fulfillment doesn't always mean that you have to be the one who has the thing
before we discovered the law and started taking care of our minds majority of us were operating from the scarcity mindset. now we know that instead of having fear as our primary motivator, we can operate from love instead. but it takes some practice and that's alright.
when we apply the law, we often approach it from the scarcity mindset without even realizing it. this brings a ton of unnecessary frustration:
you feel like you have to (physically) have the thing to be able to appreciate it. you have to have it in front of your eyes / on your mind 24/7 to feel like it's yours. you're so focused on whether the thing is yours or not that you forget to be grateful that it exists, even if it's just in form of a possibility.
that's what a combination of loa and living from fear does. you're constantly grasping something; the more you try to get it and claim it, the further away it seems to get.
now how does mixing the law and living from love feel?
you know you don't have to own something to be able to enjoy it and appreciate it. you milk out the enjoyment out of whatever your situation right now is. you are grateful for the mere possibilities of something existing because you know that it can give you the same amount of joy and fulfillment as the actual thing etc.
and the more you practice this, the more you realize that oftentimes you don't actually want to own the thing, you just want to enjoy it. you don't want to have it, you just want it to be part of your life experience. and you'll realize that even things that pass or aren't part of your life 24/7 can bring you long-term fulfillment. just encountering them is enough. they may pass, but the fulfilment can stay.
the best way to start practicing this is by being grateful for things you don't actually own / have in your life directly:
appreciate the flowers in your local cafe
enjoy the drive in your sibling's new car
appreciate gorgeous outfits you see on pinterest without the need to own the exact items
enjoy seeing your neighbor's new puppy and maybe even pet it
listen genuinely and attentively to your friend's description of their trip abroad
smile when you see a couple on a romantic date
enjoy a new album of your fave artist as much as you can even if you're not going to their concert
these things may not be yours to own, but they can be yours to enjoy and appreciate and that's what matters after all β‘
personal note:
this is actually how i accidentally manifested a puppy as a kid. for the longest time i wanted a dog. i was really whining about it and constantly asking my parents for one but they just wouldn't agree.
then one of my friends that never cared about having a puppy as much as i did received one for her birthday. i was thrilled about it. sure, the puppy wasn't mine, but i could still go on walks, play and cuddle with him. i imagined how i'm gonna spend the whole summer with my friend and her new puppy and i was so happy about it.
the same day just a few hours later my mom told me that she's gonna talk my dad into getting a new puppy for our family as well. she did it out of nowhere and out of her own initiative. from the way she talked about the whole situation, it was obvious that somehow she thought that not having a puppy while my friend does have one would make me feel even more sad and disappointed. she had no idea that i was perfectly fine with my friend's new pet because i thought that that's the closest best thing to actually having one myself. but i stayed silent about that and within two weeks we had a new puppy at home as well.