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before you reblog that seemingly innocuous transgender positivity or discourse post, here's some important things to look out for:

1. does this post uplift one marginalized group at the expense of another? specific positivity posts are great, like "protect black trans women" or "lets support intersex folks", but be sure that the post in question doesnt put down another group. examples: "trans women get all the love, so lets have some support for trans men for once" or "trans women are so strong for what they go through, trans men could never understand the struggle and dont experience even half of what trans women are put through" 🚨🚨DONT REBLOG IT!🚨🚨 find another post that doesnt have to put down another marginalized group or pit us against each other. remember, as a cis ally, its not your place to decide who does or doesnt deserve support, or to pick sides when misguided trans folks decide to play oppression olympics.

2. listen for dogwhistles! what seems like a harmless feminist post venting about cishet men can have hateful intentions towards marginalized people. terfs will often misgender trans women when they complain about them so it looks like theyre talking about predatory men, but theyre really meaning trans women. radfems/baeddels frequently omit the "trans" aspect of trans men to hide their anti-transmasculinity. if you have doubts, go to the OPs blog and search terms like "TIM" "TIF" "TRA" "TMRA" "radfem" "terf" "radical feminism" "theyfab" etc. you can also just search trans men/transmasc/trans woman/transfem and if you see anything negative, block and move along!

3. does the post operate under the binary for no good reason? does OP seem to forget that nonbinary and/or intersex people exist? does it use agab language when it seems to only be talking about trans men/women or cis men/women? does it use gendered euphemisms instead of specific and plain language, example: talking about periods and saying "women" "afab people" "females" instead of "people who menstruate". while it seems harmless, these small language quirks really build up in the psyche of trans folks and reminds us that people often are not willing to accommodate us. if your goal as an ally is to make us feel welcome and safe, being as direct and plain with your language is a good start

4. lastly, read the notes! watch out for "us vs them" language or advocating violence. even a common, unserious sentiment like "kill all men" that carries little weight in the cis world is a lot heavier in the trans community; cis men are rarely killed but trans men are murdered at high rates. watch out for malgendering, which is someone holding a trans persons gender identity against them, like "trans men really ARE men 🙄" or calling trans women hysterical bitches. remember that no demographic of trans person is "coddled" or supported by the status quo, we all live in a world that is increasingly hostile to us. if people agreeing with the post in question have this level of vitriol against other trans people, chances are its not actually a very friendly and positive post. again, as a cis ally, its not your place to involve yourself in community infighting.

pretty sure this is exactly how lessons at qifrey's atelier go

we didn't even pay all of that off. people did not help enough to pay it off and samah was forced to use some of the money saved up for evacuating ammar to pay off the extra costs of the medicine

please, please, let's not let this happen this time. we so desperately need this money, and we badly need it before it transforms into worse costs

this is on top of the fact that ammar is getting worse. his condition is so bad that he has already needed to go to the hospital today for an iv solution, and the doctor has made it clear that ammar will need the digoxin injection and the immune globulin injection simultaneously.

unlike other times, we WILL NOT be able to stagger it out. neither of them will be able to wait.

we need this money before 4 pm gazan time - while the other costs can be delayed, $2118 needs to be raised by then or ammar will require an intensive injection that will make the total costs over $6k

i will also add an update to the post when we are informed of the costs for the iv solution

i really hope you will help with as little as $3 or $5, which really, genuinely, does build up and helps so much together with other people

$15 / $2540

vetting

adopts for donating

pwyw commissions for donating

further offers for donating

not only have we passed the final deadline, we have passed the extra time the doctor estimated we could have for the final appointment time. it is now past 12 pm and we still need $811

this means we only raised $174 for ammar's immune globulin injection at all.

he has contracted chickenpox on top of everything, and therefore that means his life is in even more the danger the longer we dawdle with boosting his immune system. with it currently so suppressed, he is in danger of dying from it - it is not just a harmless disease, i need to make this painfully clear.

now that we have reached this point, he is in extreme danger of falling into a coma and never waking up again. the doctor doesn't have any ability to predict will happen after such a point

i am begging you to help him. even $3 and $5 really does add up to make a difference. any donation, any amount, can help. but please, we need people to help.

$781 left

ammar now needs iv fluids again every two hours, each one of which costs $161 after fees. they've also put him in the intensive care unit, where he will be until 4 pm

please. the costs are going to increase exponentially. we had to pay over $1000 extra last week and use up passport money to do it.

the more we do that, the further away the possibility of ammar being able to evacuate and stop his condition worsening gets.

$743 left

samah continues to beg me for help, over and over, message after message. there's literally nothing i can do. my friends have already drained all their money helping ammar because no one else donated enough

now, because still no one donates enough, and they have run out, we are struggling to raise enough for ammar's injection - it has been 5 hours since we were told he would need iv fluids every two hours.

i really don't have anything left to say. here are samah's words, if they move you at all

[May 21, 3:00 AM] Samah: My brother, the doctor, told me he can't put Ammar in intensive care until 10 PM, but he can't do anything else for him. Ammar is very weak and can't withstand any more infections. Please, brother, ask anyone for help. I beg you! 😭😭🙏🏼 [May 21, 3:02 AM] Samah: Please, brother, don't abandon Ammar! 😭💔

we still need $568 to buy this damn injection. no one has donated in 6 hours

it has been over 17 hours since we passed the final deadline, and 15 since ammar started needing iv drips every 2 hours. that would be, if all given, 7 iv drips. at $161 each, $1127 more. including what we already had owed from the iv fluid he had needed earlier, which costed $587, that is $1714 more, all because we can't pay $900.

i don't know what i can possibly say to convince you to donate anymore. samah hasn't answered my latest messages and i don't even know if ammar is awake or in his coma now, but it's been so long i doubt he's conscious.

this is the slowest things have ever been during an active crisis for him. we have failed to give him enough for the final deadline, and passed almost 24 hours without being able to give him fucking anything.

Step 1: Add some silly rule to the task to make it more interesting and whimsical.

Step 2: Pretend Sam Reich just told you to do it.

Here are a few examples that have worked for me recently.

Samalamadingdong

from Game Changer 8x01