Cursed

These are just some things I've been thinkin on for a while about how I experience my own gender and how it relates to crust punk. Mostly drawing on my experiences being nonbinary and having hyperhidrosis.

Any feedback welcome :)

Femininity can be described as the behavioural and performative component of the cisheteropatriarchal conception of womanhood and it is deeply tied with heterosexuality. It is the unwritten set of rules, behaviours, expectations, and others, which women, and people that are maliciously ore ignorantly misread as women, are expected to conform to in order to correctly be a woman. How we speak, how we dress, how we act, how we carry ourselves; all of these things and more are under constant scrutiny and are policed so that we are, at all times, supposed to be a woman correctly.

It's then the right of those of us who don't sit so comfortably in this stifling box to reject this femininity, and for some, womanhood entirely, and to find as many ways to rebel against it as we can. In a world where our bodies are so closely watched and where ridiculous standards are expected of us, there's relief, joy, and power in being ale to just let our bodies do what they do.

And one of the most upsetting (to cishet and class society_ things our bodies do is smell.

We're bombarded with propaganda every day telling us we need to Smell Good™ at all times in order to be socially accepted. For people cisheteropatriarchal society shoves into the box labelled "woman", it comes with even stronger expectations that we must smell perfect, like roses and lavender, at all times in order to be appealing and sexually available to men.

Hello Tumblr! 

@jubs here, today, to tell you about a feature we're building: Comments by author!

Comments (or replies) have been around for a while, but they have always been tucked away from your regular feed, and so we're working on a few ways to integrate them into the rest of our experience.

Soon, blogs will have a Comments tab alongside Posts, Likes, and Following. There, you will be able to see posts other people have been commenting on, and, more importantly, find your own comments! This was not possible before, except through notifications if someone engaged with your comment.

We're also working on a way to surface posts commented on by people you follow in your feeds. You will be able to find those in the For You tab, and later, alongside chronological posts in the Following tab.

So, how do you identify those posts in the feeds? 

Replied posts will show a small preview right there in your dashboard, before you click anything. 

@jubs again!

First of all, thank you all for the feedback in the original post!

Today, we're launching the new "Comments" tab for Blog pages, and we'll be testing a For You recommendation based on comments from people you follow. The posts will have a preview of the reply, so you know why you're seeing that post.

You will be able to control the new tab visibility, and whether we should include your comments in your follower's feeds, through a new setting:

The toggle can be found on https://www.tumblr.com/settings/blog/YOUR_BLOG or in the General Settings > Replies section, on Mobile. If you have already disabled the "Share posts you like" setting, the setting will default to disabled.

The new tab is only available on Web and iOS (44.8+) for now, but the toggle is available to everyone (including on Android), so you can control what other people see on your blogs, even if you don't have the new feature yet. Don't worry, we have plans to implement the tab and posts on Android, soon!

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We want to later include these replied posts to the Following feed as well, and we're planning on adapting the current "Include posts liked by the blogs you follow" toggle to also consider comments, in case you don't want to see shared comments from people you follow.

The reason I specified "hegemonic power", and here's where I should've expanded probably, is bc I was specifically thinking of the way men who are oppressed are denied the full share of privileges and power of the least oppressed men, and how many oppressed men deeply resent that bc they see that power as their right.

These men tend to take out that resentment on the people they can get away with harming, which tends very frequently to be women who face the same form(s) of oppression.

Some men come right out and say women in their oppressed group demanding to be treated as equals is the big barrier stopping men in that group from accessing that full power of white abled wealthy cishet etc men.

Like if they do misogyny hard enough they'll finally get that prize of having as much power over others as the least oppressed men have.

It's pathetic and contemptible, but it's not pure psychology. These men behave this way because it serves their material interests presently, and in many cases their misogyny and antifeminism are in service of fairly explicitly political goals of moving up the ladder of power.

The British army committed tons of mutilations during the massacres they committed in colonial times. Removing breasts and mutilating uteruses has been recorded before. In India, in Kenya etcetera.

It's silly to think Jack the Ripper was just some random blue-collar worker from Poland instead of a soldier who probably just came back from the Xhosa Wars, for example.

Not one true crime enthusiast wants to suggest that maybe the serial killer used to be an annihilator of an Indigenous tribe.

i really dont want to leave this city! please help me find housing in chicago!

hi im love! ive had a few strokes of bad luck and i am currently homeless! looking for sublets or roommates. pls hit me up if you have any leads on this or u know someone who needs a roommate or anything even just a couch i can crash on semi-long term would be extremely helpful

the only other option i have is moving in with my dad in south carolina. and given the state of trans-related politics this is very scary for me

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so they were trying to figure out if children use syntactic knowledge to learn new vocabulary, specifically in this case they were researching two year olds. with verbs, some are done to a person ("x hit y") and some only have a doer ("x laughed"), and they wanted to see if these different sentence structures had an effect on how toddlers learn.

they got some grad students, put one in a rabbit costume and one in a duck costume. they had the rabbit repeatedly push the duck into a crouching position using their left hand. at the same time, both the rabbit and the duck were moving their right hands in a repetitive circling motion. they had a bunch of two years olds watch this. with half of the kids, they said "the rabbit is gorping the duck!" and with the other half, they said "the rabbit and duck are gorping!" afterwards, they showed two videos at the same time to the kids, one with the rabbit pushing the duck down but no circling motion, and one with both making the circling motion but no pushing. then they said "where's gorping now? find gorping!" and the kids who had heard the first statement would consistently look towards the video of the pushing motion, while the kids who heard the second statement would consistently look towards the video of the circling motion.

When I first started learning about transfeminist theory, it demanded a lot of genuine effort to confront a lot of socially imposed biases that I'd absorbed without noticing them. It was a lot of reading, a lot of listening, a lot of learning new definitions. New names new theories. And through that process I effectively chose to be dead silent about learning because I didn't want to speak on a subject I wasn't well enough informed about yet. It was months before I started actually talking about what I'd learned.

And the fact of the matter is that it's hard. And being a whiny snotty little thin skinned bastard who doesn't listen to women is the easy way out.

it wasn't until I really started to examine the power dynamics at play between myself/other transfems and TME trans people that it became clear the "unity" I thought I was protecting never meaningfully existed, and that I was just being conflict avoidant and people pleasing