seabound

i think a new rule of engagement we should have for discourse is that any time someone says "the lesbian community" "the trans community" "the queer community" or something of that ilk you just dead stop the conversation in its tracks until they have successfully explained what group of people they're trying to refer to with this. because there is no such thing as a 'community' that every lesbian, or every trans person, or every queer person automatically belongs to/participates in, and acting like there is, or that we are all otherwise on the same page about which people these 'communities' actually consist of, lets people do a whole lot of lazy generalization that doesn't hold up to the slightest bit of scrutiny.

There needs to be shorthand for "I agree with the basic good that you are defending, but your obsession with winning arguments online has caused you to warp your whole worldview and deny the complexity of reality just to make sure every aspect of the world supports the basic argument that you are defending and you need to stop."

I need to stop replying to “how do you make friends in your 30s?” threads because all my answers boil down to “you have to want to know people instead of have friends” and I don’t think people wanna hear that

It’s like. People can tell if you don’t really like or connect with them. If you aren’t truly enamored with someone you will have a hard time coming up with activities to do together to deepen the friendship. Because you don’t really like that person that much.

just because my art is not very good or interesting that doesn't mean i should have to work a real job instead of doing it. life is so unfair. i don't want to babysit customers i want to go draw or carve my new linoblock or fold more of my cranes or something sniffle sniffle

if you're not allowed to leave your partner then it doesn't count as cheating 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ and if your partner decides that talking to anyone else but them is cheating then nothing at all counts as cheating! :D

I'm a corset centrist. I think it's reasonable for historical fiction characters to not like corsets, but I reserve the right to roll my eyes in that scene in Bridgerton where they tightlace the girl before putting her in an empire waist dress.