Are You Afraid of Growing Older?
Not long ago, I got a message from a lady in her mid-twenties who expressed her dread of aging. She felt it's out of control and was preventing her from developing into the woman she was intended to be. She does not dismiss older ladies; in fact, she begins her letter, "I have met several beautifully elderly women and think they are lovely."
She then went on to outline some of her fears, including weight increase and the loss of identity, young looks, beauty, independence, style, and personality (particularly when it comes to becoming a mother). There are those unknown anxieties, which she puts up as "loss of God knows what." Unfortunately, this young woman's suspicions are not baseless. Many civilizations in our world are youth-oriented.
We are constantly assaulted with commercials encouraging us to seem younger, smaller, and more trendy. Our hairstyles, trends, and habits are dictated by television, publications, and music videos. Not only that, but if we are old enough to have gray hair or FINE lines round our eyes, we are led to the right solution to remove any indications of aging. Is it any surprise that many of us feel terrified? Stereotypes all around us are extremely deceptive!
We see pictures of "small elderly women" who may walk slumped over, are destitute, and are at the whim of dishonest individuals. While some photos depict males aging gracefully, others depict ladies who are just old, dry, and helpless. Hogwash! While it is true that our muscles and thoughts change with age, I think that we really improve as we become older.
So, allow me to address some of the concerns raised above. o Loss of identity. I've just now began to understand who I am. I've come into my own. I'm more self-assured than I've ever been (albeit I still have a long way to go!) . o Loss of youthful appearance In a few days, I'll turn 49. I don't want to look 25. Granted, I don't have many wrinkles (just a few very fine lines...they're staying, thank you!)
Even if you do not gain weight, you may notice a minor difference in your physique. There is definitely a health advantage to having a few pounds overweight rather than very skinny as you age. o Loss of appeal. I've discovered that my personal notion of beauty evolves throughout time. Women, in my opinion, are more appealing. There is a richness and beauty that only comes with age. o Loss of independence and individuality. I've heard many ladies claim that being older allows them freedom that we don't have while we're younger. This, I believe, is particularly true for moms. When we become moms, we assume a job that requires us to be available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
However, as our children get older, we begin to set apart time and activities for ourselves. · A loss of style. But I'm not think I know this worry, I do know that as I become older, I find more freedom to be myself without being constrained by the newest and greatest trend. We have more flexibility to explore and play with who we are and the picture we want the world to perceive now that we are more confident in ourselves. Personal style at its finest! While some people regard becoming older as a period of loss, many women see it differently.
As we age, we experience tremendous development, particularly in the emotional, spiritual, and, yes, physical realms. To make the most of your senior years, you must live your life in a bright and healthy way. Every day, make an effort to smile and laugh. Read. Eat well. Sleep soundly. And, at the very least, participate in exciting physical activity. Above all, rejoice in your life's path.