going insane

"Why don't they just visit massage parlours that offer sexual services?"

It's hard to wrap my head around that after hearing those experiences, the "solution" is to pawn off these sexually violent men onto an "acceptable" target.

If a man is aggressive and ignores the consent of a woman who is working in a professional setting with help nearby, what will he do with a woman who can't say no? Why are these women expected to be the shock absorbent for male sexual violence?

‎If society is truly just anti sex then how come women's entire existence is reduced down to being sexual objects for men?

‎How come porn and prostitution exist in this so called "anti sex" Society?  

‎Even in the conservative societies like ours, the purity culture doesn't stigmatize sex, it stigmatizes women's sexual agency so that a man can buy her body under the tag of marriage,solely for sex. All she is taught her entire life is how to sexually please her husband and somehow the "society is anti sex"

‎Coming up with such a simplistic and neutral conclusion only hides the fact that sex is defined in terms of male sadistic interests. And they end up encouraging these very sadistic interests/rape culture in the name of sex positivity, apparently to reverse this "anti sex" Society.

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“The idea that sex is composed of a series of parts that we can reconfigure at will.”

This is exactly why when we say that women are adult human females, TRAs will say things like “Oh so you’re reducing being a woman to having a vagina?”

It never occurred to me to fire back, “Why do you think that having a vagina is the only thing that makes me female?”

The female body is an intricately complex system that impacts our health and our lives every day, and the vagina is not the defining trait of the female sex but a statistically reliable indicator of it. What TRAs refuse to accept is that having a vagina means your body is supposed to have other components of the female reproductive system. This is not transphobic. This is not intersexist.

My body is both intelligent and messy and beautiful and gross and impressive. Every cell, every hormone, every muscle is why I am alive and strong. My uterus isn't there just to make babies. There are studies showing that it affects cognitive function and plays a role in memory. And my ovaries don't just make eggs. In actuality, the ovaries create hormones that impact bone density, cholesterol levels, heart health, and mood. There are things about my female body that work right, and there are things that don't work right. There are advantages I have over a typical male body, but there are also disadvantages I have compared to the male body. There is nothing about this that I have to be ashamed of.

To tell us that the female body, as a complex and holistic system, simply does not exist is how they can gaslight young girls into thinking that their bodies have not been taken advantage of by males in nearly every society since the dawn of time. It is how you squash any discussion of medical misogyny and doom millions of girls to a future of suffering with endometriosis, PCOS, and countless other disorders. It is how you convince a young girl who doesn't like her breasts because she doesn't like that boys ogle and grope them that it is because her breasts are the problem that must be removed instead of the men who raised these boys to believe that sexual access to her body without concern for her humanity was their birth right. It is how they convince a young girl that if she is poor and left to suffer by a society that does not care for her safety and well-being, that she can simply make an OnlyFans so that all men have access to her body which was never really hers to begin with, so there's no reason why this should be traumatic in the first place.

"The body as parts. People with uteruses, people with prostates, people with penises. We are all just a series of commodities, to be bought and sold, our human bodies are the enemy, our male and female forms are aberrations, mistakes that were forced on our sexless default."

So when we try to argue that being female does not make us feminine, subservient baby factories, and that we don’t have to alter our bodies in order to deserve rights and dignity, we can hardly get the words out before they’re buried in a chorus of “You’re trying to force me to have babies and wear makeup!! TERFs are conservatives! TERFs are misogynistic bioessentialists!!”

I think it’s incredibly telling that the tras in the notes and comments are so intellectually divorced from the actual meaning of their own rhetoric and ideology that they literally don’t even recognize it when it’s presented to them.

Because what OP is describing is absolutely their ideology, not verbatim but very neatly and succinctly paraphrased

But without their own snappy slogans and buzzwords they can acknowledge how absurd it sounds and ridicule it as if it were something they’ve never even heard of

Young women are encouraged to bond over their dislike of excess body hair, surplus flesh and “uneven” skin. They are meant to do so in a jovial way, egged on by perky adverts informing them what “real women” do: worry about having underarms beautiful enough for a sleeveless top, celebrate curves with apologetic booty shakes and cackle ruefully over miserable Sex-and-the-City-style lunches of Ryvita and Dulcolax. It’s a gendered ritual; men get football and booze, women get control pants and detoxes. We are supposed, of course, to be grateful. Hey, you don’t have to be perfect! Just know you’re not perfect and act accordingly, with the appropriate levels of guilt and shame!

Fairy tale after fairy tale tells us that what matters is being beautiful “on the inside” but what does that really mean? It means submission, obedience and the suppression of one’s own desires. Don’t be haughty and proud. Clean the hearth. Kiss the frog. Love the beast. Suck it up when you’re replaced by a younger model. Sure, you may look fine, but you mustn’t feel fine. You mustn’t be vain. You mustn’t be angry. All fury and pain must be turned back on itself. That way you’ll be a real princess: silent, fragile and never threatening to challenge the status quo."