trans fats are good for you

Dearly wish I could be helping someone turn their double chin into a triple chin like this right about now 😍🐷

Gonna have pizza and cake for the third time this week, pretty sure that's not going to affect my svelte figure at all (heavy sarcasm).

for example. freddie called his first boyfriend “pudding” which is pretty normal right. kind of a common pet name for a significant other. I always felt like it had a fat-teasing connotation to it, but I was just projecting.

well today I found a note from freddie to “pudding” with this on it:

“My dearest & precious cherub, I thought I’d finally get it together and write you my first little card - Hope all’s going well with you & go easy on those business lunches or else you’re going to burst before I can get back to you — You’re going to have to fit into one of my cat-suits if it kills you (probably will).”

Okay, we’ve all seen the hate gainers sometimes get if they announce that they’ve decided to lose weight. And for every hate message, there’s always the handful of comments with some variation of “good on you for choosing to do what you want with your body. I support you no matter what! It’s okay to lose weight!”

But ~hold on~ – outside of kink spaces, we know that congratulating someone on losing weight perpetuates the false idea that intentional weight loss is always healthy, encourages people with eating disorders to normalize and continue their disordered behaviors, and reinforces the dominant messaging that wanting a smaller body is something to be congratulated no matter what.

At the same time, we really care about the gainers in our community and don't want to just stand by when we see harmful and abusive comments. So what are some things we could say instead to counter those voices giving them shit for deciding to stop gaining?

To the shitty anons:

“We don’t police people’s bodies in this community.”

“Everyone belongs in our community as long as they respect others’ boundaries, consent, and autonomy.”

“That’s pretty entitled to tell someone they have to do something just because it’s your kink.”

“Mind your own fucking business.”

"lmao you think people have to be constantly gaining to be gainers?? mid"

To a partner or friend:

“I care about you no matter what your body size is.”

"I'm here for you if you want to talk more about how you've been feeling about (gaining/this kink/body image stuff/health stuff/etc.)."

Especially if they’ve disclosed to you they have a history of disordered eating: “Thank you for telling me. To be honest though, it makes me worry because I know you’ve struggled with staying in a mentally and physically healthy place when you’ve tried to lose weight in the past. What are your thoughts about that?”

To an acquaintance or stranger on the internet:

Nothing!

It is actually entirely possible and fine to say nothing!

Just like when your aunt talks about a new fad diet she’s trying, you can do the online equivalent of nodding politely and giving a good ole noncommittal “hm” before changing the subject, which is to not comment at all just keep on scrolling.

Weight loss announcements don't need to be fed any kind of attention, especially when you don’t have any background on the baggage that might be associated with weight loss for an acquaintance or stranger on the internet! And the internet stranger may not even need or want your personal intervention to defend their weight loss.

"You're still a gainer/feedee if you're not able to maintain your weight 100% of the time or keep up a constant growth for your entire life; that's an unrealistic expectation to put on yourself and others."

"Feeders and encouragers are not entitled to feedees' and gainers' bodies and don't get to make the rules for what they should be doing with their bodies."

"Sometimes we don't have control over what our bodies do when it comes to weight, such as with medical conditions or medications, and that has no bearing on how welcome someone is in this community or whether they're 'allowed to' show, celebrate, or express their sexuality with their body."

"Both celebrating and being openly judgemental toward specific individuals about weight loss are not welcome in this community, as they shouldn't be anywhere else, too. Don't harass people for their decisions about their body or treat them like a sex object who has betrayed you, personally, if you don't like the decision they are making about their body. Fat people are forced to live in an extremely fatphobic environment with a lot of complex forces pressuring them to lose weight and are often put in coercive, impossible decisions by people who have power over them."

"There are choices, support, and resources out there (and within this community) if you feel like you have no choice but to go along with the pressures of your fatphobic environment - and even if you really have no choice than to capitulate to oppression for your safety, we're still here for you."

pushing food on him all hours of the day because they like watching him eat, even as he loses his catlike reflexes and starts to get out of breath from simply walking around the house. Which naturally results in him sitting around eating and sleeping even more.