Here There and Everywhere

May you be at peace.

May your heart remain open.

May you awaken to the light of your true nature.

May you be healed.

May you be a source of healing for all beings.

I have been thinking about making this post for a while and I am still not really sure about it, but I need to get this off my chest.

By now I kinda made peace with the fact that some people in this fandom still cannot see the truth and still clinge to the girlfriend thing or this poly shit or whatever head gymnastics I had to read in the last weeks.

How ANYONE can still think this is a real relationship, after all the pics from the CSAs is absolutely beyond me. But you do you.

BUT, what I actually cannot understand, especially about the girlfriend thing, is that people who still clinge to that don't realize how absolutely toxic and unhealthy such a relationship would be.

And I am actually concerned about all these young women who think that this is normal behaviour in a healthy relationship.

When I see the comments on here or other platforms who absolutely celebrate H and K and think they are the couple of the century and think K ist just an absolute baddie ( if I have to read the strongest soldier comment one more time I am gonna flip)and I see that these are often young women between 18 and 25 it actually makes me sick to my stomach.

Because this is DEFINETLY not normal behaviour in a healthy relationship.

If I imagine for one second that this relationship is actually real, than Hudson would be an absolute jerk( I don't think its real, so please do not attack me).

The way he is always so tense around her, the way he ignores her, the way he simply cannot touch her, his fake smile, no kiss,no hug when he won the award, and most of all: his behaviour with Connor.

He would be a walking red flag, if I believe for one second that he is dating K.

And before people come at me with this, maybe they don't like PDA or thats normal for a longterm relationship stuff- NO,JUST NO.

I am in my 30s and had my fair share of relationships ,good ones and also not so good ones, but never ever behaved one of my boyfriends like this. NEVER.

One of my best friends has been married to her husband for 12 years and there is still so much chemistry and affection between them. Another friend of mine does not really like PDA for many reasons, but she still is affectionate to her boyfriend, even with other people around.

If a relationship is healthy, you can SEE it.

In little gestures, little moments, the body language. But when it comes to H and K there is nothing but tension and awkwardness. So why are they ALWAYS the exception?

I mean if you have to do the wildest head gymnastics or come up with the most insane theories to justify their behaviour, then maybe it is time to change your POV.

Because if you really think that this is a real relationship than you also simply accept that H is an absolute jerk of a boyfriend.

And I personally refuse to think that a man who is so respectful to women, I still think of that one video where he watched the womans drink with hawk eyes, who speaks so highly of women, who literally has a team that is mostly women, would actually treat his girlfriend like this.

So please, all you wonderful ( young) women in this fandom: this is not normal and if you think its normal, please raise your standards. You deserve so much better and a partner who actually cares and respects you 🫂.

And you know who Hudson actually is affectionate with and who he absolutely cares for and shows all the signs of a healthy and stable relationship with? Yes, his ,imo, real partner,Connor.

So if you want to celebrate a relationship and take as an example how a relationship should be,its definetly this one.

This post is inspired by some very emotional conversations with @hollanov26 @this-daydream-is-dangerous-13 @lifelovelaughterlarry @christinaxlr8 @dayleyforlife @evileve007 and @88toujourspur12 about that topic 🫂♥️. Thank you for this.