#uribr

Also we've gained,,, about a hundred people since the last one so!! Uribr stands for underrepresented identities being represented and I've done a ton of them!! (You can always send an ask for an identity to be in one but I can't promise I will do it immediately) Each of them is in the uribr tag on my blog!

So!! Let's just,,, get into it?

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Romance favorable/indifferent/repulsed and sex favorable/indifferent/repulsed are terms used by people to describe their feelings on romance or sex. There are also other terms like romance/sex complicated or tired.

These defining terms can be used by anyone, though they are mostly used by aros and aces.

Romance/Sex Favorable: Enjoying romance/sex for themselves and/or in media.

Romance/Sex Indifferent: Not caring about/not bothered by romance/sex for themselves and/or in media.

Romance/Sex Repulsed: Being repulsed by romance/sex for themselves and/or in media.

Romance/Sex Complicated: Fluctuate between being romance/sex repulsed/indifferent/favorable and/or experiences multiple of these simultaneously.

Romance/Sex Tired: Feelings on romance/sex fluctuate depending on how much you have been exposed to.

Sometimes these feelings can coexist. Someone might enjoy romance in media, but be repulsed for themselves, and usually that's where the term romance complicated comes in if the person decides to label their feelings on romance.

Not everyone does this, though. Some people just don't label their feelings on romance/sex, and that is completely valid.

Sometimes, I see people using the terms sex/romance positive, negative, or neutral. Even I used these terms instead of the ones above before I knew what they meant. But these are not used by the majority of the aro/ace community (to describe their feelings on romantic attraction) because they are actually political standpoints.

(These definitions are just going to be pulled straight from Google)

Sex Positive: Having or promoting an open, tolerant, or progressive attitude towards sex and sexuality.

Sex Negative: Sex negativity refers to a mind-set that sex is inherently dirty, dangerous, risky, pathological or deviant.

Sex Neutral: Not differentiated on the basis of sex.

So in more simple terms sex negative people are against any sex that is not heterosexual or "vanilla." They could also be against porn workers, strippers, etc.

Romance positive/negative/neutral aren't political terms, but they are rarely used over the terms favorable/neutral/repulsed because of the connotation with the sex political standpoints.

It's okay if you misused these terms in the past, but now you're informed on what they actually mean! Please never fully assume that a person is using the sex positive/negative/neutral terms politically until you ask, because some people still might not know that they are actually political standpoints!

Here is the lovely definition!! And in other words, here is another overall definition! (Though everyone has different experiences with this and all identities this is an overall) -

Aroflux peeps have a romantic orientation that fluctuates but stays on the aromantic spectrum, arofluid is considered different by having labels that can overlap, or can have a different label that can be the overall label for their fluctuations in romantic attractions, and both aroflux and arofluid peeps are pretty snazzy, especially when their identities overlap.

Aroflux peeps can also be categorized as someone who's romantic orientation fluctuates between experiencing 0 to lots of romantic attraction, this does not make them any less Arospec.

Another 'definition' of aroflux would be that the persons opinion or ideas of romance fluctuates between romance-repulsed, romance-neutral, romance-favourable and not knowing ones feelings on romance, which is pretty snazzy.

Though I think it might be obvious at this point, my aroflux/fluid peeps are under the aromantic umbrella, and are very important to the aromantic community.

Though it is Arospec Awareness Week, let's give some love to our aceflux peeps, who are very snazzy.

THE AMOUNT OF ATTRACTION AN AROFLUX/FLUID PERSON MAY OR MAY NOT FEEL DOES NOT INDICATE WHETHER THEY ARE FEELING ROMANCE-REPULSED, ROMANCE-NEUTRAL OR ROMANCE-FAVOURABLE IN THAT MOMENT. AMOUNTS OF ATTRACTION DO NOT DETERMINE ONES OPINIONS ON ROMANCE.

Here is the lovely aroflux flag-

(I could not find anything on an arofluid flag and I do not know if this flag is also considered arofluid so if anyone knows of one it would be great if you could message it to be or reblog this post with it)

And here is the aceflux flag-

Aroflux/fluid people are very valid, and their fluctuations in romantic attraction do not make them any less Arospec, and their voices deserve and are needed to be heard.

Let's start out with the definition! (No picture due to this being such a recently created label, but these definitions were gotten from @mid-community and their blog is pretty snazzy)

Aromid - Someone who is strictly aromantic, but not strictly asexual while still being on the asexual spectrum. (Grey, demi, etc)

Amid - Someone who is not strictly asexual or aromantic, but on both spectrums. (Grey, demi, etc)

Acemid - Someone who is strictly asexual but not strictly aromantic, while still being on the aromantic spectrum. (Grey, demi, etc)

The coiner of this term has said that this term was made for peeps that felt alienated from the a-allo labels (Aromantic, Asexual, Lesbian, Pan, etc) But feel limited by the non-sam labels (Not split-attraction, Aro, Ace, Allo, etc). Though of course, anyone who associates with these labels can use them. And anyone that does is quite snazzy.

As it is said above, all aromids, amids and acemids are aspec, part of both the Arospec, Acespec, and AroAcespec communities, underneath the AroAce umbrella.

Here is the wonderfully snazzy Aromid flag-

The acemid flag-

And the amid flag-

All of which are very snazzy, I love these flags so much.

Just as with all identities (Though mostly used by Arospecs, Aspecs and Acespecs) Mids can label themselves as (If they want) Romance/sex-favourable, Romance/sex-neutral, Romance/sex-repulsed, Opinions on romance/sex could fluctuate and/or be unknown. All of which are incredibly snazzy and completely valid.

Here is the lovely definition!! Look at how valid and snazzy that is!

Let's go ahead and start off with the fact that demiros are under the aromantic umbrella, and some demis will consider themselves grey-spec due to the fact that they can experience (some) romantic attraction, but not all consider themselves grey-spec and that's pretty snazzy of I do say so myself.

Demis, just like any other (though mostly Arospec) identity can be romance-favourable, neutral, repulsed or their feelings on romance can fluctuate or be unknown to them.

Due to the fact that demis do experience romantic attraction, they can also use an additional label (if they would like) to describe who they feel romantic attraction towards.

‼Not all Arospecs who feel romantic attraction or want a romantic relationship are pan‼

Some demis might experience attraction to the opposition gender, that does not make them any less LGBTQ+

Some demis might not want to add another label, and that is just as snazzy as wanting to add it.

Some demis might want a relationship, some may not. This fact does not make them any less Arospec or any less demi.

Here is the flag, which is pretty spectacular, love that triangle-

And!!! Let's give a bit of love to out demisexuals for a moment here, those peeps who don't experience sexual attraction until an emotional bond is formed are very snazzy! And here is their wonderful flag-

An Oriented AroAce is someone that does not experience sexual or romantic attraction, but feels a different attraction that they have chosen to label.

Oriented aroaces could choose to label their attraction specifically, (Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Pan, etc) or just label themselves as an oriented AroAce and both of those are pretty snazzy.

Oriented aroaces attraction that they are labeling is not necessarily altereous or platonic, it could be sensual, aesthetic, etc.

Just as any aspec identity, oriented aroaces could be romance/sex-favourable, romance/sex-repulsed, romance/sex-neutral, opinions on romance/sex could fluctuate or not knowing of ones opinion on romance/sex, all of which are very snazzy.

By experiencing another attraction oriented aroaces are not betraying the Aro or ace communities, they are just as important as any aspec identity and their stories and experienced need to be heard

Here is the oriented aroace flag, which is very very snazzy-

Important note!: Oriented aroaces are not strictly Aromantic Asexuals! Some could be, but that is not the case for all! Some could be cupio, fray, lith, etc.

Oriented aroaces are a part of the aspec community, and are under the aromantic, asexual, and aroace umbrella.

Alright! Let's start off with arovague then nebularomantic after, here's the definition for arovague-

Before getting any further besides noticing how incredibly snazzy this identity is, let's start with what neurodiversity is, because I definitely did not know before I researched this term.

Neurodiversity- Variation of the human brain, regarding sociability, learning, attention, mood and other mental functions. Can lead to or cause anxiety, PTSD, autism, etc.

Arovague people are totally and completely valid! The fact that their aromanticism is heavily influenced by their neurodiversity does not change the fact that they are part of the Aro community and are under the aromantic umbrella!

Arovague peeps can also be arospec, not necessarily strictly aromantic (though some are) they can also be grey, demi, lith, cupio, fray, etc.

Arovague is considered an umbrella term, covering all arospec identities that are influenced by neurodiversity (Nebularomantic, Caedromantic, etc).

Here is the wonderfully snazzy flag! Which is honestly amazing I love the way the grey stripe is so big compared to the green-

Let's go ahead and give some love to our acevague peeps this lovely arospec awareness week!

Acevague- Asexuality that is heavily influenced by neurodiversity.

Here is their flag! Which is so snazzy-

Let's go ahead and move on to a more specific term that was requested along with arovague, nebularomantic!

Here is the very very snazzy definition-

Look at that, so snazzy.

Nebularomantic is under both the Arospec and Arovague umbrellas, and they are incredibly snazzy.

They are often compared to quoiromantics, though their quoi-ness is a result of neurodiversity, which is incredibly valid and does not make them any less Arospec.

Here is their lovely flag-

Look at that, so snazzy.

Here's the definition, if unknown to you.

Now that we have that out of the way, some positivity!

CUPIOROMANTICS ARE VALID AS HECC AND DESERVE MORE REPRESENTATION! We might not be a large group of people but there are for sure enough of us to take over a small island.

Yes, cupioromantics want a relationship, yes, they do not experience romantic attraction. That's it. That's all there is too it. No. You are not allowed to question it or ask why we want a relationship since attraction isn't experienced. No. You're not allowed to question us.

There are several romance-favorable cupioromantics out there. But you know what? There are some romance-repulsed and romance-neutral ones out there too, and they, just as much as the romance-favorable Cupios, are hella valid.

Some Cupios don't have a relationship ever. You know what they are? Still Cupio.

Some Cupios do have a relationship. You know what they are? Still Cupio.

Being Cupio is what you define it to be. It might be different from how I describe my experience being Cupio is and how the person reading this might describe their experiences as a Cupio is, but it's still hella valid and cool. Being a Cupio is so cool.

And you know what? Those cupiosexuals out there? You're doing amazing, and you are just as valid as the cupioromantics.

You are the one who gets to decide what being Cupio means to you. You and only you are the person who gets to decide that.

Here's the flag, which has amazing colors-

And just a little addition, wanting a relationship doesn't make us any less aromantic. Wanting/Not Wanting a romantic relationship is completely different from experiencing/not experiencing romantic attraction

Here's the reasons for the colors on the flag, I thought that would be interesting to add-

Cupiofluxromantic: Does not experience romantic attraction and the amount of desire for a romantic relationship fluctuates

Or

Desires a romantic relationship, but amount of romantic attraction fluctuates (None to a little to a lot etc)

Or

Both, Amount of desire for a romantic relationship fluctuates and amount of romantic attraction felt fluctuates

Look at how snazzy that is! And so valid!!!

Cupiofluxromantic is a subset of cupioromantic, and under the aromantic umbrella. The fact that there amount of romantic attraction can fluctuate and/or the fact that they have desire for a romantic relationship does not make them any less Arospec and they are important members of both the cupio and aro communities.

Cupiofluxsexuals also deserve some love this Arospec awareness week, those beautiful parts of the cupiosexual and acespec communities.

Here is the cupiofluxromantic flag-

Which is pretty snazzy, I honestly love this flag so much.

Cupiofluxromantics are very snazzy, having a conflicting identity can be pretty frustrating sometimes, and it's very important that their experiences with the label and as a cupioflux are heard a listened to by the community!

ADDITION!!!! EVEN THOUGH CUPIOSPECS AND ROMANCE-FAVOURABLE AROS DO NOT OR RARELY EXPERIENCE ATTRACTION, THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE AUTOMATICALLY PAN, THAT THEY AUTOMATICALLY DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE GENDER OF THEIR POTENTIONAL ROMANTIC/SEXUAL PARTNER!!!! SOME DO AND THAT'S JUST AS SNAZZY AS THE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT!