justice for asexual vampires

Once you separate those two concepts, a LOT more possibilities come into view, because in actuality, sex is just one of many possible ways of satisfying a hunger for intimacy. Some people feed that hunger by snuggling, or hair-washing, or other forms of non-sexual physical contact. Some people fill it with shared activities and hobbies, like playing video games or board games or doing a puzzle or going hiking or taking a class together or chilling at the library. Some people fill it by talking for hours or sharing secrets they’d never tell anyone else, either in person or online. Some people fill it with small acts of service, like cooking for someone or bringing them flowers. Some people fill it with just sitting together in companionable, comfortable silence. All of these can be intimacy.

This is how sexual and asexual people can have happy, fulfilling relationships with each other – it just requires more conversations about what the two of you specifically need to mutually feel like you’re thriving in the relationship. That answer is going to be different for every single person – and that is a wonderful and joyful opportunity to explore your options and get to know yourself better! There’s no rulebook! If you feel happy and satiated afterwards (or “peaceful” or “energized” or whatever label you’d put on the Good feeling after getting this need met), then you’re doing it right.

the way fandoms are desperate to make all aroace characters romance and sex favorable but then dont do anything remotely similar to any other identity is astounding. hmm i wonder why

If you’re asexual because of a traumatic situation (or several), that’s perfectly valid.

Aphobes like to say people are only asexual because they have trauma, and obviously that’s not true for everybody, so lots of people speak up about it.

But those of us who are anywhere on the asexual spectrum due to trauma are just as valid as every other asexual.

And i mean all of us.

The hypersexual asexuals

The sex repulsed asexuals

The asexuals who don’t know if they’re comfortable with ever being intimate again

The asexuals who are comfortable in their identity

The young and old asexuals