I'd like to take a moment and acknowledge traumagenic systems with unconventional trauma. The kinds of trauma that people don't include in their recovery posts, the kinds of trauma that go unacknowledged in mental health discussions, the kinds of trauma that people don't seem to realize can cause a system just like more well-known and acknowledged traumas.
To systems who formed due to financial trauma – I am sorry that you've had to endure the results of not having enough. You have a right to be upset at society for failing you, and it's understandable if you're bitter that those you depended on couldn't care for you, whether it was their fault or not. Your hurt is real and I hope you're able to get to a place in life where you feel stable and secure in your finances and resources.
To systems who formed due to medical trauma – I am sorry the medical system has hurt and/or failed you. You have a right to be upset at medical professionals who hurt you or treatments that worked but still left you traumatized. Your hurt is real, even if it came from a place that was supposed to heal and help, and I hope you can find a place or person that will follow through on the promise to do that.
To systems who formed due to academic trauma – I am sorry that you weren't able to receive the education you wanted or needed without pain. You have a right to be upset at this failure of the education system for not protecting its students. Your hurt is real and I hope you're able to foster a healthy relationship with learning outside whatever caused you pain.
To systems who formed due to religious trauma – I am sorry that something that is meant to be fulfilling hurt you in such a way. You have a right to be upset with those who weaponized religion to hurt you or put pressure on you that you weren't ready to receive or able to approach in a healthy way just yet. Your hurt is real and I hope you're able to find your own path in life with or without the religion that hurt you.
To systems who formed due to bullying/peer abuse – I am sorry you have had to endure someone else's wrath. You have a right to be upset with those who hurt you or didn't step in and stop those hurting you. Your hurt is real and I hope you're able to find peace away from your tormentors with people who will always support you.
To systems who formed due to trauma from changes such as parents divorcing, moving, etc. – I am sorry that these things uprooted you. You have a right to be upset at these drastic changes, even bitter at those who caused them or who didn't support you during/after them. Your hurt is real and I hope one day you find the stability you need in life, with the ability to face natural change without worry or stress.
To systems who formed due to parents or guardians not being purposefully neglectful or abusive, but still falling short – I am sorry you didn't receive the support you needed. You have a right to be upset that you weren't given what you needed, even if they tried their best or met your other needs. Your hurt is real and I hope one day you find a support structure that's able to help you fully and completely.
And to systems who haven't formed because of these things but still endured these traumas, I hope you're able to find happiness and recovery, however that may look for you.
Just because these things aren't "as bad" as they could have been doesn't mean they didn't hurt you. Please give yourselves kindness where needed, and remember that your pain is/was real, no matter what caused it and no matter what others say.
