You’ve swiped left until you think you can’t swipe anymore. Just when you’re about to go back to scrolling through pictures of puppies on Instagram, you find someone worthy of swiping right on. They don’t have any shirtless photos and they even reference a real grown-up job in the few words below their pictures. You swipe right and you’re a match. Congrats on being a babe.

You even get as far as having a not absolutely horrible conversation with this dude via Tinder chat. Now it’s time to make actual plans. Actual IRL plans.

I feel like as the years and months go on it gets harder and harder for people to psychically meet up. You meet someone online and you have a very small window of time to make plans otherwise you forget about each other, lose interest, and find the next person to attempt to make plans with.

Especially in New York City, everyone is always “busy” and for the most part they are actually busy even without the quotation marks. They are working crazy schedules that are always changing on top of being scheduled to go to four different “after work birthday drinks” that month.

However, the word ‘busy’ has been abused. Even if you are extremely busy and decide to start online dating I’m gonna need you to commit to being able to meet up with someone within 5 days of deciding you wanna meet up in the first place.