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"i was a transtrender" no you werent. you were just questioning your identity and then you decided that wasn't for you. that's a fucking healthy thing to do. fuck off lmao
Questioning is:
-healthy
-common
-normal
Questioning isn't:
-an excuse to be transphobic towards often young individuals
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The adhd modes of food
1. You ate that burger so fast. You ate that burger so fucking fast and now the whole Red Robin is staring at you god what the fuck
2. You started eating like a normal person, but then you started talking or daydreaming and now the waitress is handing you the check but youâve still got half a plate of cold fettuccine
3. You were going to go out to eat, but then you saw a video in your YouTube recommendation that drew you towards it like moth to a flame, and now itâs 10 pm and youâve got an empty bag of tortilla chips in your hand and shame in your heart
4. Mac And Cheese
5. You got engrossed in a project, suddenly you feel like youâre going to die, or faint, or both? Oh. youâre hungry.
6. Youâre hungry. But every food you can think of sounds disgusting. Time for your 15th day of lunchables for breakfast in a row.
7. You have food in the house. You did good. You made a meal plan(ish). You made a shopping list. You bought good food to cook with. Now youâre either too tired to cook after planning, listing, shopping and putting it all away and you order in or thereâs Too Many Choices and your brain has shut off and you order in
i think theres an important thing that people are missing w this jk rowling shit which is, at time of writing harry potter she was not a terf. theres absolutely transphobic beliefs that make their way into the books as plenty of people have pointed out, but at the time it was likeâŚ. The Normal Amount Of Transphobia For Most Cis People like thats not better but its a vERY different brand of transmisogyny than specifically terf shit is. And also none of it is like⌠core elements of the harry potter mythos or story either its offhand minor shit that is basically irrelevant to anything else happening.Â
but we watched that standard base level transphobia develop into her becoming a terf literally AS IT HAPPENED because it happened on twitter, as she well-meaningly tried to get into feminism stuff over the last decade-ish and fell into terf circles that she didnt know enough about at the beginning to know they were wrong and now shes dug herself so deep into them that its too late to change her mind.Â
im not saying this as like⌠therefore you can still like harry potter its ok (altho u can u just have to not be stupid about it), and this certainly does not apply to the blatant racism, antisemitism, and serophobia that is actually much more prevalent in the content of the books than her transphobia is (those have likeâŚ. actual plot points made of them).Â
but what i am saying is that this is exactly how terfs work. and its a lot easier to say âoh she was always a terf we should have knownâ or dismiss her out of hand as garbage that anyone who even tangentially still enjoys harry potter is ~actively supporting~. Tbh it seems like a lot of people are actually just using this as a fun excuse to talk shit about something they dont like or think is cringy, which is really missing the point. What really needs to happen and what trans women have been telling us for ages is that terfs are not stupid and we need to really acknowledge that terfs know how to use their rhetoric to get genuinely well-meaning people on side, how easy it can be to fall into it, and how pervasive terf beliefs become when left unchecked on the internet and people without the full context think theyre normal feminists. People refusing to examine thought processes that have been repeatedly pointed out as terf bullshit and letting things spread because its funny on the surface or because u dont want to learn the dogwhistles is literally what led us here.
this is NOT a defense of jk rowling, shes been like this for years now and mainly im tired of having the conversation every 6 months or so whenever she tweets something dumb, but acting like this was ~inevitable~ instead of the very predictable result of a specific internet culture that is being allowed to spread its messages bc yall underestimate them isâŚ. irresponsible and unhelpful. its fun to clown on jk rowling but most of yall are not actually the harmed party here and it feels really disingenuous to be likeâŚ. haha hp was shit all along and i knew it likeâŚ. thats really⌠not the point.
He was a trans man you fucking freaks
Imagine hating trans men so much that you read the history of someone who presented as a man for so long that most people only discovered he was ~biologically female~ after his fucking autopsy and be like âwell clearly he was just gender fluidâ Iâm fucking
he specifically asked to be buried in the clothes he died in!!!!! we only know he was trans bc someone disrespected his direct wishes after his death!!!!!!
There seems to be this trend among The Straights to use âgenderfluidâ as a way of saying âTrans but not like, *too* transâ and I really really hate it.
Which is insulting to genderfluid people too, like, no we are not your âget out of transphobia freeâ card, we are a distinct identity and are not just some keyword excuse, THANK YOU.
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Iâm not saying that thereâs no value in making this critique when it specifically arises, but like I feel like thereâs a disproportionate amount of posts and discussion from upper/middle class cis women abt âprogressive men just pretend to be gender non conforming by wearing eyeliner but otherwise are literally identically situated in gender as any other manâ (and its close , more explicit cousin, âmost camab nbs are just men trying to get out of critiques of misogynyâ) compared to how much it is ⌠actually a social issue from my experience wrt menâs mistreatment of women? And I think that there is something to the disproportionate focus going on there that might have some shades of homophobia or transmisogyny or whatever going on within the extremely reductive feminist lens of gender heavily implied there
That is to say, usually when I see this argument there is always some comment like this coming:
And I think itâs really unimaginable not to see how 1) transmisogyny or general feminist homophobia might be at play here and 2) how this kinda comment wonât naturally just keep happening on these sorts of posts because of something structural w the original point
cis people be like (misgenders nonbinary person), (misgenders nonbinary person) (misgenders nonbinary person), (uses they/them for a trans woman), (misgenders nonbinary person)
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going on testosterone is so exciting im so glad to finally go through my himboification
my special friend calls it his PP Juice and I started calling it PP Up from Pokemon and so now itâs the PP Up Juice.
i know ive posted about this before but the thing my therapist said to me that affected me the most out of anything while I was questioning was this:
You don't have to 'cope' with your assigned gender. If you would feel more comfortable doing something else and it's not hurting anyone, that's allowed.
If you're sitting there thinking 'i could cope and survive as my gender for the rest of my life', you're probably trans. You don't have to live the rest of your life desperately wishing for something else, and making it through every day in a way that isn't your best and truest you, however that may be.
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HmmâŚ.why is it that when someone who isnât a binary cis gay gets some popular mainstream media representation yâall discourse about the âcowardsâ in media for several months and thereâs 5 billion twitter posts about how âthis character is really gay but the homophobes made them bi/ace/nonbinary because thatâs less controversialââŚbut whenever thereâs strict binary cis gay rep we get another 10 billion posts about how âif anyone even pretends this character is [bi/ace/nonbinary] theyâre homophobicâÂ
Why is that. Thatâs so weird. Why does that consistently keep happening. Itâs justâŚ.so strangeâŚ.
Like honestly it is so important that people stop associating radfem solely with TERFs because it blinds y'all to how insidious, pervasive, and dangerous radfem rhetoric is.
Are radfems transphobic? Yes. But thatâs not all they are.
Radfem rhetoric is behind a lot of the queerphobia, biphobia, aphobia, panphobia, kinkphobia, polyphobia and sex negativity in general on this site. Their rhetoric is woven intrinsically into kink criticism and exclusionist ideology. But because it doesnât have âtrans people are evilâ on the tin, y'all are swallowing those pills wholesale without giving it a second thought.
And then, because âradfemâ has come to mean âTERFâ on this site, when people point out to you that youâre parroting radfem rhetoric, youâre able to easily dismiss it by saying âHow dare you call me transphobic!â
My friends. Transphobia is not the only dogwhistle radfems use. It is not the only pillar of their toxic belief system.
Familiarise yourself with all their beliefs. Think critically about all of them.
If you donât want to be called out on spreading radfem ideology, make sure your ideals arenât borrowing from the more subtle and less overtly disagreeable aspects of their belief system.
anti-kink/kinkphobic radfems reblogging DDLG/CGL posts to scream âthink of the children!â (incidentally exposing their followers to it whether they liked it or not) was a major catalyst in the formation of anti-shipping rhetoric & the resulting communities, which are massive sex-shaming engines of hatred & fear-mongering.
and a major reason exclusionism took off so well is b/c radfem lite⢠ideology & rhetoric has been pushed & popularized on tumblr for years before that.
hereâs some radfem lite⢠rhetoric you may have encountered on tumblr:Â
men are the literal worst. they are the source of all evil. kill all men
men are constantly invading womenâs spaces to trick/trap them into having sex with them.
violence against/harassment of women is always primarily related to their secondary sex characteristics OR their failure to cater to men
the only form of consent that counts is enthusiastic consent
internalized misogyny is the only reason women harm each other
women are soft, sweet, smart, kind, community-oriented, nurturing, never ruled by impulse or sexual desire, etc. women are just Better than men in every way
compulsory heterosexuality is the main reason cis women think theyâre attracted to cis men
rape culture is so powerful a force that itâs impossible for women to consent to uncoerced sex with men
BDSM communities are full of abusive men looking for women to beat
women who âsexually caterâ to men (by dressing provocatively, doing sex work, having kinky sex with men, working in the porn industry, etc) harm other women by doing so
women who indulge/acknowledge/enjoy their sexual attraction to men harm other women by doing so
gender isnât even a thing. itâs literally not real (âgender criticalâ)
weâre all nonbinary
any one of these things on their own might seem kind of reasonable, especially when caged in flowery language or carefully implied instead of stated outright. and some of them have a grain of truth in them that lends them that fleeting sense of legitimacy.
but buy enough of them, and youâre well on your way into the radfem fold - and all the demands of perfect self-control, sexual purity, & virtuous behavior it places on you. (ironically ⌠just like misogynists. whom they happily ally themselves with.)
Iâm confused about the bullet point that insinuates enthusiastic consent is a bad thing. Can someone explain this?
I believe @freedom-of-fanfic once explained it on her blog but IIRC the rationale being that people can say yes to sex and regret doing it later. I think. FoF is the only person I know whoâs ever expressed such sentiments and I might be explaining it poorly.
But the gist I remember was mostly how the phrase itself has been weaponized by TERFs to remove more of womenâs agency, much like the term âCompulsory heteronormalityâ (which is legit a radfem phrase).
I have not seen Foffâs write up of it, but I have seen talk about it elsewhere. And the gist of it is indeed removal of agency. That if you arenât consenting for this particular reason, you canât consent.
It also ties into SWERF rhetoric and attempts to frame all sex work as rape, since the sex work wasnât âenthusiasticallyâ consented to, even if it was consensual. I am not a sex worker and thus donât feel equipped to go into a lot of detail here, but it is an important thing to note and to look into
I have also seen âbut that isnât enthusiastic enoughâ leveled against people sharing their own experiences with sex they have consented to. For example, someone saying, âIâm not super pumped for sex (ever), but it makes my partner happy, so I have decided it is worth doing anyways.â And, yes, if the person actually didnât want to have sex and was pressured into it that would be rape, but claiming that you need to be a certain level of hype to consent to sex is also wrong.
I think the point enthusiastic consent rhetoric is to emphasize that if you arenât into it at the time, it is ok to decline. But the rhetoric then reframes it as the only time when you are allowed to consent.
âYou need dysphoria to be transâ is such a fucking scapegoat. What you are actually saying or intending to say is
âprove to me personally that you have dysphoriaâ also known as âyou donât perform your gender in a way that i think is acceptableâ
Iâm fucking sorry Iâm not trying to pass? I will literally never pass. There is no fucking way for me to pass. Being mistaken as one binary gender rather than the other will not make me feel any better.
Also there is no way to prove youâre dysphoric. People will assume your dysphoria levels based on some shit they think should make you dysphoric.
Just because I like a certain style of clothes associated with my agab doesnât mean I havenât just fucking cried in front of a mirror because of being forced into another type.
Just because someone doesnât shave or someone doesnât bind doesnât mean they are comfortable with that and there are many reasons why they wouldnât despite that. None of which you, or anyone else, are entitled to know.
I donât need to prove my pain for you.
Or perform a certain way for you.
I donât need to be in pain for you.
Trans people be non dysphoric or dysphoric in New And Fun Ways.
Trans people can do whatever we want.
Trans people can punch you in the face.
No discussion on this post. Fuck you in particular.
as a gay trans person im honestly always going to feel more closely tied to straight trans people than cis gays like... the transphobia in our community runs much deeper than i think a lot of cis lgb people are willing to admit, and that transphobia is only emphasized when cis gays pretend that straight trans people are outsiders or more privleged or whatever
Ah the traditional pastime of youth: Sticking all of your hair under a hat and pretending youâre a boy
6 year old me:
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David
A symbol of perfection, the ideal male figure.
Btw thereâs a BIG difference between a straight person saying âwhy canât these characters just be friends:/ not everything has to be gay you guysâ
and an aromantic person expressing a wish for more fandom spaces that donât place unnecessary importance on romance and act like platonic love is secondary
and y'all need to stop pretending itâs the same thing and being aggressive towards aro people over it
