My thoughts on bi and pan defnitions and discourse:
[ID: A John Mulaney meme template with phrases referring to discourse about pansexuality/panromanticism and bisexuality/biromanticism. The first row image is Mulaney frowning and shouting, "No!" The text next to it reads, "Pan is attraction to all genders, while bi is attraction to 2 genders." "Pan includes attraction to cisgender and transgender people, while bi does not." "Pan is transphobic bc the definitions are 'hearts not parts' and 'attraction regardless of sex.'" "Bi is transphobic bc it doesn't include attraction to trans people." "Pan and bi mean the same thing so pan ppl should use bi." "Using pan discriminates against bi people."
The second row image is Mulaney shouting, "Yeah!" The text next to it reads, "Pan is attraction to all genders. Bi is attraction to 2 or more genders, which can mean all genders based on the person. They have similar meanings but aren't the same. Transgender people are included in both labels. 'Hearts not parts' and 'attraction regardless of sex' are outdated terms and the majority of pan ppl don't use them. It's rude to tell someone they should identify as something else bc the definitions can match up. Identifying as pan isn't discriminating against bi. Pan and bi people are siblings, not enemies." End ID]
Sincerely, a panromantic transgender person who is tired of pan and bi people turning against each other, and panphobic and biphobic people using the incorrect definitions as an excuse to fuel their hate. Queer infighting will bring us all down. The rest of the world is already fighting both of us, we shouldn't make it worse. We are siblings, not enemies, and must stand together.