#xsfx

xsfx: fine, you’re right. whatever. just please stop arguing with me!

xntx: but don’t you want to hear the rest of my argument?

xsfx: no!

xntx:

I completely get the struggle. As an xNTx, it can be very draining to be in situations that have S or F traits, especially if they involve too much extroverting because it enhances these traits. I also get the “standing out” frustration when all you want to do is mind your own thing. I think too rigid behaviours are not something to strive for and people should try to adapt to others to a certain (limited) degree. We’re different, we don’t work the same way and we’re not interested in the same issues. Why do people have to point it out all the time, making others stand out as if it was not already obvious for that person in the first place. Let’s just get over it. 

To answer your first question in particular on “how to live in a world surrounded by F and S”:

The previous remark on trying to get a little adapted is also applicable to you. It’s okay to show a little more interest than you feel if it’s something that is really important to others.

It is also okay not to do so. If you don’t feel comfortable with yourself because you think it’s too fake, then don’t. 

Sometimes you will feel like you’re different to everyone else in a room. That’s okay. Try to internally validate yourself. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to think differently and your opinion about who you are is the only one that truly matters.

If you end up feeling lonely after these situations, try to engage in activities that validate your own preferences. 

Then try to talk to someone with whom you can relate more. It doesn’t even have to be friends from your surroundings. 

You can always message me talking about the most F and S stuff you’ve been through that day and we can talk about how different we perceive it from everyone else. 

I hope this helps. Your story with the baby pictures is so funny, especially for the way you were wording it. If you want to laugh at my own misadventures with xSFx situations in return, you can find it >here<.