#standpoint

In her interview with Katie, she doesn't mention Velvette. : 

"Well, as you know, Vox paid a visit to our hotel recently, yes, and he lied about everything that--"

Even though Velvette clearly played as much of a role in the tape as Vox did, Charlie singles him out specifically. Throuhgout the rest of the interview, it's "He". She's, as Vaggie points out, hyperfixating on what he's saying about her - him specifically, despite all of VoxTek being involved in this. Charlie's specifically mad at him.

She then, as soon as she gets Sera, Emily, Abel and Lute's attention, decides to do the totally not stupid thing of dragging them to Vox's rally to apologize, to "Show them all he's a liar". She continues to hyper-fixate on Vox specifically and trying to prove him wrong about things, him specifically. At this point it's turned into a grudge.

"Vaggie: Because you aren't listening to me. You're hyper-fixating on what he's saying about you.

Charlie: Because he's hurting the hotel, he is ruining—

Vaggie: Charlie! You are hurting the hotel! I know it sucks what Vox is doing, but you're playing his game."

Basically Vaggie says what I've been s saying. And of course this scene could just as easily take place between Vox and Val. This is of course exactly the problem between the Vees - Vox isn't listening to his partners and hyper-fixating on what Alastor is saying about him. And it causes him to push his friends away just as Charlie does hers.

And in the finale, when Vox taunts her, it makes her cry. Adam said shitty things about her all the time in season 1 and she never broke into tears over it. It comes across like Charlie is specifically upset about the fact that Vox doesn't like her. As people have pointed out, it's a general problem both characters have, that of needing everyone to like them regardless. But still, Vox is fixated on Alastor's approval because he rejected his affection in the past, which isn't the case of Vox and Charlie. So why the parallel hyper fixation?

I think the issue is that Vox actually challenges her. And he brings up points she doesn't know how to counter in 2x03. He points out she has no proof, and she can't argue with that. He points out she doesn't know how redemption works and roasts her attempts to do it with Angel, including some of her definitely ridiculous ideas ("give a hobo a dime" seriously Charlie WTF!?). He points out her "self-sacrifice" set up for Angel doesn't actually pose a risk and forces her to try it for real. He points out she doesn't know how to redeem someone for being a "murderer". All of these are genuinely good points, despite coming from a villain. And Charlie can't counter them.

Her one moment of victory over him is when eh asks if she thinks he can be redeemed and she says 'anyone can be'. But otherwise, the problem is that while he fabricates shit on the air, he also points out all of her real mistakes. Vox forces Charlie to confront her own flaws in a way that Velvette or Adam do not, or anyone else really. Adam didn't hit on Charlie's real flaws, he just ran his mouth off so he was easy to ignore.

So if Charlie can prove Vox wrong, she won't have to actually think about all the good criticisms he brought up. He does something similar with the Angels in 2x05, where he brings up real criticisms about what they've done. "Apologizing for genocide with gift baskets" is not that different from what Charlie thinks, she even green lights this project. Just as she thinks "giving a hobo a dime" is somehow the path to redemption. And Vox, though of course he's doing it for selfish and not righteous reasons, calls the angels out on this, and by proxy Charlie.

I think this is why Charlie is so fixated on proving Vox wrong, him specifically. If she can prove he's a liar and a monster and write him off as just some stupid villain who doesn't know what he's talking about, she doesn't have to think about any of the valid points he brought up about her. She's really sensitive to criticism, has trouble taking it even from her girlfriend. Vox gets upset about Alastor's (often hollow) criticisms in a similar way because he can't counter them no matter what he does.

Both characters are stuck in a place where they don't want to ever have to deal with being wrong. Now, by the season 2 finale both of them are at least able to do that with their nearest and dearest (Charlie apologizes to Vaggie in 2x06 and gives up her position, Vox admits 'Maybe I went too far' to Val and Vel and has now lost his position). But interestingly, neither has yet to deal with the genuinely valid criticisms their nemeses brought up.

Vox obviously can't deal with Alastor's criticisms. But Charlie hasn't really addressed any of Vox's points either. She hasn't figured out how redemption works or really made it up to Angel for what she did. I think an interesting question going forward is: will Charlie just write Vox off as some asshole whose points she doesn't need to listen to, or will she actually take the time to acknowledge and address them?