Just getting through life with my eyes shut

One. Me.

I know it’s hot and humid, but what a wasted way to wind down the night. I’m able to hear the live musician at the bar across the cove with zero problems and have some weed and beer to keep me happy until I drag my ass inside for bed.

I mean, seriously, what is everyone else doing? Sitting in their air conditioned rooms watching TV?

This was especially disheartening to hear when the first speaker was talking about how to be your most authentic self possible in the workplace before switching to how AI can help you be more authentic. Which, if you ask me (nobody has been asking me though), defeats the entire purpose of being authentic in the workplace.

You know what I haven’t seen? Any lists or breakdowns of Sophie’s grifter rules, tips, and tricks.

So, may I present The Eye Contact Rule.

Now, I’m not one to just accept things at face value so, I did a little digging and found a Psychology Today article makes mention of Sophie’s rule:

“Everyone assumes that a liar won’t look you in the eye, but research on the nonverbal cues associated with deception suggests that a liar engages in more eye contact than a truth-teller.”

My immediate question was “Just how much eye contact is going on in conversations normally?” And luckily, I was able to find a McGill University news release about a study that looked into mutual and non mutual looks. According to the study, 88% of the conversation is spent engaging in non-mutual looking (which is where only one participant is making eye/mouth contact or where neither participant is making eye/mouth contact).

Well there you have it. Though now I’m curious how this breaks down within different countries and cultures (not today though).