So far the consensus seems to be that Awu and Zitan – had they run away together or married without any obstacles – would have led a happy, if not a particularly exciting life. Sure, knowing Awu, boredom would sooner or later set it, yet all in all Zitan is a good man. Useless in a real crisis, true, but then how many country-wide calamities would they encounter in their daily lives?
And I fully agreed with all of the above. Until this gem:
Zitan’s total inability to read the clock aside, his first instinct is to blame Awu. ‘You didn’t wait for me’ means ‘it’s not my fault, therefore it must be yours’. Which is decidedly not a good sign! If he said something like: ‘I am sorry I didn’t come, I was scared/confused/conflicted/unsure/can’t read the clock properly’, I’d have given him a pass (and a huge dollop of respect!). Because I do understand why he was hesitant to come! I really do!
But there is no sense of personal responsibility there. It’s like he’s playing at being a star-crossed lover at this point; his willful avoidance of real world issues points to just that. As does his later continued refusal to see Awu as she is (metal as f), rather than as she was in his memories/unrealistic plans. And he reacts quite passionately when she does not conform, at least during those first confrontations.
The question is: knowing this tendency, how long would it take for him to blame Awu once their ideal life far away from court stops being so ideal? When real problems set in, problems which he as royal prince may be in no way prepared to deal with? That stash of gold leaf was not that big! Sure, he’d probably try to persevere… But in that household it’s Awu who’d have to man up and deal. Which she’d do brilliantly, to be sure! But Zitan wouldn’t help.
Okay, wrapping this rant up: my problem with Zitan is not that he can’t use a sword (which he apparently can’t, since he doesn’t have one in Huizhou?) or that he’s not a superhero general (he can hardly help that one!), or that he’s the gentle artist type (which is perfectly fine!). It’s not even that he seems to hold no patriotic feelings and prefers to not get into court games. Why, I applaud the latter!
The problem is that I am wary of any person who can’t take responsibility and say out loud ‘I’m sorry, I failed’.
And yes, I do realize he admits to failure, but it’s not to Awu, but to Zilong, partly as a persuasion tactic, partly in his role as a tragic lover. That so does not count.
Damn, Zilu really is the second best male significant other in this thing, isn’t he?