#venitng

So one of my coworkers is a trans woman, in her 40's, and I have to be her emotional support pillar all the time there. Which would be fine but it just doesn't stop. I want to be there and help her, but day after day for a couple years of just the same kind of stuff happening, it gets so draining. She got a GF months ago and for a while things were going ok, but they broke up. Essentially my coworker is not poly but her, now ex, GF is and I just knew this was going to happen. She did try to pursue other people to get into the poly spirit but it didn't work well. Last night she laid it out that she can't do poly stuff and was broken up with. and it's frustrating because no one did anything wrong here, but she's in so much pain and I don't know what to do. Her ex is a puppy girl trans woman who wants that big polycule where everyone plays games and cuddles and fucks all the time. My coworker just wants 1 person to love and be loved by. She can't emotionally handle her GF loving someone else romantically. They aren't compatible here and she gets in her own head and plays the worst case scenario and things implode. It's taxing to come into work and deal with crying and spiraling and non stop doom and gloom and any attempt at giving advice is met with being told it's impossible, nothing will help. I'm not a professional and dealing with someone's emotional issues most of the days at work really wear you the fuck down.

Then if work gets stressful on top of this then she gets angry and yells at anyone, especially me because she's just overwhelmed and frustrated. It's not fucking cool.