Trans Help For All

Hello, 

I’m sorry that your friend reacted that way! That is very odd, she may be projecting her own insecurities about trans identities onto you, unfairly. Knowing you are a trans guy is awesome! I’m glad that you were able to figure that out for yourself. 

This friend sounds like she may not have your best interest at heart, which is not something you need in a friendship. Do you have other friends you can turn to that will be more supportive of you? You deserve to be loved and supported in friendships!

Hello, 

I know this feeling very well, my friend. Please do not lose hope. Sometimes things feel so intense and overwhelming it’s hard to deal with them. Do you have any other support networks, such as friends or other family members who may be more open to listen to what you have to say? If you don’t feel free to message us again and we can be here to listen and support you as much as we can from the internet, haha. 

I cry all the time and it really does give a good release. Dylan’s favorite trick to get a good cry is to watch videos of servicemen/women coming home from being away and surprising either their pets or their families. 

I personally find that writing my feelings down really helps me put things in perspective. Even if I just write really negative things down, at least I’m getting them out. 

You can get through this. You’re already so strong coming out as FTM to yourself, you can continue. 

Feel free to write back not anon if you would like to continue the conversation!

We're very close and I don't want her to be weirded out or confused about my transition, but I want her to understand it. I'm also not sure how to explain to her that I'm changing my name, I don't want her to hate me. Any help/tips? Thanks! (2)

Hello! There are many books available geared towards kids that start the conversation about gender and gender variation. I highly recommend the books by Cory Silverberg What Makes a Baby and Sex is  Funny Word. I also have a little brother who is the same age and What Makes a Baby  is one of his favorite books. Both of the books are more focused on bodies and sex education but do an excellent job normalizing trans people, specifically in Sex is a Funny Word, where one of the main characters is trans identified. 

There are also other books, such as Meet Polkadot, which may also help facilitate the conversation. Your sister loves you and even if it’s a little rough at first, she won’t stop loving you! 

Hello, 

Starting transitioning often looks different depending on where you live! The easiest thing I would suggest would be to go to your personal care physician or another general practitioner and say that you are transgender and would like to start testosterone. The PCP/GP would then either refer you to a gender therapist or another specialist or they may prescribe it to you themselves. It really depends on where you are and how that healthcare network works. 

Hello, 

That sounds like a really crappy situations. Those kids are obviously wrong because you need to be a lady to have lady bits! You know you are a boy and that’s what’s most important. I’m sorry about your teacher, I hope he has been better about your pronouns since this occasion. If you live in the United States and attend a public school, knowing and malicious misgendering of you is sexual harassment and you are protected under Title IX, if that gives you some extra confidence! 

Hello!

Happy birthday! Perhaps if they ask you if there is anything you would like, you could send them a link to a binder? Or put one on your amazon wishlist, if you use those. That is stressful though. If you get money for your birthday, perhaps you could use that to purchase one for yourself? 

Hello!

That was very inappropriate of your manager! I’m sorry that that had transpired. Would you feel comfortable speaking to them about how those comments might affect people? If not speaking in person, perhaps write an email? 

Hello, 

I’m sorry that your friends were snooping! That was very inappropriate of them. But since they now know about your trans-ness, they perhaps feel upset because they felt as if you were hiding something from them, which sounds reasonable giving their past behavior. You can be straight forward with them, telling them that you are not comfortable speaking about gender and sexuality with them, as that is something very personal to you and they should respect that. Your gender and sexuality are nobody’s business but your own!

Hello there! 

That sounds like a very stressful situation you are in. I’m proud of you for starting to think about your gender more and realize what is best for you, despite how scary it may seem! Perhaps it might be helpful if you slowly start sharing information about trans-ness with your family and mom? There are books out there geared towards parents of trans people that help break down this information. There are also resources for the intersection of the Christian faith and transgender identities that may help bridge this conversation. Let us know if you would like these resources. 

Hello,

The metal clasps make me a little weary about flying, as that might cause you some issues when you go through the scanner. I personally would be hesitant about binding with that specific binder going through security. You could always keep your binder in your backpack/carry on so that right after you are through security you can change into it before you get onto your flight.