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i believe that kids movies are for everyone nd in general it's a good thing to want something feel good nd popping on some animated movie but i do find it to be weird that so many grown ass adults are participating in stupid ass discourse over media meant for children all while ignoring the shit that actually needs to be discussed
to be fair a lot of content for adults is equally stupid, it just has alcohol or something
giving this addition an f in terms of reading comprehension 😔 sorry
my point was that there's not that much media that "actually needs to be discussed" it's all just made for entertainment value regardless of the target audience
like, yeah, ofc, there definitely are adult media that require insight and contemplation, but most of the time it really IS blood sex alcohol and overall entertainment which has even less value than media dedicated for children.
😳 damn y'all really doubling down on a point y'all brought up for no reason 😭😭😭😭😭😭 could you fill this out for me im trying to see something
Not to be too much of an insufferable pedant, but there are at least 3 different possible readings of the OP:
"it's weird that adults are participating in stupid discourse over children's media while ignoring important topics [in general] that deserve discussion"
"it's weird that adults are participating in stupid discourse over children's media while ignoring anything that actually needs to be discussed in that media"
"it's weird that adults are participating in stupid discourse over children's media instead of media that actually needs discussion"
Reading comprehension is god awful and everyone is a bunch of confrontational, reactive wild animals on this site, but when it's a short, vague colloquial statement, it's not the reading comprehension, it's just not actually clear what you're communicating.
It appears to me that OP meant #3, and the people replying aren't wrong—a lot of stuff for adults isn't created with thoughtful and intellectual engagement in mind—so what I think OP is getting at is that (obviously) not everything for adults is like that. And I agree. I think very few things, actually, are without meaning or value. Repliers probably just need exposure to more stuff.
But the reason why there are adults participating in "discourse" over kids shows has nothing to do with the intellectuality of the media or whether the subject matter has anything worth discussing in it. They can't redirect their discoursing energy to more serious discussion because "discourse" isn't even an undeveloped embryo of actually analyzing stories—it's not even RELATED, it's more like an obsessive-compulsive thing to relieve anxiety that probably distantly originates from evangelical christianity and "purity culture."
This isn't an association I pulled out of my ass—extreme fundamentalists spend a LOT of time discussing technicalities of what media will bring you closer to God and which will taint/pollute you. They'd agree with the discoursers that watching a show where a character does bad things will influence you to think those things are okay, and might even be morally equivalent to actually doing bad things.
(The "blood, sex, and alcohol" thing is descriptive of what those fundamentalists would consider Bad, and fundamentalists frequently argue that sex and other Bad Things (but ESPECIALLY sex) make media intellectually empty. So that might be where the repliers are unconsciously coming from.)
Before I was medicated I had a lot of obsessive-compulsive tendencies, and I fixated a lot on the idea that seeing something "bad" could somehow irreversibly pollute or ruin my brain. Compulsions can take the form of compulsively rehashing a conversation, or "going over" a topic mentally in a way that "checks" that you're okay, and since I had kind of an unhealthy internet-trolling habit around the same time that I was trying to shake off the brain-purity obsessive-compulsiveness, it seems to me that arguing about the moral purity of Steven Universe is a uniquely ideal way of feeding the beast.
It makes sense that people who have some of these tendencies would go for children's media, not exactly because it's intellectually simpler, but because it's easier to categorize as "pure" or "impure" by virtue of being simpler.
I think they'll be okay, eventually. They'll get older and realize that media with Bad Things in it isn't going to turn them evil, and then they'll develop the abilities to think more deeply about stories. But damn, we do need to realize what is going on isn't all that healthy.
I'm uncomfortable with the way certain parts of Tumblr have latched onto “poor reading comprehension” as the reason the Discourse is bad. I mean, I’m sure it contributes. But the way some people talk about it, it’s like they’re saying having poor reading comprehension is cringe. Which has unfortunate implications when you consider that having poor reading comprehension can be a symptom of certain disabilities.
Now, poor reading comprehension is just like any other neurodivergent trait--it’s not an excuse for harmful behavior. Not that I think any of the people who are being accused of poor reading comprehension on this post are doing anything *harmful*, even though I disagree with them. I’m talking about other situations in which people completely miss the point of a post and yell at the OP based on their misinterpretation. I think this is usually because a post pushed someone’s buttons rather than because they have generally poor reading comprehension skills. But it’s possible poor reading comprehension is part of the problem some of the time.
That doesn’t mean poor reading comprehension inevitably leads to bad discourse. Ideally it leads to people thinking, “This post seems like it’s saying something effed up, but it’s also kind of confusingly worded and I know I’m not always great at reading comprehension; maybe I should ask a clarifying question? Would trying to refute this post even be a productive use of my time?”
But sneering at people isn’t going to encourage them to become more self-aware.
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the person who tagged us in this knew was it was cute! i just especially wanted to point out that this is a perfect example of a cat that has learned that its human is basically trapped while dishwashing and so it’s an excellent time to ask for attention and get it. cats are really good at recognizing patterns and this one probably knows that the owner will spend a regular amount of time here and won’t leave or move away. the cat knows it isn’t going to get hand attention, so it’s focused on rubbing against and pawing at the upper body and seeking kissies. this is often why cats come bother you on the toilet as well -- they know this is an activity with a set timeline and a good time to seek attention.

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I didn't feel it was appropriate for me to add to that last post but it's related so - Please, for the love of God, learn to manage your own emotional responses to media on your own.
Maybe it's because I started reading horror at a young age, but I learned pretty quickly that if a book is too heavy or graphic or whatever for you, it's alright to recognise those feelings, and either stop reading it entirely, or take a break. Do something that helps you calm down. Re-engage with comfort media. Give your pets a lil kiss.
It's not a moral failing on the author for a book to upset you. It's not a moral failing for you to be upset. It's just a fact of life we all have to learn to cope with.
If you don’t know how to handle discomfort in a book you’re not going to enjoy Life™.
Maybe this sounds dismissive to you but stop for a moment and think about it. If you’re losing your mind at a minor inconvenience, a serious incident will destroy you. I had to learn to triage my emotions by severity, and it made my anxiety far more manageable and given the pile of shit life has handed me lately and I’m still here it seems to have worked.
I don't know yet how to clearly express this but this is something I think about from a different angle: young children. Who, obviously, become adults, so it's still directly related.
So many parents I've encountered, when discussing what media they show their children, have this standard: if it upsets the child, they weren't ready for it. Ah, they cried watching the Lion King, so I should have waited until they were older. It's SO STRANGE to me and I'm at a loss to know when we got like this. You are supposed to cry watching the Lion King. I do.
One Crazy Summer is supposed to upset you and challenge you, shock you and make you angry. When we were reading it, and the kids needed extra time to process something, we'd just pause and either discuss it or just wait until we could all collect ourselves again, and then continue. My son struggled with the subject of anti-black racism for weeks afterwards. I took that as a sign that he HAD been old enough to grapple with the themes of the book, and connected well.
I think the cultural tendency to shield children from any painful emotion a piece of media might create leads pretty obviously and directly to the stuff discussed above. The ability to process, discuss, and analyze media, or just to sit with your pain and then collect yourself and move past it, is a skill and must be practiced.
I think that makes a ton of sense, thank you for sharing this perspective.
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you guys realize ‘reblog bait’ is a trigger tag for psychosis that can be set off by posts that say things like ‘reblog this or your dog dies’ ‘reblog this or you’ll never be happy again’ ‘reblog this to win a million dollars’ and not for posts like ‘hey rb this and put in the tags x thing’ right
okay since some people in the notes are confused, and to be fair I didn’t word this post very well, here’s some examples on how to tag things
reblog bait: reblog this and you’ll have good luck for 10 years
reblog game: reblog and put your favorite color in the tags
reblog bait: if you don’t reblog this, we can’t be mutuals
reblog game: reblog to give your mutuals a stuffed animal
reblog bait: you’re a terrible person if you don’t share this, I don’t care about your blogs aesthetic
reblog game: reblog and tell me if you’re right or left handed
basically, just think. is the post giving a threat, ultimatum or guilt trip? if so, it goes under reblog bait! a post saying to reblog but doesn’t have anything like the above would go under reblog game. hope this clears stuff up
Personally, “reblog to give (usually the person you reblogged this from) X/the person i reblogged this from deserves X” I would consider both a reblog game and reblog bait. It’s a fun thing people are doing that’s not supposed to be guilt trippy, but it can easily set off a huge anxiety spiral for me because if I don’t reblog I’m declining to give the person X or assert that they deserve X but if I do reblog it I’m putting my followers in the same bind. When I saw some people tagging those ‘reblog bait’ it was genuinely helpful and relieved a significant portion of the anxiety for those particular posts.
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Soulvomit, you were talking about “fish out of water” sci fi, I think this is actually a pretty good exercise for thinking about what the experience of that sort of culture clash is like from the inside. I’m talking about trying to empathize with this woman, but also about the incredulity and derision a lot of us feel about her sentiments. You know the concept of “love languages”? There’s something similar that you could call politeness languages; people from different cultures make different default assumptions about what certain behaviors signal, and when people with incompatible politeness languages interact you get situations like this. Well, that’s assuming this anecdote is real and not just something made up to troll, that’s a possibility in cases like this, but either way it’s useful as an exercise in thinking about what culture clash looks like from the inside.
Aside: you know that thing about how people’s preferred love languages are often giving and receiving the things they don’t get enough of or didn’t get enough of earlier in life? I see something similar in the bits of this woman’s politeness language that I can see rubbing up wrong against the restaurant manager’s and mine and (I suspect) yours. Her politeness language reads very strongly influenced by the experience of having to fend off advances by men she isn’t interested in; she interprets exuberant friendliness from the restaurant manager as a blurring of the proper boundaries between friendship and service work and possibly a clumsy opening bid in an attempt at seduction, and she wants a social environment where she doesn’t have to deal with that kind of thing. Similarly, the bread thing looks class influenced; she’s used to a social environment where most people have enough money that free food isn’t much of a favor, and she sees consideration of people with special needs and letting the customer have control as more valuable; to her this interaction looks like the manager unilaterally imposing a bad deal on her while possibly trying to generate a feeling of indebtedness in her in a way that doesn’t give her an opportunity to refuse the deal. On the other hand, the manager presumably lives in a social world where that sort of friendliness to customers is seen as just plain friendly and good service and giving customers free food is seen as straightforwardly a favor. At least, that’s the way I read this.
what are some of the more interesting frames of reference we should be considering instead of just representation?
sorry in advance that this answer is going to be much less about what i think you should be doing and much more about what i think people who take this 'representation'-based approach are doing wrong. i know that may not be what you're looking for, but i think it's more helpful to lay out why i think 'representation' as a framework is bad -- i don't know if there's one single 'correct' way to approach anything, but i do know that the approaches being taken now in fandom and fandom-adjacent circles (and honestly, more and more mainstream critical circles these days) are, like, wrong. and here's why.
so the thing is, 'representation' on its own only ever really has two end goals. the first is literally to 'represent' a particular group, which in practice is often indistinguishable from 'selling' or 'marketing' an identity, often to people who fall outside of it. and what you end up with is often this anxiety that things should be sanitised and defanged, effectively made, like, frilly and joyous and free of the suggestion that the people being 'represented' could be capable of violence, or for that matter could be subject to violence (think of the way people deploy bury your gays indiscriminately, for example), or, in extreme cases, could even be allowed some level of complexity. this is representation politics at its most extreme, really, but it's just this total sterilisation of media for fear that people might be 'misrepresented' that keeps people from creating anyone or anything with depth, or even putting real thought into how they're talking about characters subject to particular forms of violence beyond whether or not they're doing a good job at 'representing' them.
the slightly better but still ultimately useless deployment of 'representation' is an intracommunal one, where people are seeking to see a portrayal of some facet of their own identity in media, and in doing so, essentially project their own sense of self onto particular characters. and this is -- it's dull! and it's very different to looking at a character with a shared positionality, marginalisation, whatever, and having a take on how the piece might be asking its audience to engage with that positionality. what you end up with is these characters who people are treating as essentially repositories for their own wish fulfillment in their own lives.
in both of these cases, the sorts of stories and narratives that 'can' get told according to this rubric become hugely limited, jeopardised by this paranoia that they might be 'bad representation.' i think the former is more insidious -- you as a minority will never sell the fact of your humanity to the people who wield the hegemonic power to keep you oppressed so stop fucking trying lol -- but the latter is still just, well, dull. "i want to read stories about lesbians getting happy endings" who GIVES a shit if the tragic, violent ending or whatever is meaningful or compelling or cathartic? characters are not real, they are not me, i don't need to be spoonfed the fact of my humanity vis-a-vis a jewish butch lesbian having a nice day or something. i want things to be interesting, lol. one of the reasons that 'straight' narratives can often resonate more with me than at least mainstream 'lesbian' narratives is that writers, filmmakers, etc are given particular freedoms to create far more nuanced narratives without the burden of a 'representation' anxiety hanging over their heads, making the narratives more, like, interesting, whereas these mainstream lesbian pieces are so ... toothless. they're dull. flat. i don't care.
'representation' also falls into the trappings of a number of logical fallacies that end up glossing over huge swathes of structural violence. under the logic that governs a representation-based approach, more representation, or visibility contributes to some kind of demystification or normalisation of particular identity or community formations (which 1. assumes that those identity/community formations ontologically exist and are meaningful, i personally do not believe they are, and 2. see above my point about how representation becomes marketing oneself), which then in turn leads to ... more ... rights? besides just being a totally inane sense of how anything works, it elides the fact that what people will call 'representation' in practice often describes hypervisibility, a media tool most often deployed as a means of essentially throwing vulnerable groups to the wolves. hypervisibility is a huge, huge tool of transmisogyny, for example, and you hear trans men/tme people bitch about how trans women/tma people are 'overrepresented' in media as though that alleged 'overrepresentation' isn't putting them in significant danger. that's one major example of how 'representation' as a framework fails. representation = visibility = greater surveillance, paranoia, vulnerability. like not to be a communist about it but the state and those who power it literally are not your friend, and this includes the media that 'represents' you. that may sound dramatic but my essential point is that the rubric of 'representation' as a means of assessing a piece of literature or media's value assumes that what passes for 'representation' is always A Good Thing, when it often very much is not.
there's another pitfall where this clamour for 'representation' can often force writers to do a clumsy, half-assed job of writing a character with particular marginalisations, with no thought whatsoever put into how those marginalisations might reshape their narrative. and what you end up with is not a narrative that has anything meaningful to say and certainly not one that speaks to the people it purports to 'represent.'
and like, i don't think there's a cut-and-dry single framework that's the 'right' way to approach anything. i think that removing yourself as an individual from a narrative and approaching it as a closed circuit in its own right rather than something that you are seeking to penetrate and locate yourself within is a good start. i think just, in general, detaching yourself from a narrative such that you don't need it to be telling you something about yourself, and instead trying to ask questions about the themes it engages, the cultural moments it responds to, the position it takes up within a broader historical framing and the hegemonic forces that it either resists or capitulates to, the biases that might have shaped the way a particular character was written or a particular narrative played out, are all far more productive than asking about representation. like, i think just getting familiar with the process of picking apart a piece and understanding how it came to be the way that it is, what it set out to do and whether it accomplished this, is just going to allow you to get so much more depth out of your reading of it than just, representation anxieties.
i think we'd do so much better if we could talk about stories about particular groups and particular experiences without troubling ourselves with 'representation,' i really do. like, i think good, conscientious readers/viewers should be capable of distinguishing between a portrayal that falls into bigotry and one that doesn't, or does but in an interesting way or a way that we might play around with in our interpretation (sheridan le fanu's carmilla, for example, is wildly homophobic, and also a seminal lesbian text), and assess our responses to a piece without trying to turn our identities and lives into products or appealing to the necessity of self-identification and self-projection when we do so.
Mostly endorsed. I do think that seeing positive representation of people like oneself is very important for children.
(And while Hallmark-style fluffy entertainment would probably not be my thing even if it were made about people like me, some adults do find that sort of thing relaxing and I don’t mind if they want to be able to see themselves in it. What’s important is that we cannot expect all stories to be so easily digestible.)

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Ian: I don't want to fuck my clone because that would be gay sex and I'm not gay.
Emily: I'm not gay, but I would actually totally fuck my clone.
Nadia: I'm gay, but I still don't want to fuck my clone, that's gross and weird.
Howard: I don't want to fuck my clone because my self-loathing is THAT strong.
Quayle: I'd totally fuck my clone because I want to know if I'm good in bed.
Aldrich: I'd fuck my clone because who would know better how to fuck ME than ME?
Yanek: I'd totally do all sorts of weird things to my clone I'd be embarrassed to ask someone else to do.
Lambert: To be honest, fucking my clone has always been my fantasy.
Alice: It's basically the same as masturbating, right? So no big deal.
Mira: It's not the same as masturbating; it'd be like having sex with your twin. Wrong and bad!
Clare: I would not have sex with my clone because what if my clone is evil.
Naya: You guys are nasty, and I'm, frankly, a little concerned.
#oh oh i know this one #the trick is that you can ask for help from loads of people and take as long as you like to figure it out. #whereas in the story the time and resources are limited #so it will still be impressive when they solve it because they had to do it quickly and under pressure!
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Moving soon
I’ve been missing having a blog where I could talk about more personal stuff (namely, stuff that would require me to elaborate on my identity further than “I am a twentysomething USAmerican writer who experiences executive dysfunction”), but I realized I’d prefer to have my personal blog as my main and my writing blog as a sideblog, and it’s a little late for that.
So I’ve made a new account and made it an admin of @depreciated-dragon. My new primary writing blog is @sandybrett. Over the next few weeks, I will reblog posts I want to save from this blog to @sandybrett or @depreciated-dragon, and then I will delete this account.
Mutuals, if you want the URL of my new main, message me.
I’m just going to tag as many of my followers as possible to make sure you all see this. No pressure to continue following me if you aren’t interested!
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Writing Journal: Monday, June 6, 2022
Project: Magical School Story
What I did: Wrote only one paragraph on Sunday. Had a minor crisis. Reminded myself of the reasons I'm excited about this project. Today, tried to jumpstart my writing brain by watching writing advice videos on YouTube. (This isn't something I would recommend if it's likely to make you wonder whether you're doing things right, but for me, hearing people talk about How Stories Work usually makes me excited to write.) For some reason my motivation peaked about two minutes into the fourth video I watched, so I paused it there and started writing.
It's funny, I know that it doesn't matter at this stage if my prose is good, but it's sometimes hard to apply that knowledge in the moment. I keep finding myself thinking, "This sentence is clunky... what would be a better way to say it... is it okay actually? I came up with something that sounds smoother but it doesn't sound like something an eleven-year-old would write in her diary... wait why am I worrying about this?"
Words: 56 yesterday, 587 today.
Total words: 2,070. (Don't expect these numbers to perfectly add up. I often make minor line edits to things I wrote on previous days. Not for the sake of good prose at this stage, just for the sake of keeping information consistent.)
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The reason tabletop RPGs use polyhedral dice – in spite of them being such an unlikely thing to have on hand in the pre-gaming-store era, and rare even in the roleplaying hobby’s tabletop wargame predecessors – is because there just happened to be an educational supply store where they could easily be sourced near where the designers of Dungeons & Dragons lived.
The reason that D&D dragons are colour-coded is because the game pre-dates the widespread availability of fantasy minifigs, so they represented dragons using plastic dinosaurs from the local five-and-dime, and those are just the colours that the plastic dinosaurs used to represent each type of dragon happened to be.
The reason that iconic D&D monsters like the bulette, the owlbear and the rust monster exist is because one day, a bunch of bootleg Ultraman kaiju figurines just happened to be mixed in with the plastic dinosaurs, and – being unfamiliar with Ultraman, and the bootlegs in question being almost unrecognisably shitty anyway – they statted up what they thought the figurines looked like.
Sometimes I wonder what the history of the tabletop roleplaying hobby would have looked like if any of those coincidences had lined up just a little bit differently.
Art and design challenge, everyone:
Find the cheapest, weirdest, ugliest little toy or bauble you can at a local dollar store or thrift shop. Design a new tabletop monster off of that.
I would LOVE to try and figure out what kaiju ended up being the inspiration for what classic monster
Knock yourself out – the linked page contains numerous photos of what’s believed to be the specific set of plastic “dinosaurs” that served as the original minifigs for monsters in question. Some of the figures that are included in the set are clearly identifiable as classic Ultraman bootlegs, while others are less recognisable; to the best of my knowledge, nobody’s 100% sure what the figure that inspired the owlbear is supposed to be. For reference, it’s this one:
ohhh shit, i always thought the “original” art was just dumb and terrible
“that looks nothing like an owl OR a bear!” i thought
but now i see that it is a VERY ACCURATE ARTISTIC RENDERING
OF SOMETHING THAT IS ITSELF /VERY STUPID LOOKING/
You’re also leaving out the utility of the storytelling: the Rust Monster became a Rust Monster because the party had too good of equipment.
By accident the party had become too strong, because this is the first time anyone had played the game. So how do you fix that?
Um. A creature that eats swords? Cool. Problem solved.
This is awesome and very cool but that bearowl thing is fucking Big Bird
It does look like some sort of fucked up cross between a kappa and Big Bird, though it’s uncertain whether it’s actually meant to resemble either of those things. The most popular working theory is that it’s a recast of an original figurine that somehow ended up getting squashed and/or partially melted during the recasting process.* That the original figurine was probably damaged at the time of recasting is a big part of why a positive identification has proven elusive.
* This is much more obvious if you click through to the linked article and look at it from multiple angles, rather than referencing just the one photo embedded in the preceding post; in particular, it’s unclear whether the top of its head was originally flat.
Oh my god... Big Bird has hands and not wings, but he is covered in feathers... what if he’s the most accurate depiction of a non-avian dinosaur in our popular culture?
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