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hey, thanks. i’m actually no longer a part of a triad and i don’t identify as polyamorous anymore. after over a year of trying to exist in that relationship dynamic my mental health deteriorated greatly and i realised that, as well as the problems which were specific to my relationship, polyamory is not for me. for the sake of whatever respect i once had for my ex partners i won’t discuss my old triad any more.

i will say that, i know everyone preaches this, but seriously communication is absolutely vital. relying on friends for support is great if you have that option but please make sure that any final communication is with your partner(s), they’re the one(s) who need to hear it. also jealousy is totally normal, but not every single day. if you ever feel yourself feeling jealousy very often, and that jealousy doesn’t truly dissipate even after communicating your feelings/trying to find a solution or compromise, please don’t let yourself suffer. make sure that you’re not sacrificing your happiness or mental health for the sake of staying in the relationship. any relationship requires sacrifice and compromise, but it is never ever worth losing a part of yourself. and never let yourself feel like you’re someone’s second choice, you deserve so much more than that.

i don’t think 16 is too young to explore polyamory, and if a few years down the line you find yourself no longer identifying that way that’s okay! until the age of 19 i insisted i was gay even though i knew in my heart that i’m bi, and i let my fear of being judged for “taking a step back” or losing some kinda queer brownie points stop me from coming out and being my true self sooner. so as long as you’re being true to yourself and not actively hurting anyone else, you do you my friend! 

as for telling your parents it’s hard to say becasue idk what they’re like. my mum accepted it although i could tell she didn’t take it very seriously because i’m a student, so unfortunately your age might be a factor in how they react. just try your best to be honest and if you need any more guidance here please come off anon and ask!

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