i don't want to be hypocritical when i say this as a fellow white queer person, but white queer people (and every other type of marginalized white person too tbh) really need to stop with this self pittying circlejerk many of us do of pretending you're a martyr for having abused a priviledge you had/have to terrorize minorities before you realized you were a minority yourself. like ever since the ending of TADC, i'm seeing this kind of attitude be expressed everywhere online and it ain't just fucking annoying, it's also bigoted as fuck and actually harmful.
the fact you were struggling with your own identity and mental health does NOT take away from the abuse, violence, and most importantly, the OPPRESSION you perpetuated against other marginalized people, nor does it aliviate the burden and the trauma you forced on them.
do you think your oppressors don't have their own personal issues? do you think that white cis straight men that assault, murder, take away rights, and destroy marginalized people's lives don't do so, cuz stepping on someone they have structural power over meets an emotional need for them too? you are not unique in what motivates your bigotry.
as much as you may have been hurting, you are not the victim of your own nazi, incel, TERF, and whatever else, "edgy" phase. it's the women, the people of color, the queer people, the disabled people and all the other minorities around you who have been impacted by your bahavior that are. and as painful and shameful as it is, you need to reckon with that, cuz you'll never grow as a person if you keep thinking you're as much of a victim for victimizing somebody as the person you victimized. that way of thinking is literally abuser mentality.
You are not a walking ironic tragedy, you are a person with power who has hurt people. TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY!!!!
