i kind of give up on trying to meet people who share my disorder already (whoās surprised?) because apparently stating that people with actual cdds deserve separate safespaces & communities from willos is āinsensitive and harmful,ā even though i never actually said anything directly insulting to them. i never said that they didnāt deserve their own space at all.
āwell you should be angry that ifs exists then.. itās a bigger problem than endos!ā blawg.. everyone still has parts of self that construct a whole, i never claimed that wasnāt true.. itās an effective therapy approach, even if it is kind of frustrating that it can be misleading depending on the patientāand that a large chunk of the terminology is also used by dissociative systems. IFS can be extremely effective in helping you connect & understand those parts of self even if theyāre not literally structurally dissociated, and it still doesnāt literally aim to convince patients that they have alters. alters is a d.i.d term and you cannot say otherwise. i honestly donāt know a lot about internal family services because itās extremely difficult to find specialists in, but regardless of whether IFS utilizes similar terminology and if i can agree on whether or not thatās equally as problematic, my literal entire point was that i wish it were easier to filter through āother plural contentā for d.i.d content specificallyānot that youāre going to hell or something for posting it.
it isnāt the existence of the content that bothers me, itās not my business; itās the fact that i canāt filter it even when i really try. itās clearly not something thatās going to change, but iām still allowed to be frustrated that itās been a persistent issue in my personal experience..?
blocking radqueer tags isnāt always the solution to the problem either, unfortunately, and everyone in my replies who said the problem ādidnāt existā wereāsurprise surpriseānot cdd patients. iām so sick of people taking literally everything as a personal attack when iām speaking about a specific event that happened to me. like iām not talking about you if you have basic respect for d.i.d patients, so donāt reply? youāre not who i was addressing, then, and iām not sure why you feel targeted by my diary post.
just like youāre allowed to be upset with āantisā in your spacesāwhich iāll add, literally just do your own thing in your own space whilst having consideration for everyone else and that is completely valid to meāweāre allowed to be personally frustrated that youāve taken it upon yourselves to say that you should be included in communities that are intended to address dissociative plurality. itās definitely not like there arenāt thousands upon thousands of posts on here from d.i.d patients expressing their frustration with the blend between our spaces or anything.
āsystem was used before the 90s and the term doesnāt belong to you guys either!ā okay, thatās valid. thatās not even the problem. itās just easier to find people who relate to you in separate communities that donāt use the exact same terminology as one another, donāt you think? iām gonna say it again. itās a personal frustration. the entire point was that separate communities would benefit all parties. separate doesnāt mean you guys donāt deserve one at all? it doesnāt mean you donāt deserve the respect that you give others?
like, rebecca iām sorry that i came out of dormancy after a jillion years and im not woke enough to discourse with you, iām VENTING!!