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vent / rant blog main is @hereticsystem
multiply disordered / disabled, mostly mentally
anti rq, anti consang, anti contact. pronouns
20 yr old chronoadult. chronominors dnf

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genuinely wouldn't wish PMDD on my worst enemy, this disorder sucks so fucking bad.
every month i have to fight off suicidal urges, falling into a deep, hopeless depression, because apparently my treatment resistant depression isn't hard enough to deal with by itself, irritability so bad i want to cry when people talk to me, chest so tender just my shirt rubbing against it hurts, gas and bloating, diarrhea or even vomiting if i eat anything too greasy, mood swings, and anhedonia that makes it hard to find anything worth living for.
it makes all of my already existing problems just 10x worse. and i have to deal with it every. fucking. month.
being medium support needs is like being in disability purgatory, im too disabled to get through daily life entirely on my own but i'm also not disabled enough for anybody to actually care that i'm disabled
i just wanna get worse but i want you by my side
i wonder if antis realize being kind and reasonable is the best way to try to ease someone out of a harmful community, not harassing them or drawing groups of people getting lynched or talking about how much you hate their community and how they’re vile people and you wish they were dead and shit. that’s just going to push them further back into the community that already accepts them.

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i don't know if the irritability or suicidality is worse when it comes to our pmdd. because while i may not be depressed right now i'm certainly irritable to the point i start feeling violent anytime someone talks to me
in a state where being perceived is very scary. why cant we all just get along and dance together until the sun comes up
implying paramisia doesn't exist because it isn't in the dictionary is funny as fuck. 99% of the terms used within mogai and queer spaces to describe genders, sexualities, et cetera aren't in the dictionary either but we treat them as real, yeah? seriously such a stupid way to come to a decision. a word not being in the dictionary doesn't make it invalid.
your ordinary reminder that regardless of if you think you can reclaim the r-slur or not, using it as an insult is not reclaiming it. using it as an insult is using it as it's intended purpose: a derogatory slur.
this is the creator of radnormal and they expect you to think that radnormals are the good guys, by the way! here's why the death penalty is wrong while i'm here. and also, even if you can reclaim the r-slur, using it as an insult is not reclaiming it. using it as an insult is just using it as a slur. here's your reminder lynching also has racist roots.

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Reminder that the radnormal coiner reblogged someone who called radqueers "rad(half of the r-slur)s"
Screenshot from @sophies-filter
Feels like this has been absolutely swept under the rug!
the slur part is bad, but so is the whole "they need to be hunted for sport in some rich dudes hunting ground, like foxes, or shot in the back of the head like old yeller" towards paraphiles. not that it's unexpected considering shelix has literally drawn paraphiles getting lynched. it used to be on their pinned, and they still have a post up with the drawing. they claim to be a safe space for recovering or anti-contact paraphiles then reblog shit like this literally saying paraphiles (not predators!) should be killed... they also mentioned in the past not caring if radqueers died or killed themselves. regardless of your stance on radqueers, nobody deserves death. the death penalty is also absolute ass and shouldn't be encouraged for anyone, let alone harmful people.
there's also this post where someone admits to being ableist and discriminatory towards paraphiles, and also threatens them. shelix also liked this post.
radnormal is not safe for paraphiles. i'd also argue it's not safe for disabled or disordered people either, considering those involved are apparently comfortable labeling themselves as ableists and discriminatory.
If all this is "normal" then I'm cemented in being anti-normal.
And, the "anti-harassment towards minors, neu-harassment towards adults" point, really just seems infantilising of minors, and obviously not compassionate to adults who may be "justifiably" bad, in the way they can "justify" minors doing the same thing.
Justify isn't quite right, when what I mean is understand why or how they ended up in something. Especially when they call it a "cult". The quiet part is that adults who were indoctrinated "should have known better" because "adults know better".
Basically: it reads like ageism.
i was literally just talking about the ageism with my partner.
they treat minors as though they're incapable of doing anything wrong. like, i understand being more lenient because they're young and still developing and learning about the world, but it's entirely possible for minors to be abusers or predators and to cause harm to other people. a lot of csa actually happens between minors. sibling abuse is very real and also often happens between minors. someone being a minor isn't a free pass for them to do shitty things without any repercussions.
a point my partner brought up is that absolving minors of any harm they've caused can lead them to be harmful as an adult, and i agree, because nobody learns if they don't receive some sort of consequence for their actions. those consequences can be as simple as someone just telling them off and educating them. it doesn't have to be anything violent or drastic.
not to mention... all adults were minors at one point. i wonder what their stance is on adults who were groomed into the radqueer community as a minor? radqueer as a term has existed since at least 2021, so it's entirely possible.
i also can't say i trust a term that is "neutral on harassment" because... what?? how are you neutral on harassment?? does that mean you're just going to look the other way when it happens? even if you're not encouraging it outright you're still enabling it by being "neutral" on it. they also might as well be pro-harassment towards adults and hiding it under the neutral label so they don't look as bad, just based off of their own actions.
Reminder that the radnormal coiner reblogged someone who called radqueers "rad(half of the r-slur)s"
Screenshot from @sophies-filter
Feels like this has been absolutely swept under the rug!
the slur part is bad, but so is the whole "they need to be hunted for sport in some rich dudes hunting ground, like foxes, or shot in the back of the head like old yeller" towards paraphiles. not that it's unexpected considering shelix has literally drawn paraphiles getting lynched. it used to be on their pinned, and they still have a post up with the drawing. they claim to be a safe space for recovering or anti-contact paraphiles then reblog shit like this literally saying paraphiles (not predators!) should be killed... they also mentioned in the past not caring if radqueers died or killed themselves. regardless of your stance on radqueers, nobody deserves death. the death penalty is also absolute ass and shouldn't be encouraged for anyone, let alone harmful people.
there's also this post where someone admits to being ableist and discriminatory towards paraphiles, and also threatens them. shelix also liked this post.
radnormal is not safe for paraphiles. i'd also argue it's not safe for disabled or disordered people either, considering those involved are apparently comfortable labeling themselves as ableists and discriminatory.
these are the stupidest takes i've ever seen, so let's break them down really quick. for reference of some of the points i'm about to make, the term radqueer was originally coined in 2021. i frown upon pro-contact individuals, harmful transIDs, and xenosatanists as much as the next guy so i won't really be talking about them here.
1: someone's beliefs do not always define the community they are in; just because they have similar beliefs does not mean that person is part of that community or believes the exact same things. you can believe or support something without engaging with the community associated with it.
2: shipping discourse is older than the radqueer community. according to wikipedia's page on shipping ethics, it began possibly as early as the mid 1990s with it really taking off in the mid-2010s to 2020s. the term antishipper itself began being used in the early 2000s.
grouping in proshippers and profiction folk with real abusers and predators is fucking ridiculous, but i also don't expect antishippers to be able to understand why fictional abuse isn't the same as real abuse. taboo fiction isn't for everyone, but that doesn't mean it's bad for everyone. for some people fiction is harm reduction, but just being a proshipper or whatnot because you enjoy it isn't bad either if you have the mental capacity to be able to separate fiction from reality. (which most people can do, and is arguably "normal" by the way)
3: just because many radqueers are accepting of endogenic systems does not make every endogenic system or their supporters radqueer. the term endogenic was created in 2014 according to pluralpedia, once again, far before the radqueer community existed. to throw in endos and their supporters with genuine predators and abusers is ridiculous, quite frankly.
plurality is a spectrum, and that spectrum includes non-disordered or non-traumagenic plurality. identity alteration and identity confusion have more causes than just CDDs. certain types of therapy such as the IFS model even encourage viewing oneself as multiple voluntarily. many people would actively benefit from the framework of plurality for one reason or another. many people who claim to be endogenic aren't claiming to have a disorder to begin with. some people identify as endogenic then later find out they're traumagenic, or a mix of both. not to mention you can also be a traumagenic system without having a CDD.
besides all of that, acting as though all healthy forms of plurality are impossible when a lot of systems have functional multiplicity as their end goal is contradictory and anti-recovery. there is also evidence of non-traumagenic plurality within research. there's also the below images literally written within the ICD-11 and DSM-5 respectively.
4. i don't know when the pro para movement originated, but i have met anti-radqueer paraphiles and i am one myself, alongside my partner. that being said, paraphilias and kinks aren't inherently radqueer or necessarily queer to begin with. there's also no such thing as a harmful paraphilia as much as there is a harmful subject of attraction, as i like to call it. paraphilias by themselves are not harmful or dangerous. the actions you take in connection to it, however, can be. if you mean disordered paraphiles, you're still ignoring the fact not all disordered paraphiles are a risk to other people. also not sure why zoophilia is the only one directly mentioned, and is kept separate from harmful paraphilias in general...? is there something you're trying to say?
5: putting these groups together and acting as though they're harmful and irredeemable or predator/abuser adjacent only encourages them to bunker down and go further into the radqueer community. people naturally want to be accepted, and the point of being radqueer is radical acceptance. your fatalistic "get out before they get you" ass comment does nothing to actually help anyone and just reinforces the idea that these people are doomed to be shitty people. saying "y'all the same in my eyes" doesn't do anything to help this idea either since you evidently already see them as the same as the big bad radqueers. this is also ignoring the fact most of these (besides being pro-contact or a xenosatanist or supporting harmful transIDs) are... not actually bad.
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i used to not understand why it’s a hot take to say i’d rather a pedophile gets off to fictional content instead of abuse material, and then i realized it’s because antis genuinely think fictional abuse is the same as real abuse. they also seem to actually care more about fictional abuse than they do real abuse, based off the amount of antis i've seen bullying, harassing, and antagonizing proshippers, even wishing proshippers would be abused themselves so they "know how it feels," or saying they'd abuse or disown their hypothetical kids if they turned out proship, rather than doing anything to actually help victims of abuse.
putting fiction on the same level of abuse is not only ridiculous but so disrespectful to survivors of abuse. abuse is not fictional nor is abuse made up stories and fantasies. please for the love of god use this energy to support victims of real harm, instead of protecting fictional characters who don't even have the capacity to care about what's done to them on the basis that they aren't fucking real.
to also claim that anyone who engages with dark or disturbing fiction is a predator or an abuser themselves is also ridiculous, enforcing purity culture and stigma, and watering down both of the terms. someone is not a predator or an abuser just because of the thoughts they have, the fantasies they have, or the fiction they so happen to enjoy. if that were true, then literally everyone would be an abuser / predator, because thoughts don't have a filter or a limit to them. pushing this idea that even having thoughts about something disturbing or enjoying taboo fiction makes you a bad person is absolutely horrible for folks with OCD, anxiety disorders, paraphilias, and/or trauma.
you can also claim that these types of fiction are "encouraging paraphilias" which... aren't inherently bad, dangerous, or unhealthy to begin with, and are pretty natural, in fact. paraphilic disorders are not the same as paraphilias, and many paraphilias have ways to be acted out between consenting individuals, even the harmful ones. nobody gets this upset over BDSM fiction even though kinks and paraphilias are essentially the exact same, and many BDSM practices are incredibly risky. like, seriously, if you do BDSM wrong you can fucking kill someone, severely injure them, or traumatize them, but you never see anybody whining about BDSM being this terrible awful thing.
there's also the whole "encouraging violence" argument, which is a very slippery slope. if we ban all violence (because trust me, nobody's going to be able to decide on what encouraging violence actually means due to how much the term gets thrown around) then the vast majority of history and modern news will be censored. if witnessing or learning about real violence doesn't make someone violent, then why does fictional violence? stuff like cannibalism and death gets romanticized all the time and nobody bats an eye. people play violent video games all the time, including ones that reward you for being violent, without becoming violent themselves.
fiction can be a great outlet, and for many people, fiction is harm reduction. i would genuinely, bottom of my heart, prefer someone goes and reads some taboo smut instead of getting off to abuse or abusing another entity themselves, and i think it's fucking ridiculous that that's considered a controversial take. fiction can impact reality but how it does so is entirely individualized, and for some people, fiction is helpful. just because many people or you yourself have bad experiences with it doesn't mean all taboo fiction and its enjoyers are evil. that's a huge generalization. it's simply not for everyone and it doesn't have to be. literally if you don't like something just don't fucking read it when you see it, mute terms, block people, and move on. you are responsible for your own experience online. if you're going to refuse to curate it then you're just going to have to learn to be uncomfortable.
"people are only saying paraphilias are the same as kinks to normalize them" or it's because they're actually basically the same fucking thing??paraphilia is defined as an abnormal sexual attraction. kinks are defined as unconventional or non-traditional sexual practices, concepts, or fantasies. kink and paraphilias go hand in hand, and both are seen as nonconventional or abnormal by society. kinksters still face a lot of stigma that rehashes a lot of the same talking points used against paraphiles: that they're predators, abusers, harmful, gross, weird, evil, mentally disturbed, et cetera.
"we shouldn't normalize paraphilias" yes we should, actually. paraphilias by themselves are harmless, because attraction does not mean action and not all paraphiles are disordered. that said, those struggling with a paraphilic disorder deserve the same respect as anyone else with a mental illness. paraphiles themselves are not the issue, predators and abusers are. when we say we want to normalize paraphilias, we mean we want the stigma and taboo surrounding them to be dismantled. dismantling the stigma around paraphilias will make it easier for those with paraphilic disorders to get help, and will also hopefully contribute to a more sex positive society. this is also without considering the fact many paraphilias are able to be done completely consensually, and thus, have no reason to not be normalized. the same goes for kink, which, again, is basically the same thing anyways. kink can even be used to help someone act out their paraphilia consensually.
"paraphilias should only apply to attractions that'd be harmful to act on" i understand, and would even say i agree to some extent, but then you also have to accept a lot of kink practices within the BDSM scene as paraphilias due to the harm they can cause. sexual sadism and sexual masochism are already both types of paraphilic disorders. if done wrong, BDSM can be abusive, unhealthy, or even fatal. you can literally die or develop brain damage if someone chokes you the wrong way. you can get nerve damage if you do bondage or impact play wrong. the dynamics associated with certain BDSM relationships can be genuinely abusive if done wrong. it's why people in the kink and BDSM scenes emphasize informed consent and safety so much.
the definition of paraphilia to begin with is, quite frankly, absolute bullshit. normalcy is entirely subjective. homosexuality used to be classified as a paraphilia, or at the time, "sexual deviation" or "disorder of sexual preference." sadomasochism used to be a pathology, too, and to an extent, still is. but as time went on, people realized that you can have healthy, consensual sex as a homosexual or while engaging with sadomasochism. why shouldn't this apply to other paraphilias? there are ways for paraphiles of all sorts to have consensual sex involving their attraction, whether it's through roleplay or consensual engagement.
if anything, maybe paraphilias should be defined on whether or not they involve a non-consenting party. my major concern with this idea however is that it'll likely contribute to even more social ostracization for people with particular paraphilias, which will only lead to more harm and more victims. there's really no easy way to properly define a paraphilia or paraphilias without somehow fucking over a particular group of them. even the definition itself doesn't include romantic attraction, or other forms of non-sexual attraction, despite how common it is for paraphiles to also experience non-sexual attraction to their subject.

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i’m surprised radnormal is still like, an ongoing thing. genuinely thought it would have gone away by now. if you think it’s okay to draw real groups of people getting lynched, i do NOT trust your ass to be able to engage with anything critically or logically. you are supporting the death penalty and that’s a slippery ass slope. you are also not safe for paraphiles of any sort let alone disabled people if you’re comfortable being labeled as an ableist / saneist in any regard. fuck radnormals
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