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In the midst of all the giggling, tripping and joyous jollification of a wedding, there was a 15 years old boy. Waiting on tables, cleaning up the mess and serving refreshments across the wedding hall, so that he could accumulate some cash which was enough to cover his government school fees and daily expenses. A boy with single parent, younger brother and over the hill grandparents living in a tin shed impoverished house, struggling for basic amenities.

Does that sounds over the top melodramatic and monotonous plot of every 80’s-90’s movies?

This may sound over-exaggerated, over-emotional and over-dramatic story but this anecdote here is not to gain sympathy. Let us leave that up to the reader what they pick from this read, after all “YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE”.

Can we imagine the companionship and neighborhood of this boy? A teenage boy in a stewards group who could have easily trapped in the toxic and diabolical habits, chose to invest all his spirit and endeavors in just to live his dream of having a better life.

He had a choice to blame his fate and weep over given life. He had a choice to get involve in venomous and destructive habits and crib it all about that he didn’t have enough resources to get out of this forced hardships. Well, despite how filmy it sounds but truly this one of the best friends of mine is an epitome of patience, courage and hard work which in turn proved that you always have a choice. He chose to step out of the misery and worked hard enough for self. Earned the designation and position much as same to people who were born with a silver and gold spoon. Isn’t it inspiring? Inspiring enough to at least be thankful for what we have got.

You always have an option to dig out a way to get yourself a better life. Or the least that we can do is to keep our conscience alive and awake enough to see the alternate roads to better life instead of crying over the fate rendered upon us. 

Remember “YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE”

“Believe in her potential, she is capable enough to keep herself HAPPY!”

Does that title sounds cliché? Or a usual monotonous, motivational, awakening thought which is just read casually without realizing it’s profound meaning?

Importance of having one’s belief on you is taken very apathetically by most of us beings, until we pay a huge wrecking cost for its absence. Nope, this article is neither for relationship advices nor to preach some platitude.

While sipping a cup of coffee in the balcony, leering out clouds, rain and skyscrapers, was mind-struck by a question that what is it that can make one happy? Definitely it’s not deep pockets. There are innumerable factors which can be the cause of contentments. But, the biggest one is the belief of yourself on you. The belief that you are self sufficient to make yourself happy.

Why do humans are taught and spoon fed that their happiness entity is dependence of other beings? If that would have been the case we would have been born along with that other being or would die along with that being. But no, we are born as an individuals. You are born self-reliant and the only thing that needs to be done is harness the power of belief in oneself. Woefully we live in the emotionally driven irrational hypocrite society where your independency is questioned and challenged because of absence of society stamped dependent human.

Was this society present with her in her childhood when she escaped, handled and fought emotional trauma of child abuse? Or when she struggled for her place in corporate world? Or when she was agonizing in sadistic marriage? Apparently not, she was capable enough to conduct herself ingeniously then and so is accomplished enough to cater herself hereafter.

To ease out from this preposterous fraternity, one must believe in themselves. Your loved ones must believe in you that you are self sustainable and your own belief in yourself that you are complete as a whole.

Therefore, a requisition to all,

“Let her breathe & bloom independently, let her think independently, let her process independently, let her shine bright independently,

Believe in her potential, that’s all it will take to make her Happy!”

Someone close to my heart and mind brought this to my attention in a very effective way that when we are born, we play a role first as a daughter, sister, friend, girlfriend, wife, mother and sooo on. It’s a role. It’s just a role!

Societal pressure says you are incomplete if you skip a role. If you skip a role of a wife and a mother and soo on then you are incomplete.. you are complete as a person as a whole. It’s just a role..! A relation cannot define kinda a person you are. You play that character, learn from it. Either you turn out to be a pathetic actor or you play it with utter grace. And when the time comes, you simply take a bow and move ahead to experience another role.

It’s high time now when some tech genius should come up with an app which records the monologues, debates and speeches you deliver in your head.

I’ll leave this here to sink in :P

PS: Applicable to boys too, again take a hint :P