

I’m very comfortable with my female body, but sometimes I do wish I could shapeshift into a man. Occasionally, I do wish I had those experiences that only men go through.

I think there is nothing wrong with the cultural representation of femininity or masculinity, except of course the negative stuff presented in media and such. Sure, we’re either born male or female (intersex, too), but in whatever culture someone lives in, masculinity and femininity are displayed.

Gender Identity

“

1: the totality of physical and behavioral traits that are designated by a culture as masculine or feminine

2: a person’s internal sense of being male, female, some combination of male and female, or neither male or female

” - https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gender%20identity

“Gender identity can correlate with assigned sex at birth, or can differ from it. All societies have a set of gender categories that can serve as the basis of the formation of a person’s social identity in relation to other members of society. In most societies, there is a basic division between gender attributes assigned to males and females, a gender binary to which most people adhere and which includes expectations of masculinity and femininity in all aspects of sex and gender: biological sex, gender identity, and gender expression.” - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity

https://www.genderspectrum.org/quick-links/understanding-gender/

I’m horrible with words, so here are some definitions to show what I’m trying to explain. Cultural influences are not going to go away, and I think many don’t think twice about it. It’s like second nature.

(Also, you said gender expression, but there’s a difference between that and gender identity. Sometimes they can correlate)

I love feeling masculine, wearing men’s clothing, sitting with my legs spread, talking with a deep voice, etc. It makes me feel good. and so does being feminine.

I do understand and somewhat agree with your statement, “Men can wear makeup, wear dresses, do feminine things, this doesn’t make them a woman or anything comparing to a woman” and I guess that’s sexist. It is our culture that influences “women = feminine”  and vice versa. You see this as a negative (I presume), and I see it as a positive. Well, actually I’m indifferent about it.

One time I was at school moving a table towards me, and when another person pushed it, helping me, it hit my privates. Afterward, I kept thinking, I wish I was a man, I wanted it to hurt. At that moment, I wanted that feeling, and it didn’t happen despite feeling very masculine at that point, because I have a female body.

I loved when someone accidentally called me sir. I love the idea and wish someone would refer to me as “he” or “Asher” occasionally. I think this all goes way deeper than some people realize for others who are gender-fluid and other gender identities.

Yes, perhaps there should be changes regarding how men and women are perceived in society/culture, like men being superior or some better example that I can’t think of, like err women are sexualized more and men are brought up to never show emotion, shit like that. Except, I think there are good things that shouldn’t be taken out of proportion, and gender identity is one of them. As well as gender expression, and sexual orientation.

I’ve seen the genderbread person, I’ve heard the stories, and I’ve done my fair share of research. I understand where you are coming from, I really do. I only wish you would do the same for Radical Feminism and do the due diligence and research to see it’s nothing like what people outside of it describe it to be. I have no interest in hearing about more liberal feminist thoughts because I am surrounded by them, constantly, throughout the liberal experience I was brought up in.

What I am interested and why I run this blog is to be devoted to the cause I am most deeply attached to and that is sex based oppression. My fight and my causes are all documented on this blog. I love learning about the things I am interested in, and after 10+ years of liberal feminism I am no longer interested in such. I’ve seen it, I’ve heard it, I’ve done it, I’ve been entrenched in it.