Alice's Sorrows

“From V to V”

That is the truth behind the Lolita aesthetic. Not the heart-shaped sunglasses, lollipops, pigtails, or red lipstick. Not the sexualization of a teenage girl. Not the female manipulator. Not the young woman in search of an older man. Not Lana Del Rey. Lolita is an indictment of everything it expresses. An indictment. Lolita is the plight of a 12 year old girl's childhood. Lolita is a child being raped, beaten, starved, trafficked and sold by her stepfather. Lolita is an indictment against incestuous abuse, csa, and child sex trafficking. Lolita has only one moral: don't harm children. Lolita is not a female manipulator. Lolita is not a seductress nor a temptress. Lolita is a title in which a pedophile utilizes to dehumanize a poor child as a means to justify raping her. Lolita, as a title, places the blame entirely onto the child by portraying her as a demonic temptress, as the perpetrator opposed to the victim. This is what my mother did to me when I tried to tell her my father raped me. She called me a “fast ass little girl.” She made me a Lolita.

You don't want to be a Lolita. You don't want to be raped every night by your father and having no choice but to stay with him because where else is there for a 12 year old girl to go? You don't want to be beaten within an inch of your life as a means to enforce your submission to him. You don't want to be nearly starved to death under his care that solely relies on you dissociating as he rips apart your insides. You don't want to be trafficked and sold to another man with nothing but the intent to sexually exploit you. You don't want a Humbert. You don't want an incestuously abusive father. I had one. And it ruined me forever.

As an former nymphet, as a former Lolita, please stop sexualizing Dolores Haze's trauma and pain because her pain is my pain and my pain is real. As is the pain of many girl children whom are still suffering through this fate in our current era.