#willowmancy

Looking to meet some more willo systems!

Idk i just think i'd be more motivated if i'm on this journey with other people :D

⠀Fox ; intersex , 20 yrs , UK , BST

transxenine ; transfem boy , t4t

⠀aromantic ; abrosexual , lesboy

⠀married to my wife ; linux user , nerd

⠀physically disabled and finally out of uni

my pronouns are determined by this wheel (link)

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☆ . . . boundaries „

⠀no dni, I block as I please lmao. I'm pretty tolerant in conversation but I get frustrated easily by transphobia, intersexism and ableism especially

⠀use singular pronouns on me as much as possible, I don't wanna be called y'all

⠀I will use tonetags unless told not to, because accessibility should be the standard. only use /gen /j and /silly on me please unless close

⠀our headmates are headmates unless said otherwise. divigenic headmates are called the divens

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☆ . . . tagging system „

⠀#our essays

⠀#original post

⠀#fox responds

⠀#saving for later

⠀#personal

☆ . . . other „

⠀I post art on @saltyfoxes-artist and appreciate donations made to my ko-fi greatly due to the rising cost of medication and food

⠀mixed origin / traumaendo DID system in early stages of recovery. traumagenic, divigenic and willowgenic are the main origins. not pro endo or anti endo but syscourse unaligned.

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☆ . . . named posters „

⠀Evie ; willowmancer , she/xy

⠀Ellery ; willowgenic , she/he

⠀Kit ; main guy , it/its

⠀Zen ; divigenic , it/mir

⠀Nephele ; divigenic , it/noi

⠀Connor ; other guy , it/bro

☆ . . . wed decor (flashing under cut)„

Disclaimer : This is not a guide to willowmancy, I am not at all proficient in it, just trying to make a headmate. I am also already part of a system so this may be different than for singlets who try willowmancy.

28th April 2025

I've been idly thinking about making a headmate for a while, so I dove into research about how to try. I don't know if I want the rest of the system involved or if this should be an endeavour I take alone. I have a vague idea of the headmate I want to make but I don't think I want to call them a headmate. I don't know what this journal is for, maybe my future self? maybe as evidence for something?

30th April 2025

Argued with [host] about creating a headmate. [Host] has ethical concerns and shut down the conversation after that, I don't care about [host's] opinion.

1st May 2025

I don't think [host] agrees with making a headmate when we're so busy already. I want a friend. I've been arguing with [host] about how this will help me, [host] is worried about this being for self-harm. I presented some research I've done and my reasons and [host] relented a little but at least I know [host] won't actively be stopping me.

I've got a better idea of the headmate I want to create. I've been daydreaming about them (I don't want to use pronouns in case they choose their own) in detail every night when I'm in front before we sleep.

2nd May 2025

I've made multiple picrews to help visualise them and made a profile on SP so that if they front they can use / decorate it. It's also where I've put all the picrews. I'm hoping that because we tend to split kind of easily this will work but I'm worried that the new headmate will be a split instead of a creation.

5th May 2025

Super stressed recently so I've put this on the back-burner in my mind but today I found a name I like enough for this headmate. I've also started to imagine what it'd be like talking to them, which is really helping the process I think.

6th May 2025

I've been spending all my time in front narrating what I'm doing and pretending to be this headmate in response. It's soothing. It's relaxing. I'm surprised that I'm already feeling a type of energy near me when I'm doing it, but the replies are still my own.

8th May 2025

In the shower I felt a very strong presence of energy. I positively reacted to it and acted as though I was guiding it whilst we were washing our hair.

I suddenly felt the urge to find a name for the headmate, an urge that I felt so strongly it pulled me away from anything else I tried to do. I think the headmate is becoming more independent, especially as the name "I" ended up writing in their profile isn't the vibe I would go for usually. I complimented the name all the same because I don't want to harm my headmate. Ellery.

9th May 2025

We spent a lot of time today passively working through trauma. Any energy I felt near me yesterday isn't here today.

11th May 2025

I'm going to try some grounding exercises with Ellery. They (haven't chosen pronouns) like the butter mints we like, and we're pleasantly surprised by the "spiky" taste of lucozade.

12th May 2025

"this being uses anomalies for in-progress willomates" userbox!

🌷: Have you talked to anyone offline about your created plurality/systemhood? If so, who?

Yes! I've spoken about it to my wife, and she's very accepting of Evie practicing willowmancy and Ellery, currently the only created headmate. She knows that if we are doing something dangerous or harmful we have the option to talk to her and she knows we have the dignity of risk. Overall, she's very supportive, even if she isn't aware of all the subtleties and nuances around the topic.

🪻: Why did you start creating a headmate/alter/part in the first place?