Reasons Not To Try For Twins
Link: http://twinpossible.com/how-to-conceive-twins-for-the-locos-out-there-ha
I just read a great article about "Trying For Twins' by a mother of twins. Should the link not work, I've summarized the points below:
Reasons Not To Try For Twins
Finances: Having a baby is expensive but obviously if you have twins then in a you are funding two babies so these costs will double.
Premature: 50 to 60% of multiple births are born early. Premature babies can suffer a multitude of problems and if born too early may be beyond help (infant death) or have life long problems.
Miscarriage: Statistics show that miscarriages are higher with multiple pregnancies and 20% of twin pregnancies can lose one of the twins in the first 14 weeks (leaving just one baby).
Complications: You can risk having placental abruption/previa, pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, c-section or more.
Support System: You will need a supportive partner and family/friends as you will need their help to care for two babies.
On Board: You should never try for a baby alone, both parties should be involved in such an important decision. If you choose to try for twins then this should be a joint decision.
Getting It Over With: Some women want twins so they can have their babies all in one go and not have to go through pregnancy/trying again. It's easy for women to feel like this who have had troubles conceiving, however, the mothers of twins say they often hear from mothers of single babies saying they 'used to want twins until they had one baby'. Therefore, for a first child, one baby is going to be a handful anyway and two would be even more difficult.
However, she does say that having twins isn't impossible and it is a double blessing. She just wanted to inform people of the difficulties involved with twin pregnancies as she can't understand why anyone would want to try for twins.
She then goes on to list the points that can increase your chances of twins and they were all the same that I've read before. I also had read the above before but liked the way she related the information to her personal experience and the experience of mums she knows.
As you know twins are a fantasy of mine and I have read all this stuff before.
I've been with my man for 12 years so we have discussed twins more than one. He'd love if we had twins but his concerns are the stress if would place on my body, the finances and he worries that two at once would be very difficult to manage especially when they are both crying. However, he wouldn't be upset if we did have twins.
He is a realist and very good at keeping my feet firmly on the ground. I'd have loved babies 7.5 years ago, even though at the time I still lived at my mums and we were definitely not financial ready. Although, I'd be very pleased with twins, what I want more than anything is just a healthy baby so I won't do anything that could potentially put my body in danger. For example, I won't try to raise my BMI to 30+ and I won't take fertility drugs unless a doctor tells me I need to.
I'm just going to carry on eating healthy which is good for me and I've always loved dairy. Everyone women trying to conceive is now recommended to take folic acid and prenatal vitamins. If I saw the cassava yams then I'd try them although although I've heard that they taste awful - yuk. However, I have decided I will treat myself to a bag of cassava crisps (made from the yam) next time I am at my local supermarket.
My best friend had twins without trying for them - it was just good luck. She took folic acid as recommend. She did have the girls premature but they are gorgeous and healthy now. She does get constantly stopped in town which is something I wouldn't enjoy as I am naturally a shy person.
