âŚokay, so, uh⌠this is a really bad take.Â
hereâs the thing. comics and d&d and computers and superheroes are cool now. but they didnât use to be that way. if youâre a zoomer, i donât think you have the cultural contextâ and if you arenât, you dodged a mighty big bullet.Â
in a lot of places, if you were â into nerd shitâ in the 90s or oughts and you were in middle/high school, you were a social pariah.
 being into nerd shit meant you were sitting at the lunch table all by yourself. it meant you didnât get to talk to the other kids, because theyâd deliberately shun you. just because you were into nerd shit. just because you liked computers better than people, or had opinions about star wars. it was true whether you were a boy or a girl, whether you were a dick or a doormat, whether you had social skills or not.Â
and this was a self-perpetuating cycle! being into Nerd Shit made you a social pariah, so you had to hang out with the other pariahs, and you got them interested in YOUR nerd shit and vice versa, and that made you even less ~cool~ in the eyes of the kids who decided what ~cool~ was. so you only hung out with nerds, and got further into nerd shit.
and guess what. being bullied is more likely to make you an asshole. because people develop terrible, terrible coping skills to deal with being bullied. it is monstrously unfair. it is one of the ways that the world sucks. but it is what it is.Â
when you try to claim that no one was bullied for being a nerd-Â
you are trying to claim that peer abuse is not real, that people who were abused by their peers must have done something to deserve it, and that anyone who says they were abused by their peers is making excuses.Â
you are being an abuse apologist.Â
i think youâre better than that. so, like, can you not?Â
(obligatory side note that these things change over time, d&d was cool for a while in the 80s and then it wasnât, ditto star wars, comicsâ relative âcoolnessâ has always fluctuated, etc. etc.) Â
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