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EXPECTATIONS
Lint Roller? I Barely Know Her
if i look back, i am lost
The Stonewall Inn
NASA
Stranger Things
One Nice Bug Per Day
occasionally subtle
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Sade Olutola
Jules of Nature
RMH
The Bowery Presents
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🐚 Sandcastles 🐚 is OUT NOW
These songs are about holding on, and letting go. Time is a river, but love ebbs and flows like the tides. The seasons may change, but they always come back around…
1. Treehouse 🍃
2. Sandcastles 🐚
3. Midwest Goodbye 🌾
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Because of my annoying verbal disorder I do choose the words I use very carefully, which actually makes me harder to understand much of the time. This is one of God’s little jokes
Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs
People in my notes who think I’m repressed or dissociating: you will feel better when you learn emotions are not a binary of Not Feeling It vs Being Overwhelmed By It
Ok but How Do I Do That
Learn strategies for enhancing self-regulation skills, and discover the benefits of mastering this essential life skill to help emotional dy
There are many techniques (also, there are drugs)
Thank you, but do you have any advice for teens?
So my FIRST piece of information if you’re still a teen is that genuinely as you get older it will get easier to regulate your emotions. During adolescence our brains are undergoing a lot of growth and change that genuinely does make it harder to do this, on a scientific level. However, practicing emotional regulation skills can still help a lot and if you can find something that works it will make life easier going forward
This page has more information and recommendations for some basic exercises:
Discover effective strategies for teens to manage intense emotions, develop emotional awareness, and improve overall well-being. Expert tips
that july 9th, the beat of your heart
I'm frankly getting tired of "____ is a myth" posts regarding things that are very personal and subjective. Nostalgia does not have to be a trap, ok? I rewatch my favorite Y2K miniseries at least once a year. Many people are going back and watching the classic Doctor Who since nuwho is in the wilderness now. We're having fun and learning things and self-soothing!
If you wanna talk about how yearning for the past has put you in a rut, then be more specific! Talk about your own experiences instead of making general statements that could actually hurt someone who is healing. Processing the past, not forgetting it, is how you recover from trauma.
The past is important when we're talking about world history, I think we can agree on that. And it's also important when you're talking about your own personal history. If you leave the past too far in the past then you'll never understand how you got here in the first place, and where you're supposed to go next.
You don't have to love everything about your past, that's unrealistic. Gods know I've been abused nonstop this whole time. And I never would've gotten to where I am now if I didn't have things I loved that I held onto that kept me going and taught me helpful lessons.
The past is not your enemy! The past, present, and future are all connected.
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people be like Hey. Don’t post things I Don’t Like on Your Own Blog
really love keeping up with my mutuals through their little tags and vent posts. getting updates on how they’re doing is something like: glad to know your job at the library is going well. i’m sorry you haven’t gotten that raise. glad your finals went well. i’m sorry your teacher is so unhelpful. glad your tv show got renewed. i’m sorry they killed your favorite character. glad that you scored tickets to see your favorite artist. i’m sorry they aren’t touring near you at all. glad your cat is doing well. i’m sorry your mom is sick again. glad you’re feeling better now that it’s your favorite season. i’m sorry your meds aren’t working. glad you’re married now. i’m sorry you have to step back for your mental health. glad you’re still here. i’m sorry life is so hard. glad you’re alive, i hope things get easier for you soon
shaking women by their shoulders with all my strength, screaming YOU DONT NEED TO GET PERMISSION TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE!!!!
you can choose to break up with someone for any reason. and it’s your choice. you’re allowed. you don’t need to ask for permission. you don’t even need to do it in person. you won’t get in trouble. in fact, most of the time you’ll be in trouble for fucking staying.
they don’t even have to suck! you can just be tired! or bored! or want to be single! you don’t have to stay with a person you don’t want to be with because they “are such a good person and haven’t done anything wrong”!
WHY DO I KEEP TALKING TO WOMEN WHO ARE STUCK IN RELATIONSHIPS THEY DONT WANT TO BE IN
with no-fault divorces currently on the fucking chopping block, we really need to start telling young women that they have autonomy when it comes to their romantic relationships.
no, you don’t have to date that guy just cuz he wants to date you.
no, you don’t have to stay with her because she doesn’t want to break up.
no, you don’t have to keep dating them even though they haven’t cheated/abused you/whatever horrible thing is your only reference for ending a relationship.
this is basic info, but you’d be surprised at how many women don’t understand this, or feel like it’s not true.
and before ANYONE says that this goes for everyone, not just women, yes of course it does. anyone of any gender can suffer from this.
but let’s not deny that women are taught this shit from a young age. be virtuous, forgiving, kind, soft, turn the other cheek, it’s just cuz he’s a man and you’re a girl and you don’t understand. stay with him or you’re a bitch.
i gotta remember this
Actually you don’t have to pick an aesthetic. I think picking an aesthetic kind of kills your creativity and individualism. No one was supposed to fit inside a mood board. Don’t turn art into a performance. Your expression is supposed to be messy, and felt, and you, not for the algorithm. Your expression is meant to be whatever you love, not altered to fit in.
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Lay on the floor. Sit on the floor. You must have your floor time. This is very important and essential to your mental health. The floor is the place where everything stops needing to be solved for a moment. The floor is proof that you do not have to be upright to be okay. The floor is steady enough to borrow stillness from. Floor time is very good for you. I encourage you to have some floortime every day.
My favorite thing about art is that it literally communicates with parts of the mind that existed before language. It reaches the places where feelings, memories, and instincts live before we ever find the words to describe them. Please don’t ever stop creating.
something I've recently learned: if outright positive thoughts are too difficult for you, you can try something called "bridge thoughts" which are essentially thoughts that aren't really inherently negative or positive. things like "maybe im not as embarrassing as i think I am", "maybe im not as ugly as i think" or "maybe someone could possibly find me likeable". if you try to go from "everything is terrible and i want to die" to "i love life and i want to live!" cold turkey a lot of times its just ineffective. you need to take those small steps towards changing your mindset first, and then eventually you can say "i love life and i want to live!" and actually mean it.
don't glorify neglect and lack of support. surviving alone isn't an indicator of strength, it just means you're alone. don't make your life about how much you can endure or for how long you can sustain yourself with bites of yourself. you are not less for recognizing you don't want to do this on your own
the replacement of websites with apps sounds so backwards when you actually describe it. like hmm you have to download an entire program onto your device each time you want access to a portal, where it takes up storage indefinitely. somebody should invent an app where you can "browse" any portal just by typing in its address... 🥴
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"you don't know what you have until you lose it" works for things that suck too btw. sometimes you need to experience life without something for a while to realise oh damn that was some bullshit
the world is not cruel. there are cruel people in this world. those are two different things. cruelty requires thought and choice. but nature? time? these things cannot be cruel, they just are.
