30 Level Up Lessons I Learned
1. Be mindful of the length of your fingernails. I know I mentioned long nails fit my nails better, but your nails should not be kissing your palms and poking everything and everybody. Keep your nails trimmed to a manageable length if yours grow like weeds.
2. Youâll gain âthe stareâ. When I was at a steakhouse, I looked at this man I knew didnât respect this 20-something girlâs worth. He looked through my soul because I knew what they were doing and he was being extremely cheap with her making her eat at the bar when she wanted a table. The Stare makes cheap men feel uncomfortable and angry.
3. Youâll learn what mannerisms youâll need for the âjobâ. Practice your tools at home so trial and error doesnât nab you in behind. Your tiny purse goes in both of your hands when youâre worried instead of rubbing your temples like a man.
Bursting into tears in trivial situations will have an unintended effect like a man putting his wallet back and pulling his phone out for you to call home or a friend.
4. Itâs acceptable to be neutral in your attitude. Being all smiles can get you taken advantage of and hurt.
5. Thereâs ALWAYS bigger fish out there. Donât compromise on exercising, dieting or practicing your makeup. A lazy eyeshadow can bar you from having your brunch covered. Clothes fitting you weirdly will cause a man to choose another woman to surprise with a fulfilled bill. Be the biggest and best around. Donât SLACK on your appearance!
6. Donât be too fast to correct him. If I wouldâve been quick to correct, I wouldâve spent a lot of money on surprise expenses because I emasculated him.
7. On the way, youâll learn how to tailor your femininity around women. Iâve mentioned before my feminine demeanor unravels around older (albeit miserable) women.
8. Find smaller targets to practice on. Small doesnât equal bad or youâre unattractive. Itâs as exciting to have your milkshake covered as it is your shopping trip! Hint: Invest in a signature makeup look whenever your intention is shopping. There ARE men out there who look for pretty women to pay for.
9. Appear 2-3 years older than you are when youâve just entered adulthood. It makes you appear mature and like you know what you want. Donât look at yourself as a juvenile or confused girl.
10. Itâs not your job to make others comfortable with your appearance. Donât leave the house looking homely because you donât want to intimidate people.
11. You can look expensive for cheap. Beauty supply beauty can look expensive with lots of alterations. Most of the products arenât bad, just underrated. Iâm not going to pad it, youâll need a palette mixer and a very good moisturizer to make these shades look good because they are BASIC. Iâd allocate a part of my budget and a day or 2 for beauty supply shopping. Youâll find so many gems.
12. Itâs not his business how affordable your makeup or outfit was. Your NYX is Nars and your beauty supply makeup is Mac.
13. Average is boring. Average is predictable and shows a lack of preparation. Average means youâre complacent with yourself.
14. Youâll know how to respond to time wasters. I blocked a guy for texting me too early about himself.
15. Learning how to be delicate is difficult. This was a huge issue for me coming from a masculine background when being delicate meant weakness and sacrificing something.
16. Snatch your body before itâs developed into maturity. For most of my followers, your body is most likely changing before your eyes. Not having an exercise regimen can make or break your transformation. Literally, donât allow your new hips to give away youâre unhealthy.
17. Your real name is not your name in public. I would not use a variant of my name either. Your phone name is your alter egoâs name. Heâs not your doctor, roommate, friend or parent. Learn how to not acknowledge someone who recognizes you.
18. Youâre whoever you want to be in your element. A socialite, glamorous beauty, girly girl, goth princess, etc. who wears all of the hats in her style.
19. You HAVE to find the standards of a higher class appearance so you wonât be overlooked. What may look appear wealthy in your community may make you invisible in higher end communities. Iâve felt so invisible in affluent areas due to this. The higher class look will equate to more success for you in your own community because men whoâll cover you respect that.
20. Ignore bitter girls. If theyâre being aggressive to you in public, find a way to get out of their way as soon as possible.
21. Focus on getting 1 hairstyle right if others look messy on you. 1 is better than nothing or until you get the others right.
22. Wearing wigs doesnât mean your own hair texture is undesirable. A year into my journey was when I bought my 1st lace front wig. I struggled with telling myself that a wig is a protective style and not a measure of self-hatred.
23. Learn at your pace. Iâm grateful I stopped myself before I tried free-styling. The glitz and glam is a lot of fun, until youâre still at square 1 acting the same way you did, only dressed up.
24. Your experience improves with age. I have to educate myself about expensive living and work 3 times as hard to be taken seriously.
25. Etiquette is as important as your appearance. You can look like a luxury queen, and exude being his buddy when you burp without saying anything or scratch your back.
26. Invoke your fantasy aura at all times. Youâre not an average woman. Men look for you through matchmakers, spiritual guides and wishes.
27. Your low self esteem can be your demise. Itâs not quirky to go out and accept anything thrown at you. Your esteem dictates your outfits, attitude, lifestyle and mindset.
28. Youâll unfollow a lot of your influences becoming more feminine. Youâll discover how your influences feel about you in their music, when theyâre angry or under pressure.
29. Resting is very important. Going to bed before midnight doesnât mean you have no social life, itâs your safety net for your life and mind.
30. Youâre saving your life. Youâre saving yourself from what your family suffered and what you wouldâve suffered. Remember to appreciate all youâve done.
