#sugaringtips

Set boundaries from day one. Never text back within an hour. Do not text back right away. Answer their texts within 24 hours but never right away. Take a long time to reply.

From the start, let them know that in your personal life, you have an 8-hour work day, you need time to eat, time to shower and use the bathroom, time to talk to your family over the phone. Let them know that after all your necessary day-to-day tasks are done, that’s when you notice and respond to texts.

How much should you spend? Did he give you a limit? Did he say what it’s for? First off, follow his directions if you want to see his card again. Avoid going crazy spending unusual amounts of money. You don’t want him to decide to never give you his card again, but you also don’t want to be cheap, shy, or miserly with the things you purchase.

Set the expectation low the first time(s) by pinching his pennies and that will be the range of money you lock yourself in. Going below the usual quality you spend on for yourself is not good for you in the end. He’s giving you the card to at least fulfill what you provide yourself, or ideally surpass with better.

Everything that shines ain’t always going to be gold.

Turns out my vanilla boyfriend has big trust issues because of his gold digger ex-gf.

The worst is that I had to learn about it from others telling me ‘how much different, better and a good girl’ I am compared to his ex.

They were together for 4 years. She was going out every weekend with a new brand outfit and purse, he got her a range rover evoque for her bday, he used to give her a weekly allowance, she was living with him and didn’t work nor study... meanwhile she was cheating on him all along.

He’s not spoiling me to that level AT ALL... He pays for every single date and gets offended when I try to pay something small with my own money (i.e. 5€ on energy drinks)But he never gets me things like that nor cash to help me out.

He always tells me how I am so different from the other girls, that he loves me and loves how authentic and white-hearted I am. He wants us to openly state we are dating but I told him to wait. I also noticed he feels threatened of other men approaching or even talking to me.

I’ve confronted him about not being attentive/thoughtful with me, making me feel as if I am worthless.

He reacted saying that I don’t know him yet, that he’s the most attentive man in the world but that I met him on a ‘strange phase’ of his life.

Then 2 days later his ex-gf called him in the middle of the night to ask him for cash. 😶 Nothing big, just 2k.

I’m going to have to work hard to gain his trust, we’ve only been dating for 2.5months. I’m ready to invest a bit more of time and see where this goes. But no more than 6 months tho.

I’m in Dallas ladies! Wanna go freestyling & catch a whale!🐳

I NEED some places to freestyle. So far I have:

— Ritz Carlton

— Abacus

— The Mansion Bar

— Nick & Sam’s

— Hotel ZaZa

It’s not worth my time to try and get the most out of a man when he can’t afford to give all that much. Find out his income early on so that I don’t waste anyone’s time.

When dealing with potential suitors, you have to make your needs known earlier on in the courtship. Maybe not on the first date but by the second date, let it be known.

I’ve realized that my ability to judge a man’s character and intentions VERY early on has helped me save a lot of time and energy with men that can’t afford to spend or are incompatible in terms of personality (except for Nigerian Daddy but I was green then. In retrospect, he was the one that finessed me. But you gotta go through sht like that to learn).

Playing the long game with potentials doesn’t always get you what you want. The longer you hold out, the higher the chances you’ll walk away with nothing. You have to be ready to accept your losses if you make that gamble.

Men don’t want to feel like they’re being used. You have to actually date “generous men” to keep the financial support coming in.

Now, the above rule is not a hard and fast rule that applies to everyone. The more conventionally attractive you are, the less work you have to do (all a blonde 24 year old bombshell has to do is sneeze and these men go dumb).

Of course, never offer physical intimacy until you’ve been gifted.

Some men will only buy you gifts to impress you. But men who *consistently* pay you and consistently buy you gifts, do so in order to *keep* you.

Here’s how I analyze this: men who can afford to and are comfortable with paying you, will do it so they don’t lose you.

Men who only buy you a one off gift are just doing it to impress you in hopes that they will sleep with you. They don’t care if they lose you or they can’t afford you (or both).

But I think it’s really worth mentioning that regardless of who you’re dealing with (a generous guy or not), you really won’t know what they’re willing to provide unless you actually *ask*…

I must remember that last part!