Personally Identifying With Your Opinion:
“You exist outside of any differing opinion.”
Do you find yourself feeling negatively when faced with a disagreement?
Some people have rigid perspectives on things. They take someone disagreeing as a personal attack because their identity is dependent on whatever stance they’re holding. If someone doesn’t agree with their belief they feel as if the person is directly criticizing them. Their ego drives them to fight for whatever stance they’re holding. It’s not your job to change peoples minds all the time. Don’t be that person.
Let’s look at it in another way.
Everything exists in relativity. For one thing to be right, another has to be wrong. There are infinite ways to look at things as well. So many perspectives. Sometimes there is no right and wrong. We all exist in our own story. In your story, you might be objectively right. But in order for your stance to be right there has to be an alternative that counters it. Instead of being upset when someone disagrees, be grateful. Look at it as validation. However you should never identify with any opinion. Because your identity exists regardless. If someone disagrees with you, you’re still going to exist. You don’t die the second someone tells you you’re wrong. You exist outside of any differing opinion.
This doesn’t apply to situations where you are in the wrong either. If you are in the wrong (this goes back to identification) THAT IS OKAY. It’s okay to be wrong. Take it as a learning opportunity. Or don’t take it at all. Let’s be real, a lot of the shit people argue over does not matter. So if you are wrong, who cares!? Be mature enough to accept it and move on. The ego wants to fight and see it as a challenge when it really isn’t necessary. Why exert all that energy over something that doesn’t make a difference in the first place. Because 9/10 you can’t change peoples minds about certain things so why upset yourself by trying to. Don’t let your desire to be right cost you your peace.
It’s not that serious. There’s always going to be someone who disagrees. Here’s what I do. When I’m faced with someone who takes a simple disagreement as a fight or a stance I disagree with mentally I think this way: That is the current state they’ve chosen. It has nothing to do with me and may any negativity directed towards me be returned to the sender. May they find peace.
This doesn’t mean don’t share your opinions or have stances on worldly issues. This is just a reminder not to take it so seriously or let it affect you. Some people can’t disagree without being hostile. And some people project their personal issues onto others. As the master of your own reality, don’t let that cause you to become reactive. Don’t commit to unconscious identification just because someone else has. ✨
