Derek Redmond

google is free and this article does a good job of explaining but because i dont want anyone to continue to give this girl money for being shit person, here we go.

besides being a cishet white woman HEADING a PRIDE EVENT (Which is something i shouldnt need to explain why its bad.. pride is by and for lgbt people and should not be HEADLINING a cishet.) 

Racism

this is her like 5 years ago vs her now. she is a white girl wearing blackface.  and before you go “thats not blackface! thats just a tan!!!” 

this is her on stage next to nicki minaj, a black woman. she is darker than nicki minaj. this is what a tan looks like

a tan is supposed to give you a more golden sun touched look, NOT MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE A DIFFERENT RACE! (also tan is a golden/yellow brown, not a deep brown… this is not an accident)

her hair, by the way, is in fact exensions. again, making her hair thicker and darker in order to pass as a poc… she steals from black musicians too… like its not news that white people steal culture from poc then market it as a new trend but… she really takes it to a whole new level and acts as if her new look is some fucking brand she made. 

remember shen she got a tattoo for 7 rings but didnt finish it and said “oh thats just fine :)” ? 

transmisogyny

in her video “thank you next” she has a man in a dress stereotype for a trans girl, then painted said person as desperate for a date.  this is a transmisogynist caracature. she is a cishet girl. this is transphobic. end of discussion.

homophobia

shouldnt have to explain why a het girl using sexualized lesbians that look like they came out of a porno for men in a music video for views isnt ok.

etc

she ignores when everyone first tried to tell her NICELY that what she was doing is wrong but as soon as people got less than kind about it, got all guilt trippy like a 3 yr old and went “why cant we just all get along its so sd to see people hating like this :(((((( be nice :(( “ 

she is friends with Pierce Morgan (known facist) and is QUITE PUBLIC ABOUT THIS, she constantly preaches the “we should just sit down and talk to people who are flaming bigots. their bigotry is just a difference of opinions ❤️❤️❤️” which is propaganda created by, surprise, the very bigots it refers to. if we dont fight or get upset then they can continue to be horrible people without consequence. 

she is now INSISTING on headlining pride, and i have seen more homophobic people than i can count say theyre going to buy tickets to pride just to see her. let me repeat that. homophobes are going to pride to see a homophobic artist. this is disgusting. this puts every gay and trans person there in danger. actually, it puts everyone there in danger because it is a pride event and any homophobes will see you there and assume youre gay anyhow so! 

- He knows I’m into observational astronomy and despite him being a nuclear astrophysicist himself he will email me (and some of the other observationalists) interesting articles and videos about astronomy, usually and around 2am, the poor insomniac

- He became a dad yesterday! In his email he said “sorry, I won’t be in this week, I’ll be frantically googling how to take care of a newborn instead”

Im probably having top surgery this year, and during my consult I panicked and forgot to ask questions. So any advice helps

Prep?

Average time out of work?

Driving?

Anything else?

:(

something i feel most people don’t tell you is be prepared for numbness in your chest. there is going to be a lot of nerve damage and it is going to feel weird. but eventually some feeling will come back, or you’ll get used to it.

have soft meals prepared. do to breathing tube, your throat will hurt that first day, maybe until your third. so soups, apple sauce, things like that will come in handy.

have alcohol wipes att the ready, literally for nausea! after a big surgery like that, it’s normal to feel nauseous the first two days and simply holding a alcohol wipe under your nose will make the nausea go away. for the most part, you’ll sleep that whole first day aftet the surgery.

have a pillow under your knees when laying down, have some type of neck support, and WALK at least every two hours to prevent blood clots!

drink lots of water!

just remember everyone is different. i have a sit down job, and I was out for a full month. but some people are able to go back to work once the drains are taken out.

def have a ride prepared!

you will still have to bind once the bandages come off. some doctors will give you a compressor. but something like a smaller workout compressor can work as well! get it on a smaller size that holds but doesn’t squeeze too tight that you can’t breath!